Un ingrediente principal para tener las cosas que quiere en el vida

Yo he estado analizando mi vida y observando la vida de los demás y cuestionando por qué será que algunas personas tienen ciertas cosas mientras otras personas que realmente desean lo mismo no las tienen. ¿Será por qué ciertas personas son merecedores y otras personas no? ¿Será que ciertas personas están destinadas a ciertas cosas mientras otras no? Me niego a creer que algo que realmente usted desea no sea destinada para usted porque creo que si ese deseo fue colocado en su corazón es porque Dios o el universo o cómo sea que usted quiera llamar ese poder más grande que existe lo ha colocado ahí a usted y eso que desea ya es de usted.

Ultimamente he estado leyendo sobre cómo encontrar su alma gemela porque es un tema que me interesa en este momento y una de las cosas que los autores dicen es que tiene que establecer la intención. ¿Establecer la intención? Esto me llamó la atención y me encontré pensando en esta frase y llegué a la conclusión que esto aplica no sólo cuando se trata de encontrar su alma gemela sino también a todos los demás.

Un ejemplo de establecer la intención cuando se trata de encontrar su alma gemela es de hacer una declaración de que en realidad va a encontrar su alma gemela y usted hace espacio para el amor. Usted actua como si ya tuviera su alma gemela en su vida. Por ejemplo, usted compra una cama para dos personas dormir en él. He notado que cuando un hombre está listo para formar un hogar y casarse, el hombre comienza a comprar un hogar o almenos está ahorrando para comprar un hogar para tener algo que ofrecer a su futura esposa. En su mente, ya tiene a la esposa que busca.

Si el perder peso es su meta, por ejemplo, usted primero establece la intención y se imagina el cuerpo que quiere. Usted comienza a vivir y a comer de la manera que una persona con ese cuerpo lo haría. Usted tiene la disciplina que se requiere para alcanzar su meta. No es suficiente el querer ese cuerpo, usted tiene que hacer lo que se requiere. Usted establece la intención.

Si el comenzar su propio negocio es su meta, el querer comenzar un negocio es fácil pero no suficiente. ¿A quien no le gustaría tener su propio negocio? ¡Usted primero tiene que establecer la intención! Usted logra esto sabiendo que toma trabajo y haciendo lo que se requiere. Usted ya tiene su negocio en la mente y toma las medidas necesarias para hacer lo que usted tiene en mente una realidad.

Awwww, establecer la intención. No lo pude evitar el darme cuenta que tan cierto es esto cuando se trata del amor pero también para todas las demás cosas en la vida. Almenos que usted establezca la intención y haga lo que se tiene que hacer, usted no logra nada.

¿Qué es lo que el establecer la intención tiene que ver con el bienestar? Esto tiene todo que ver con el bienestar porque un aspecto muy importante de su bienestar es cómo usted se siente de su vida y ese sentir de que usted logró cosas en su vida. ¿A quien no le gustaría gozar de buena salud? ¿A quien no le gustaría tener crecimiento financiero? ¿A quien no le gustaría ser todo lo que fue diseñado a ser? Sin embargo, para poder estar satisfecho en cada área de su vida, usted tiene que establecer la intención por las cosas que usted quiere en la vida. Usted tiene que establecer la intención con el amor, usted tiene que establecer la intención de comer bien y hacer ejercícios, usted tiene que establecer la intención de arreglar su situación financiera, etc.

Para su bienestar, cualquier cosa que usted quiera lograr, usted tiene que comenzar por establecer la intención, tener en claro lo que usted quiere y se sorprenderá de los cambios que usted va a ver en su vida.

One Main Ingredient To Having The Things You Want In Life

I have been analyzing my life and observing other people’s lives and questioning why is it that other people have certain things while others who deeply desire the same thing don’t have those things they want. Is it that certain people are more deserving of it than others? Could it be that certain people are destined for certain things while others are not? I refuse to believe that something that you deeply desire is not meant for you because I believe if it was placed in your heart it’s because God or the Universe or whatever your higher being is placed it there for you and it’s already yours.

I have been reading lately on how to find your soulmate because it’s a topic that interests me at the moment and one of the things that many authors say is that you have to set the intention. Set the intention? Now this caught my eye and I found myself pondering on this statement and I came to the conclusion that this not only applies to finding your soulmate, this also applies to everything else as well.

