What to Look For When Choosing People For Your Life

This post is especially important for me and for everyone but this area of our life seems to be one that we neglect or may not see its importance. One area that we constantly overlook when it comes to our well-being is our social life. Our social life when it comes to our well-being includes ALL relationships- family, friends and even our romantic partners. Because this area impacts greatly our well-being, today I would like to discuss what to look for when choosing people for your life.

Each and every one of us are different. However, there are certain basic things that we all need from everyone that we allow into our life and there are certain things that one must take into consideration when choosing friends, the family that we choose to spend a lot of time with and especially when choosing your romantic mate.

First, choose people with integrity. The definition of integrity is whole and honest. With this said, choose people who are whole because those are the people who will have so much love to give to you. These are people who have nothing but beautiful things to share about themselves. Also choose people who are honest. Honesty is a big one because to be honest with others, one must first be honest with themselves and sometimes being honest with oneself can be difficult for some.

Choose people that care about you for you, not for what you can offer them materialistically or anything of that sort. People who choose what you have to offer materialistically and not what you have to offer mentally, emotionally and spiritually will not last in your life. As a matter of fact, those people the moment you cut off whatever it is that they came after will disappear from your life and that is great because you don’t need them anyways. Those that love you for you won’t care if you don’t have anything material to offer to them. Your presence alone will be enough and what a gift your presence can be!

Choose people who love themselves and their life. You can only give what you have so when you have no love for you and your life, you can’t possibly have love for others. Those that love themselves will be able to provide you with a healthy love.

Choose people who are forgiving and have compassion. In every relationship, meaning interaction that you have with others, there will be, let me repeat, there will be disagreements, arguments and moments where you will be upset with the person. Holding on to a grudge or anger doesn’t serve anyone. A mature person has the capacity to see both sides of the story and be able to forgive and move on. There are certain circumstances where there is an exception like when someone betrays you or shows qualities that are big no-nos and you just simply can’t tolerate that in your life. For everything else, choose someone who knows how to forgive, have compassion and understanding.

Relationships are one of the pillars of well-being. It is important to know how to choose the people that you allow in your life as well as what to look for when choosing those people.

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4 thoughts on “What to Look For When Choosing People For Your Life

  1. This is sound advice to act proactively before entering into new relationships. After-the-fact or in the case of relatives, you may find yourself in a flawed relationship that is not practical to separate from physically. In that case, the best you can do is mentally detach so as not to impact your own wellbeing.

    • You are right Gail! There may be times where one may find themselves that it is not pratical to separate physically and I do agree that the best thing to do is to mentally detach. Thank you so much for your input and for commenting! That is a great suggestion!

  2. Awesome message! I wrote something similar for my daughter on my blog;

    A Prayer For A Genuinely Seeking Heart

    May your dreams become a lovely reality
    May you find that special one you need
    One who will put you far ahead of them
    While daily striving to satisfy your needs

    May they be one whose heart is truly selfless
    One who will always seek to be genuinely true
    May they greet your precious smile each day,
    With a priceless gift of love born for only you

    May your hearts seek to become one together
    Never ever wanting a single day to be apart
    May God bless your life with a priceless gem
    A reward for your faithful pleasing heart

    For God will hear your fervent prayers nightly
    While embracing their true pureness alive within
    Wanting to answer them very perfectly for you
    With someone spiritually special chosen by Him.

    “Love You, Dad.”

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    But it is for everyone. You are always a blessing with what you share! God bless!

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