What Does “Disastrous Consequences” Mean When It Comes To Unaware Needs?

I would like to touch on a topic which I think a lot of us have been guilty of, including me, that I think is so important to discuss. On yesterday’s post, I wrote about how not being aware of your needs can lead to disastrous consequences but many of you may wonder what is meant by disastrous consequences. Now this phrase “disastrous consequences” can mean different things to different people. What I mean with this phrase is anything that compromises your balance in life and your well-being.

Just like our body shows symptoms when something is out of balance or when it is ill, there are things that we do that we may not be aware of that are “symptoms” of other things that are going on inside of us mentally, emotionally and spiritually. For me, for several years I did mindless shopping and got myself into thousands and thousands of dollars worth of debt, trying to fill a void. This is just one of the many examples of what I consider disastrous consequences. Other examples are overeating, not eating enough, drinking excessively, using drugs, being in abusive relationships, being around toxic people, etc. Of course, this just doesn’t happen overnight. These are behaviors that develop gradually and most of the time we notice them once we find ourselves in trouble, either we notice we owe too much money or we can’t be without a drink of alcohol or we find that we can’t stop eating, etc.

These behaviors become disastrous to your well-being because these are behaviors that turn into a vicious cycle in which it takes time to overcome. It is my belief that when you have a strong sense of who you are and what your needs are, you can make better decisions for yourself. You will understand why you allow yourself into certain situations, you understand why you allow certain people into your life, and why you made the decisions that you made. When you understand who you are, you can then start to align yourself in order to have the things you want out of life.

Everything in life always starts with YOU first. This is why I encourage and say that the best work you will ever do in your life is working on yourself. There is so much power in knowing who you are and what your needs are.

13 thoughts on “What Does “Disastrous Consequences” Mean When It Comes To Unaware Needs?

    • Shaniqua, thank you so much for commenting! I love to hear what others have to say. Yes, it is the hardest thing to do because it means we have to look at the skeletons that we have in our closet, as the saying goes. It means looking deep inside yourself and that is not something that we all want to do, however, it’s the best way to know who we truly are and what direction to head in life.

      • To many people try to look at other people to fill this void that they are missing. In turn we have many people who are condependent on other people to make themselves feel validated and in turn we have a high divorce rate in the us

      • Thank you Emily for commenting! I have to agree with the first part of what you said. In terms of divorce rates, well, there are many reasons as to why the divorce rates are high. I’m not sure if that’s because people are depending on others for validation, but the reasons are many, unfortunately.

  1. Nicely penned madam. When we want to fill our life with materials, we may need or may not at times, but just want to have, then we may not have satiety. True satisfaction and happiness comes when we diagnose the ‘symptoms’ of ours totally and reach to a conclusion as to what ails us and then find solutions. Your topic selection and delving on it threadbare is really outstanding.

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