An example of setting the intention to find your soulmate is by declaring that you will meet your soulmate and making room in your life for love. You act as if you already have that soulmate in your life. For example, you buy a bed that two people can sleep on. I’ve noticed that when men are ready to settle down and marry, they are already buying a home or at least saving up to buy a home in order to have something to offer their future wife. In their mind they already have that wife they are searching for.

If losing weight is your goal, for example, you are going to first set the intention and imagine the body you want. You start to live and eat the way someone with that body would. You will have the discipline that it takes to reach your goal. It’s not enough wanting that body, you have to do what it takes. You set the intention.

If starting a business is your goal, the wanting to start a business is easy but it is not enough. Who doesn’t want to have their own business?! You have to first set the intention! You do that by knowing that it takes work and doing the work that it takes. You already have your business in mind and you take the steps necessary in order to make what you have in your mind come true.

Awww, setting the intention. I couldn’t help but realize how true this is for love but also for everything else in life. Unless you set that intention and get right to it, you won’t accomplish anything.

What does setting the intention have to do with well-being? It has all to do with well-being because a very important aspect to your well-being is how you feel about your life and feeling a sense of achievement that you have accomplished things in life.  Who doesn’t want to enjoy good health? Who doesn’t want to grow financially? Who doesn’t want to be all that they are meant to be?! However, to be able to feel satisfied in all areas of your life, you have to set the intention for what you want in life. You have to set the intention for love, you have to set the intention that you will eat right and exercise, you have to set the intention to get your finances straight, etc.

For your well-being, anything that you set out to do, first start by setting the intention, be clear about what you want and you will be surprised at the changes you might start seeing in your life.

 

La importancia del auto-cuidado

Es hermoso dar y hacer cosas para los demás. Yo creo que el estar de servicio para los demás es una de las bellezas de la vida. Sin embargo, como dice el refrán italiano “mucho es igual a menos” y cuando uno da mucho de uno mismo a los demás, la caída más grande a causa de esto es que en el proceso usted mismo se puede descuidar.

En la vida, para usted poder preservar su cordura mental y emocional es importante que usted se esfuerze para mantener el equilibrio. Parte del equilibrio viene del cuidado apropiado que usted se da a usted mismo. Con esto dicho, qué es el auto-cuidado? El auto-cuidado es la medida que usted toma para asegurar su bienestar. Esto quiere decir el mantener su estado mental en control, el mantener su estado emocional en control y su estado físico en control. Usted hace lo mejor posible por estar atento y tener presente en donde usted está en la vida. Usted trata de hacer algo todos los días que le da alegría. Usted siempre está cultivando relaciones saludables. Usted hace lo mejor posible para alimentar su cuerpo con comida saludable. Y es muy importante que usted entienda quien usted es, cuales son sus necesidades y lo que usted quiere y sus límites.

Quisiera aclarar que el auto-cuidado no quiere decir que usted nunca va a estar dispuesto sinceramente para los demás y que usted sólo piensa en usted mismo. No. Yo creo que el sólo pensar en usted mismo es superficial y lo deja sintiendo vacio porque parte de la vida es el estar presente para los demás, amar los demás y el compartir con los demás. Hay un gozo en construir relaciones saludables con los demás. Sin embargo, el truco es que cuando usted está ahí para los demás usted trata de no perderse ni descuidar de usted mismo en ese proceso. La mejor manera para evitar eso es con el auto-cuidado.

Lo reto a comenzar a implementar maneras en las cuales usted puede comenzar a cuidar de usted mismo. Esto sólo va añadir más salud y bienestar  a su vida.

The Importance of Self-Care

It’s beautiful to give and do things for others. I believe that being in service for other people is one of the beauties of life. However, like the Italian saying goes “Too much is the same as too little” and when you give too much of yourself to others, the biggest downfall to this is that you can, in the process, neglect yourself.

In life, in order for you to preserve your mental and emotional sanity, it is important to strive for balance. Part of that balance comes with proper care of yourself. With this said, what is self-care? Self-care is the measures you take in order to ensure your well-being. This means you keep your mental state in check, your emotional state in check and your physical being in check. You do your best to be aware and mindful of where you are in life. You try to do something everyday that brings joy to you. You are always cultivating healthy relationships. You do your best to nourish your body with healthy foods. And very important is that you understand who you are, what your needs and wants are and your boundaries.

