It’s Too Much Work To Be Negative

Sometimes we mistakenly believe that smiling and being positive is too much work, especially under a lot of stress or when sleep deprived. The truth is that being negative is too much work rather than being positive. Negativity only attracts more negativity. Think about it. If you go to a store and the clerk is in a bad mood, speaks to you with an attitude, what will your reaction be? You will feel tempted to be nasty right back, right? You certainly won’t want to go back to the store, you will have ill regards towards that person, etc.

I don’t know about you but when I feel negative or when I’m mad, I can feel how my body changes. I get hot, I feel irritable, I have less patience. It’s my personal opinion but feeling this way is just not worth it. Being constantly in a negative state is just harmful for your well-being in general. It raises your blood pressure, it clouds your thinking and judgment. You just attract the wrong people and wrong situation, your body changes and not for good, etc. One thing that I would like to clarify is that it is normal to be frustrated or mad from time to time when the situation warrants it. In this blog, I’m referring to the constant negativity from the moment you wake up all the way to when you sleep every single day. This kind of negativity is not healthy.

I would like to include that negativity is not only having a negative outlook in life or being in a bad mood. Negativity also includes being envious, jealous, wanting what others have, constantly being worried, etc. The reason why I include these is because nothing good can happen to you when you are envious or jealous towards others. Worrying all the time about things you can’t control or worrying about things that you can change but don’t is just a waste of time because worrying paralyzes us. When you are envious or jealous, you are not hurting the other person by feeling this way, you are hurting yourself. Rather than using your energy on those emotions, you can use this energy to improve and focus on yourself. There is no need to want what others have because we are all special in our own way. We all have our own talents and we are all unique in our own ways. Therefore, there is no need to want what others have.

Negativity does no good to you and it’s not even worth your time and energy. It’s too much work! Instead of remaining in negativity, channel that energy instead into something productive and positive. This will ensure your growth and happiness and will lead you to live to the max.

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It’s Important to Grow Some Balls

In today’s post, I’m changing the meaning of growing balls. When reading “growing balls” one may think of courage but this is not what I’m referring to. “Growing balls” means to toughen up, to be an adult and to be mature.

I will start off this post by sharing that about a week ago, I just had to confront someone, and I have to admit it was not pretty, that just pissed off both someone else and I. This person who I will call Jane, had an attitude with us and just seemed off. At one point, I had enough of her that I had to call her off and I asked her in a tone that was not very nice “What is wrong with you?!”. Jane proceeded to continue to get on our nerves and then broke down with someone else and expressed how she was very sad because her boyfriend broke up with her. That person that she confided with came up to me and said how she is crying and is sad because her boyfriend broke up with her and I expressed how I didn’t give a damn what is going on with her. I stated how she needs to grow some freaking balls because it is no one’s fault that her boyfriend broke up with her. Now you can see where this title comes from.

The reason why I honestly didn’t care and had to express that she needs to grow some balls is because it is important to remember that EVERYONE, not just you, has a story, a baggage, a load that they are carrying. It is NOT other people’s fault what happens in your life and it is certainly not fair to take out on others the hurt that you feel. Little did Jane knew that on that same day it was a month since my dad’s passing and that the other person who she pissed off his father is very ill. Jane had no right having an attitude with us because if that’s the case, then I too have a “right” to have an attitude with others because my dad passed away. The other person too had a “right” to have an attitude with others because his dad is very ill. I hope you can understand why it is wrong to take out on others your frustration and sadness.

Doing so makes people become distant from you. I’m pretty sure it is not your intention to push people away but you do so if you take your frustration and sadness out on others. It makes others resentful of you and besides, I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t want to be thought of as someone who is not nice to be around.

So what is the solution when you feel so much sadness, frustration or even anger? It is not the easiest solution but it is a must and it is to grow some balls. You need to toughen up in life because life is composed of many aspects that unfortunately includes things that we may not like. Break ups are hard but everyone has gone through some heart break. Death is a part of life because it is the cycle of life. Illness is not easy but it is a must to be able to handle it in the best way possible. It is ok to feel sad, angry and frustrated- you are only human. But it is NOT ok to take out your frustration, anger or sadness on others.

Part of being an adult is being mature. It is a must to not act out or lash out on others. It is a must to take things as being a part of life. It is a must to try to look at the positive of things. It is a must to compartmentalize so that you don’t spill onto other areas of your life your frustration.

