“Why Do Good People Get The Short End of The Stick?”

I had a very interesting conversation with someone some days ago in which that person asked me “why do good people get the short end of the stick?” Now, when people ask this and I know this because I have asked myself this question before, this question stems from some sort of hurt that the person may feel. Perhaps that person gave their all to someone they love and was hurt and disappointed by them. Perhaps that person lost their job that they love in an unfair manner or they didn’t get the promotion that they felt they deserved or perhaps they feel that life hit them so hard. If you have ever asked yourself this question before or you ask yourself this now, whatever it is that happened that got you asking this question just remember this because it is true- great things happen to good people. Great things don’t happen to bad people the way some may think. It just appears this way because of one simple fact, one big element that marks the difference between the “good” people and the “bad” people and it is the sentiment or sensitivity of the person and their perception.

Usually “good” people are more sensitive and so when they get hurt, it really hurts them and they tend to be more giving. The reason why I write the word “good” in quotation marks is because people may have their own definition of what good means and I respect that. So I leave it up to you to determine what “good” people means. Back to what I was saying before, if you are very sensitive, you may intensify that hurt and when you do, all you can see is hurt and disappointment so it will, indeed, feel like you get the short end of the stick. If instead you look at your hurt as a lesson and part of your growth, it won’t hurt as much and you certainly won’t feel like you get the short end of the stick.

I would like to clarify that I am not saying to brush off your hurt and act like what bothers you doesn’t bother you. No! Not at all! I am all for feeling, accepting and embracing your emotions but you can’t stay with that negative emotion for long. Learn from your emotion. Try to understand your emotion. Your emotions are a part of you but that negative emotion doesn’t have to own you! When you remain with that negative emotion, that will put you in a state of self pity, hopelessness and so on, leading you to question “why good people get the short end of the stick?”.

That very question should be re-framed into another question because if not, that question which comes from a place of hurt, can hurt your well-being and your life in general. This hurts your well-being by putting you in a pitiful state which blocks any good from coming to you. This places you in a victim state which doesn’t allow you to take ownership of what happens and strips your power over your perception and feelings.

Next time you feel tempted to ask this question, rephrase it by asking yourself what is your role in the situation and what could you have done differently. These rephrased questions will help you get the lessons behind what just happened so that whatever it is that just happened won’t necessarily happen again.

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9 thoughts on ““Why Do Good People Get The Short End of The Stick?”

  1. Thanks again for sharing a topical eassay.

    Good people are always receptive, sensitive, adaptive, God fearing, truthful, besides having all the qualities of head and heart whereas bad ones are bad since they are always insecure, bereft of confidence, always passing bucks, non-accommodative, are wary when truth is told, talk incoherently, and above all remain aloof ultimately because of faults of their own.

    Regards

    • I truly love reading your comments because you also add things that are also so important and I thank you for that. So true that good people are always receptive, sensitive, adaptive and all those other qualities you mention. Thank you for all you said and for taking the time to write all this. I greatly appreciate it! My regards. 🙂

      • Addition can only be made when you’ve erected a strong edifice of write up. Every blog of yours is really lifelike as we experience in our day to day life.

        Thanks and regards. :))

  2. It is hard to understand why things happen like they do. I like how you feel that more sensitive people feel this happens to them I believe in resilience snd trying to wade on through the muck in life. There is only one chance (unless you believe reincarnation!) So make the best with whatever you have and whatever happens. Life sure beats the alternative. 🙂

  3. I always get the short end but it is not my nature to have it hinder me. I am a survivor and that means I adapt and forge ahead with each experience adding another lesson to my life and fortifying my will to live. My therapist says it is also a coping mechanism from hurtful experiences.
    It takes time but in the end when you lay your head down at night you will have peace of mind and that is worth more than gold. Above all remain genuine and not motivated by doing the right thing to impress others, not following emotion but remaining faithful to your code of ethics. That way you are a defined person. You will not be wishy washy rather your word will be stronger that steel.
    That is how I live now. I’m not rich monetarily but I am rich in knowledge , discernment, love and peace. God bless you all.

    • I thank you so much for sharing this and for taking the time to reply! Indeed having a peace of mind is really worth more than gold and indeed one must remain genuine and not be motivated to want to impress others. I do want to encourage you, though, not to think that you always get the short end of the stick. Instead, think that things are happening in your favor. When things don’t work out, who knows what the Universe is trying to stop you from getting into. The way you view your life is indeed the way your life will be. I encourage you to believe that things are happening in your favor no matter what. I don’t know what happened in your life but I would like to encourage you to believe and know that you are the one who defines your life. Once again, thank you so much for taking the time to write here and please feel free to come back!

  4. I always seem to get the short end of the stick in my relationships, I really put my guard down once I love someone and try to be a “good” person as much as possible but it always seems as if people just want to somehow take advantage of that. I really allow it to hinder me and it’s indeed very frustrating and draining.

    • Hello Omar! First off, I want to thank you for taking the time to comment and share your experiences with us! Allow your experiences to show you what are the areas of your life that you need to work on. Rather than looking at your experiences as you getting the short end of the stick, look at them as learning experiences, thank the Universe when those experiences don’t work out because God knows what you are getting yourself rid of. Know that the fact that you are a good person is such a blessing and believe in that relationship that you want and deserve! You already wrote that you allow it to hinder you which indicates that you do have somewhat of an awareness of your role in all this. Look into the areas within you that may need to change in order for you to attract what you are looking for.

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