I would like to clarify that self-care doesn’t mean that you are never truly there for others and that you only think about yourself. No. I think that only thinking about yourself is shallow and it leaves you feeling empty because part of life is being there for others, loving others and sharing with others. There is a joy in building healthy relationships with others. The trick, though, to when you are there for others is not losing nor neglecting yourself in the process. The best way to avoid this is through self-care.

I challenge you to start implementing ways that you can start taking care of yourself. This will only add more health and well-being into your life.

One of Your Best Assets Is Having And Cultivating Patience

We live in a society that unfortunately feeds us the idea of having everything fast and easy, comfortable and with not much work, where everything needs to be now. And what has this done to us? This has made us into people who feel that we need everything NOW. We have lost patience for things and when things are not as fast as they “need” to be, we just give up and move on to the next thing hoping it will be quick enough. One of the best assets you can have that will benefit tremendously your mental, emotional and physical well-being is having and practicing patience.

I don’t know about you but when I start to lose patience, I can feel how my body starts to change.  I start to feel hot and I sweat a bit, I feel irritable, I can feel my body getting tense and I can’t think straight. It takes me a while to go from that state to a calm, peaceful state. If you ask me, I think it’s not worth it to feel that way.

When you practice patience, you come from a different place. When you have patience, your composure is different, your mind is clear and you are not coming from a “reacting” place. When you lose patience, you react and that reacting is not a very good one. When you are impatient, you react by giving up or getting loud or getting angry and this takes you nowhere. Plus, your energy changes and you reflect who you are and how you feel whether you realize it or not.

Anything great or worthy in life requires patience. Whether it be a relationship that you are in or a business you are trying to build or even waiting in line to be served. Even though we live in this society that wants to feed us this idea of having things fast and the easy way, in reality, the fast and easy things come with a very costly price. One perfect example of this is those who are very impatient to lose weight and rather than losing weight the healthy way, the way we were designed to lose weight, they decide to do surgery instead, for example. Unfortunately for some, the price of doing this has been costly. There have been people who either got an infection as a result of the surgery or even died. Now, to each their own and I respect anyone who decides to do cosmetic surgery because to me that takes courage but when you resort to this because you are impatient to lose the weight, you miss out on all the wealth of knowledge you can be gaining by losing weight the natural way. If you are trying to build a business and become impatient, you can miss out on so much that you can be gaining in the process of trying to make it big in your business. There is a saying that I learned back when I was in high school and I never forgot it and it was “It’s not the getting there, it’s the getting there” and this I believe applies to everything in life. It’s not just the getting to the destination that’s important, which in business is making a lot of money for many, it’s also all that you learn along the way that matters just as much or more!

There are many ways that we can practice patience and I think a number one fact is our mind. Your mindset plays a big role in everything you do. Start by realizing that great things take time. Great things don’t come so quickly and that’s ok. That gives you time to sink in all the things that are happening and you give yourself the chance to learn along the way. If what makes you impatient is waiting in line, my suggestions are two things. One, allow enough time in between the waiting in line and the next activity that you have to do. This way you don’t feel the pressure that you are waiting too much on line to be served because you have another place to go to. Also, if just the fact of waiting on line is just too much for you, believe it or not, that time that you are waiting in line can still be a productive time. I love to read and so I am always carrying a book with me. Perhaps that’s a time that you can take to read something you have been meaning to read, for example. There are many more ways that you can practice patience, it’s a matter of being creative.

There are many assets that we can have that would add more well-being into our life and one of the top ones is patience. It is my desire for you to live a life that is great and healthy and one way to achieve that is by striving to have that balance in all areas of your life. Patience is one of those assets that many neglect but so essential to our mental, emotional and physical well-being. Life can sometimes be very difficult and that’s when practicing patience will be very handy for your mental and emotional sanity.

 

 

Cómo lidiar con momentos en los cuales sentimos un poco de frustración

Todos nosotros tenemos momentos en donde nos sentimos frustrados. Todos nosotros. Nadie es inmune a esto. Como seres humanos es sólo normal el sentirse asi a veces. Hasta yo me siento asi a veces. La clave de cuando nos sentimos asi es el saber cómo manejar esta emoción. Note como no dije “controlar esta emoción”. Para mí, el decir “controlar esta emoción” es como si hubiera algo de malo con el sentirse de esta manera. No es el sentirse de esta manera que es malo, es nuestra reacción por causa de este sentir que lo hace malo, o sea, si uno le hace daño a los demás o a uno mismo, eso está mal.

