Are You Mentally Paralyzing Yourself?

I have always thought that the worse way to be paralyzed is to be paralyzed mentally. What made me come to this conclusion is that I would analyze how many who are physically challenged would rise up and do things that many would perhaps consider impossible and some who have no physical challenges seem to not achieve much or anything in life and I would ask myself “why is that?”. It is then that I realized that being mentally paralyzed is the worst and this is what I will be writing about in today’s post.

What does it mean to be mentally paralyzed? Being mentally paralyzed means that you mentally make yourself incapable of doing things. There are signs that one gives when they are mentally paralyzed and these are: the frequent use of “can’t”, “I would if I could”, “I don’t have skills/money/talent/connections, etc”, the doing many things at once and not finishing any of the things that are started, believing that you indeed can’t do something or can’t have something, among many other things that actually mask you paralyzing yourself. When you do this, you block all that you say that you want, all that you want to achieve AND you stop yourself from being who you truly are.

You may ask yourself, “who am I?!”. Well, I can certainly say that you are NOT your “can’ts”, your “I would if I could”, your lacks, etc. However, it is your constant focus on these things that makes you become the very thing that you don’t want to be! In order for you to become unstuck, you NEED to remove your blocks, you NEED to get out of your own way, you NEED to stop saying that you can’t do something or that you don’t have something. You can’t wait for something to change in order for you to change! YOU need to change in order for things to change! I know that this is easier said or written than done but it is much more fruitful to move yourself out of the way and this I can write for personal experience. For as long as you keep focusing on your lacks, for as long as you keep saying that you can’t, you won’t go anywhere and you have no one else to blame but yourself.

For your well-being, it is important to question whether or not you are mentally paralyzing yourself whenever you are in a situation that you don’t want to be. Many times we don’t have the life that we want because it is us who are hindering that from happening. It is important to access the way you are talking, assess the actions you are taking and then from there make changes. If you can remove yourself out of your own way, you will see yourself achieving that which you want to achieve.

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La parte más bella del final

El final es el comienzo de algo más grande y mejor. El final es el cierre de algo que ya no le sirve. Hay cosas que llegan en su vida sólo por un propósito. Esto incluye oportunidades y personas. A veces tenemos la tendencia de extender la vida a algo que ya no tiene vida. Lo que quiero decir con esto es que a veces hay cosas y personas que nosotros nos aferramos que necesitamos dejar ir porque ya cumplió con su propósito. Hay personas y oportunidades que son para toda la vida pero confie que usted va a saber la diferencia.

¿Y cuál es esa diferencia? Cuando se trata de personas, durante los momentos turbulentos, ustedes pueden resistir. Ninguna relación es perfecta y en todas las relaciones habrá diferencias. No son los momentos turbulentos ni las diferencias lo que definen la calidad de la relación ni cuánto tiempo va a durar- es cómo se lidian con los momentos turbulentos y con las diferencias lo que marca la diferencia.

Cuando se trata de oportunidades, usted sentirá y será obvio cuando la fecha de vencimiento está por llegar. De alguna manera las cosas no fluyen o no van bien o hay un problema tras otro o de un modo u otro esa oportunidad parece ser pequeña para la persona que usted quiere ser o está por ser.

El poder reconocer estas cosas es tan esencial para su bienestar porque esto lo ayudará a prevenir sufrimientos innecesarios. Cuando usted puede reconocer si alguien o no es una persona para toda la vida (y con esto incluyo amistades, no sólo relaciones románticas) y cuando usted puede reconocer si una oportunidad es de toda una vida, de repente el final no se siente como una perdida sino se sentirá como una ganancia porque es una ganancia. Es una ganancia porque usted va hacia adelante. Es una ganancia porque usted está creciendo. Es una ganancia porque esas cosas se están haciendo a un lado para dar espacio a lo que sí pertenece en su vida.

Es importante para su bienestar el saber y recordar que no todo lo que llega a su vida es para toda la vida y no hay nada de malo con esto. El recordar y saber esto ayudará aliviar las tristezas y sufrimiento innecesarios que pueden impedirlo de ver y recibir lo bueno que está por llegar.

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The Greatest Part of Endings

The ending is the beginning of something bigger and better. The ending is the closure of something that no longer serves you. There are things that come into your life just to serve a purpose. This includes opportunities and people. Sometimes we have the tendency to extend the life of something that no longer has a life. What I mean with this is that sometimes there are things and people that we hold on to that we need to let go because its purpose was already served. There are people and opportunities that are meant to be for a lifetime but trust that you will know the difference.

And what is that difference? When it comes to people, even during turbulent moments, you still are able to endure. No relationship is perfect and in every relationship there will be differences. It is not the turbulent moments nor the differences that define the quality of the relationships nor how long it will last- it is how those turbulent moments and differences are handled that marks the difference.

When it comes to opportunities, you will feel and it will be evident that its expiration date is arriving soon. Somehow things don’t flow or go right, there is one problem after another or somehow that opportunity may seem small for what you want or are yet to be.

