The Art of Detachment and Its Value To Your Well-Being

Detachment, I think it’s a word worth exploring and writing about when it comes to your well-being. This may seem the opposite of what you need in life since part of what gives life meaning is the connections and attachments that we have to certain things but whether you recognize this or not, there is a certain level of detachment that we must have for things and people if we are to be mentally and emotionally sane and this is what this post will be about.

The art of detachment is a very important one for your well-being because by detaching yourself from things and people, you are relying upon yourself for your own happiness and to create the life you want. By no means do I mean that you will not create bonds with others or that you will isolate yourself from others or that you will not have any form of feelings towards things or others, not at all! We all need to feel a certain level of attachment and connection to things and people since we are all social beings. However, with this said, the kind of true attachment that you must have is the one with yourself. If you can master having a strong attachment with yourself, you will develop a healthy bond and attachment to others without it compromising your well-being. When you can master this attachment, then the kind of detachment that I am referring to will be easy for you.

The kind of detachment that I am referring to is the kind where despite the fact that you may care about something or someone, you are able to separate your identity from that object or person. It is the kind of detachment where your happiness is not dependent upon what that person does or doesn’t do nor what happens or doesn’t happen. It is not dependent upon whether or not that person or thing exists in your life. The kind of detachment that I am referring to is the kind where your attachment to that object or person is not as strong as the one that you have for yourself.

Why is this kind of detachment important to your well-being? Because it is very dangerous to rely upon a circumstance or person for your happiness. It is dangerous to wait till someone does something or till something happens in order to be happy. By doing so, you are putting your life on hold, you become a burden to others rather than a blessing, you stop yourself from being your full self and you are not able to serve yourself nor others.

Detachment doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it is indeed a necessity to your well-being. What doesn’t serve you is to be completely detached to the point where you have no real feelings towards things or other people. What doesn’t serve you is to have superficial relationships just so you won’t be hurt. No, this is NOT life nor does it help create that great well-being that you need. It is important to create healthy bonds with others but that bond doesn’t have to be what your happiness is based upon. Yes, you need to have healthy attachment to things but it does not have to be THE thing that gives you all your happiness. This is where that art of detachment comes into play. The one attachment that should be so strong no matter what happens in your life is that attachment towards yourself. This is where your true happiness lies.

You can read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at http://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez.

10 thoughts on “The Art of Detachment and Its Value To Your Well-Being

  1. One morning while reading the Lords prayer long ago, I got to the part where I asked God to forgive my sins (debts) against others, as I forgave the sins that others did against me. A friend let me know what would happen in your life, if you set in a room alone with two chairs and imagine God was in one chair and you the other. realizing I needed to forgive myself for all I did in my life up to that moment. It was then I was set free of all my past baggage, detaching myself from it, and I really learned to love myself after I saw all that was released from within. I felt the blessing of his love and his spirit. And i learned how to love myself, and in doing so, his love really taught me how to love others in a truly beautiful way without asking for anything in return. Selfless love. God died for all of us and our sins, now i put all selflessness to death, and began to grow and blossom…i had to detach myself from everything and everyone to really see and know myself, and I wanted no one else to become what I once was. Setting yourself free, is the truest of gifts, selflessness brings smiles alive every day. I love everyone, and seek to serve, leaving blessings whenever i can, spiritual blessings that change ones minds and hearts…, just planting seeds of love and wisdom. You that all so well! Even when I am not able to visit someones blog, for whatever reason, I do not feel guilty, it just makes the next moment I visit beautiful! I spent time with God and his word, then I spend time with myself meditating daily digesting his word, then I spent time with as many others as I could in a day, and I found I became a more balanced spirit…and a stronger and faithful one! Thanks for what you share always!, Selfish detachment, can help make more complete in a beautiful way!

    • Meditation is a great way to detach. When we meditate it is almost as if we remove ourselves for a moment and we connect to who we truly are. It is important for us to set ourselves free from absolutely everything in terms of people and things. What I mean with this is not to attach yourself to a person to the point that it affects you in a bad way. Attachment is bondage. I agree that it is necessary to sit down and learn to forgive yourself for your sins or anything that one could have done because at the end of the day. Setting yourself free is truly a gift, I couldn’t agree more with you.

      I love your words! I thank you so much for this! Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and for reading the blog!

    • Oh yes! Real healing does come when we really let go of all the memories of the pain another caused in our lives. It is important to remember that hurt people hurt people. People only share what they have so if they have hurt to share, rather than be hurt yourself, it is important to have compassion for them because they are reflecting how they feel about themselves.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s