Yo creo que cada emoción esiste por una razón. Nosotros no sentimos estas emociones sólo por sentirlas. Asi como un termómetro es la herramienta para medir la temperatura de nuestra cuerpo, nuestras emociones pueden ser una herramienta para medir a donde estamos espiritualmente y con la vida. Con esto dicho, el sentirse frustrado no tiene que ser algo malo. Esto puede trabajar a su favor como una manera para comenzar a averiguar algo que quizás ha negado por un tiempo y que se está manifestando por medio de la frustración.

Es importante saber que parte del bienestar es saber cómo usted maneja sus emociones. El manejo apropiado de sus emociones es la clave para añadir más bienestar a su vida. Cuando tenga un momento en donde usted no puede estar frustrado o mostrar su frustración, comience por respirar profundo. Esto ayuda el sistema parasimpático lo cual ayuda al cuerpo a calmarse después de un evento estresante. El respirar profundo también le da más oxígeno al cerebro lo cual ayuda a relajar la mente.

Recuérdese que lo que le causó esa frustración no es nada en comparación a otras cosas. Hay momentos cuando nosotros hagamos ciertas cosas que nos pueden frustrar más grande de lo que son. Es importante tratar de poner las cosas en perspectiva y de darse cuenta que muchas veces las cosas que nos frustran no valen nuestro tiempo.

Haga una lista de las razones que usted tiene para ser feliz. Si lo tiene que escribir, hazlo y carga esta lista con usted donde quiera que vaya. Si usted no está impuesto a rápidamente cambiar su mentalidad de frustración a una de apreciar lo que usted tiene, carga con usted esta lista y el mirarla cuando usted se sienta frustrado ayudará a entrenar su mente a mirar todas las cosas buenas que usted tiene en su vida.

Cuando usted tenga tiempo, pregúntese de donde viene esta frustración. Usted se sorprenderá de saber cuanto usted puede aprender de usted mismo si usted presta atención a sus emociones y llega a conocerse.

Como digo muy a menudo, tenemos que honrar y respetar nuestras emociones porque son parte de uno. Nuestras emociones pueden revelarnos tanto si sólo nos abrimos a esta posibilidad y la frustración definitivamente es una emoción que no debemos de ignorar ni de negar ya que podemos ser mejores personas aprendiendo de esta emoción.

How To Deal With Moments When You Feel A Bit of Frustration

We all have moments when we get frustrated. All of us. No one is immune to this. As human beings it’s only normal to feel this way from time to time. Even I sometimes feel this way. The key to when we are feeling this is knowing how to manage this emotion. Notice that I didn’t say “control this emotion”. To me, the sound of “control this emotion” it’s as if there is something wrong with feeling this way. It’s not the feeling that is wrong, it’s our reaction because of this feeling that makes it wrong in terms of if we do something to hurt others or ourselves, this is wrong.

I believe every emotion exists for a reason. You don’t just feel things just to feel them. Just like a thermometer is a tool to measure the body’s temperature, your emotions can be a tool to measure where you are spiritually and in life. With this said, feeling frustrated doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It can actually work to your favor for you to start figuring out something that perhaps you have been neglecting for a while and it is now manifesting itself through frustration.

It is important to know that part of well-being is knowing how to manage your emotions. Proper management of your emotions is key to adding more well-being into your life. Whenever you have a moment where you can’t afford to be frustrated or even show frustration, start by taking a deep breath. This will help relax your body by activating the parasympathetic system which helps the body to calm down after a stressful event. Taking a deep breath also gives your brain more oxygen which will help you relax your mind.

Remind yourself that whatever got you frustrated is nothing in comparison to other things. There are times when we make certain things that may frustrate us bigger than what they actually are. It’s important to try to put things in perspective and realize that lots of times the things that frustrate us are not even worth our time.

Make a list of all the reasons that you have to be happy. If you have to write it down then do so and carry this list with you. If you’re not used to quickly shifting your mindset from frustrated to appreciative, carrying the list and looking at it when feeling frustrated will train your mind to look at all the good you have going on in your life.

When you do have time for yourself, question where that frustration came from. You will be amazed at how much you can learn about yourself if you pay attention to your emotions and get to know yourself.

Like I say often, we have to honor and respect our emotions because they are a part of us. Our emotions can reveal to us so much if we are open to it and frustration is definitely an emotion that we should not ignore nor deny since we can become a better person by learning from it.