Being able to recognize these things are so crucial to your well-being because this will help you avoid unnecessary suffering. When you are able to recognize whether someone is a person for a lifetime (and with this I also include friendships, not just romantic relationships) and when you’re able to recognize whether an opportunity is a lifetime one, suddenly the ending won’t feel like a loss, rather it will feel like a gain because in essence it is a gain. It is a gain because you’re moving forward. It is a gain because you’re growing. It is a gain because those things are moving out of the way to make way for other things that do belong in your life.

It is important for your well-being to know and remember that not everything that comes into your life are meant to be a lifetime and that’s ok. Remembering and knowing this will help alleviate some unnecessary sadness and suffering that can hinder you from seeing and receiving the goodness that are yet to come.

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Algo grande que arriuna una vida y relaciones maravillosas

Hay muchas cosas que pueden arruinar una vida y relaciones maravillosas pero esta semana, me gustaría escribir sobre algo que parece ser más común hoy en día y es una lástima porque esta cosa disfraza cosas hermosas en algo que usted piensa que tiene que alejar de usted, lo aleja de cosas y personas que pueden añadir a su vida al igual que enciegarlo de sus propios errores. Esta cosa se llama orgullo/ego.

Es importante tener orgullo de uno mismo- orgullo en quienes somos, orgullo para no dejar que los demás nos hieren, orgullo para poner limites en nuestro espacio personal y de lo que uno permite en ese espacio, etc. Sin embargo, hay un cierto tipo de orgullo que lo perjudica y ese tipo de orgullo viene de su ego. El ego siempre trata de protegerse. El ego es egoísta. El ego no sabe mucho y es por esto que nuestro orgullo no puede venir del ego.

¿Cómo es que el orgullo/ego puede perjudicar sus relaciones y de tener una vida maravillosa? Bueno, primero, quizás uno se pregunta de qué consiste una gran vida. Una gran vida no consiste sólo de ser próspero en cuanto a la carrera o de se próspero en lo económico ni en ser físicamente “saludable”. Una gran vida consiste de tantas otras cosas como su mentalidad, su relacione con usted mismo, sus relaciones con los demás, etc. Consiste en tener un balance en cada área de su vida o por lo menos el tratar de tener ese balance. Habrá momentos en donde las cosas no serán perfectas y una gran vida no se trata de perfección. Se trata de tener un balance saludable y de tener relaciones maravillosas en la vida. Es mas, ¡las relaciones y esto quiere decir cualquier interacción con los demás, son la base de una vida maravillosa y saludable! Son sus relaciones con los demás lo que lo ayuda a crecer. Son sus relaciones con los demás lo que realmente lo llena.

El orgullo arriuna todo esto porque esto no le permite ver las cosas cómo son, hace que usted ignore su ser interior y lo que le trata de decir, no le permite ver sus errores cuando algo no fue bien. Lo enciega, lo hace sordo, lo entumece y todas las demás cosas que usted no debe de ser para poder tener esa gran vida.

La manera de combatir este orgullo/ego es siendo honesto consigo mismo de quien usted es, lo que usted quiere, el ver el papel que usted juega en todo lo que sucede y de admitir el papel que usted jugó en cualquier cosa que pasa. Piense en lo que es más importante. El tener la razón a costa de sus relaciones no vale la pena. El mantener el orgullo porque usted no quiere pedir perdón por algo que usted hizo mal lo hace un perdedor. Le hace perder buenas personas en su vida. No hay nada de malo con admitir que usted se equivocó, al contrario, lo hace una persona fuerte. No hay nada de malo con el querer porque esto lo hace humano.

Si usted realmente le importa tener una gran vida, comience a invertir en buenas relaciones- buenas amistades, cultivando su relación con la persona que usted ama, amando a su pareja, el decir a la persona que usted quiere cuánto lo quiere, etc. No permita que el orgullo/ego se interponga en el camino de sus relaciones y en el camino de permitir que algo bonito suceda. Creo que si la mayoría de nosotros hicieramos esto, no viviríamos con tanta confusión ni dolor.

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One Killer to Great Relationships and Great Life

There are many things that can kill great relationships and life but this week, I would like to write about one that seems to be so prevalent nowadays and that’s such a shame because this one masks great things into something that you would think you have to push away, it pushes away from you things and people that can add to your life as well as make you blind to your own mistake. This one thing is called pride/ego.

It’s important to have pride in oneself- pride in who we are, pride to not allow others to hurt us, pride to set boundaries of what is allowed in our personal space and what is not allowed, etc. However, there is a certain kind of pride that is hurtful to you and that’s the kind of pride that comes from your ego. The ego always seeks to protect itself. The ego is selfish. The ego doesn’t know any better and this is why our pride can’t come from the ego.

How does this pride/ego hurt your relationships and you from having a great life? Well, first off, one may ask what consists a great life. A great life is not just one where you are career wise prosperous or financially prosperous or even when physically you are “healthy”. It consists of so much more such as your mindset, your relationship with yourself, your relationships with others, etc. It consists of having a balance in every area in your life or at least striving for balance. There will be moments where it will not be perfect, a great life is not about perfection. It is about having a healthy balance and having great relationships in life. In fact, relationships and this means any interaction that you have with others, is the basis to a great, healthy life! It is your relationships with others that grows you. It is your relationships with others that truly fulfill you.

How pride kills all this is that it blinds you from seeing things the way they are, it makes you ignore your inner being and what it is trying to tell you, it doesn’t allow you to see where you went wrong when something went wrong. It makes you blind, deaf, numb and all the things that you must not be in order to live a great life.

The way to combat this pride/ego is by being truly honest with yourself as to who you are, what you want, seeing your role in everything that happens and admit the role that you played in anything that happens. Think about the bigger picture. Being right at the cost of your relationships is not worth it. Keeping your pride because you don’t want to apologize for what you did wrong makes you lose. It makes you lose the potential of great people in your life. There is nothing wrong with admitting you are wrong, in fact, that makes you strong. There is nothing wrong with caring because it makes you human.

If you truly care about having a great life, start investing in good relationships- good friends, cultivating your relationship with someone you love, loving your spouse, telling the person that you care that you actually care, etc. Don’t let pride/ego get in the way of your relationships or in the way of you allowing something that can be great from happening. I think if most of us did that, we wouldn’t live in such confusion or hurt.

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¿Qué quiere decir la muerte (el final) de cualquier cosa?

La muerte (o el final) es una palabra que ninguno de nosotros queremos oir, leer ni decir. Sim embargo, esta es la realidad de la vida ya que todo en la vida muere o tiene un final. No me refiero sólo cuando se trata de un ser humano, me refiero a absolutamente todo ya sea las estaciones o hasta un trabajo que usted tenga. “Ah Aura, ahora sí que estás llevando todo al extremo” quizás piensa. Pero sólo estoy escribiendo los hechos de la vida y usted va a ver cómo esto se relaciona a su bienestar y cómo usted lo puede usar para su crecimiento.

La muerte quiere decir cuando algo llega a un final o deja de ser. Ciertas muertes nos causan tristeza como la muerte de un ser querido o hasta el final de un matrimonio. Créalo o no, mientras usted esté viviendo habrá partes de usted que morirán también. Esto es un proceso natural y necesario de la vida.

¿Por qué esto es un proceso natural y necesario de la vida? Porque sin el final de la cosas, no hay crecimiento. Las cosas tienen que cambiar y terminar para que haya una evolución. Un gran ejemplo que me viene en mente es cuando usted se convierte en adulto. Usted necesita hacer a un lado/hacer un final a sus maneras de niños. Usted no puede ser adulto con comportamientos de niño, no puede ser porque los dos no van de la mano. Cuando usted se siente listo para ir a otra fase de su vida, hay una parte de usted que muere para que haya espacio para el nuevo “usted”. En otras palabras, siempre hay algo que muere porque eso da espacio a otras cosas en su vida. Cuando se trata de seres queridos, cuando ellos mueren, ese es otro tipo de muerte y no me refiero a esto aunque muchos piensan en esto cuando ven u oyen la palabra.

La muerte de cualquier cosa en su vida, (con la excepción de un ser querido porque no me refiero a esto con lo que escribo hoy), no tiene que ser el final de todo. Sólo quiere decir un nuevo capítulo del libro de su vida, una nueva etapa en su vida, un nuevo “usted” y de crecimiento. Todo está en cómo usted lo quiera ver y cómo usted se siente sobre lo ocurrido. Permita que el final de cualquier cosa en su vida lo haga madurar y lo convierta en mejor persona. Permita que el final de algo sea el comienzo de grandes cosas. Es necesario recordar que la muerte es un proceso natural de la vida y necesario para expandir en bienestar.

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What Does the Death of Anything Mean?

Death is a word that none of us want to hear, read nor say. Yet this is a reality of life since everything in life dies. I am not just referring when it comes to human beings, I’m referring to absolutely everything from seasons to even the job that you have. “Omg Aura, you are taking this overboard” you may be thinking. As a matter of fact, I’m just stating the facts of life and you will see how this relates to your well-being and how you can use this for your growth.

Death just means when something ends or ceases. Certain deaths causes sadness like when a loved one dies or even the end of a marriage. Believe it or not, even while you are on this earth you will have certain parts of you that will cease as well. This is just a natural and necessary cycle of life.

Why is this a natural and necessary cycle of life? Because without the cessation of things, there is no growth. Things need to change and end for there to be an evolution. A great example I can think of is when you become an adult. You have to put away/end your childish ways. You can’t be an adult with childish ways, that can’t happen because they both don’t go together. When you feel ready to go into another phase of your life, there is a part of you that is dying in order to make way for the new you to come out. So in essence, there are always things that are dying because they make room for other things to come into our life. When it comes to those that we love, when they pass that is a different kind of death and that is not the death that I am referring to in this post although that is what most people think of when they see or hear the word.

The death of anything in your life, (with the exception of loved ones because that is not what I am referring to in this post), doesn’t have to be the end of everything. It just means a new chapter of your book, a new phase in your life, a new you and growth. It’s all in how you want to view it and how you feel about it. Allow for the end of anything in your life to mature you and make you into a better person. Allow the end of something to be the beginning of great things. It is a must to remember that death is a natural process of life and a must in order to expand in well-being.

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