If the last two paragraphs don’t motivate you to grow some balls, at least remember that everyone has a baggage that they are carrying as well. Some people are better at hiding their heavy luggage than others and this may be the reason that you may not see the load that they are carrying. It is important to be empathetic because you never know other people’s story. I think if most of us could remember this, this could greatly add to our well-being.

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Are You Wasting Your Time?

There are many times when we may not even realize it until it is too late that all we have been doing in life is wasting our time. Sometimes what makes us come to this realization is either a sickness, a disability, a loss of some sort and none of this is necessary for us to come to this realization.

Now, this question that I just asked on the title will have different answers for everyone. That’s because everyone’s definition of living life and enjoying life will be different. What I may find as enjoyment may be different for someone else. So for this reason, you can’t go to anyone else for an answer, you have to look within you.

Even though the answer to this question will be different for everyone, there are some basic things that I think are time wasters for everyone no matter how different we may all be for certain things. Time wasters would be being angry at others, being worried all the time, not working on the relationships that truly matter most, taking those you love for granted, focusing on things that are no longer in your present life or focusing on what could have been but isn’t, being angry with Life for the things that you don’t have in life or for what was taken away from you. All these things are what I call paralyzers because they do just that, they paralyze you. They paralyze you mentally, physically and emotionally. They don’t help you move forward and see all the goodness that you still have. They make you blind. They hinder you from enjoying life.

Being angry at someone else is not hurting the other person, it is hurting you. The other person may not even be aware of what you are feeling but you are and that can make you even more angry because it does hurt to know that you care while the other person doesn’t. Depending on what it is that made you angry, that anger may be easy to let go or not. Whatever it is that made you angry, know that by continuing to feel this way, the only person who are hurting is yourself. There are times when other people may not even mean to harm us and so this is another reason why it is not worth getting so angry. As my very good friend Dawn reminded me over and over, no one can make you feel a certain way unless you allow them.

Being worried all the time is just paralyzing in every aspect. It paralyzes you mentally because the worry that you feel can stop you from thinking of making the right decision. It paralyzes you physically because the worry can make you not want to take any action. We usually worry about something that hasn’t happened yet and this stops us from living the present moment. If you want to be able to look at your past and think of it with good thoughts and feelings, then you must enjoy this moment because this moment will be past. Besides, worry just attracts more of the things that you are worried about.

One of the things that matters so much in life is the relationships we have in our life. Not cultivating them is, to me, equivalent to not saving money and the reason for this is because whether you realize it or not, the relationships that you have with others are an investment. What you give to others is what you get back. Family is one thing we tend to take for granted and think about this, when you are in your down moments, it isn’t a job or strangers who will be there for you, it is your family and close friends so make time for those you love and love you.

I can tell you that focusing on what no longer was in my present paralyzed me for a bit and made me waste my time by not looking forward. That is what focusing on what could have been but isn’t, focusing on what you no longer have and what you feel Life has taken away from you do to you, it keeps you from looking forward. I know it can be challenging at times but it is a must to look forward to more goodness in life. Part of life is transitioning from one stage of life to the next and we must embrace this if we are to be happy.

So now I challenge you to think whether or not you are wasting your time. This simple question can transform the way your life is right now if there is any part of it that you are not happy with and can add more well-being to you.

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Feeling Frustrated and Miserable In Life? Let This Feeling Propel You To Higher Levels

I am one to advocate that emotions are meant to be felt and understood. Not ignored nor treated as if they are just “emotions”. Our emotions are an indicator of where we are in life. Just like a thermometer measures the body temperature, our emotions measure how our soul is doing. It is an indicator of whether we are aligned with what our soul wants. With this said, if you are feeling frustrated and miserable in life, rather than ignore these feelings, allow them to propel you to a higher level in life.

When feeling frustrated and miserable, don’t take this out on others. Don’t go walking around feeling and acting miserable (this in itself is pitiful and attracts more situations that will make you more miserable). Rather, question where this misery is coming from and do something about it. Continuously feeling miserable isn’t going to do anything to change your situation. It is understanding and taking action what is going to make the difference. I advocate understanding oneself but when trying to make changes in your life, understanding alone won’t help. You need to take action as well in order to see those changes. Don’t expect situations to change. Don’t expect others to change. You must change. Allow that frustration and misery to be the fuel that will give you the courage to make those changes. I know first hand that changes can be scary and that taking action can feel uncomfortable but it is a must.

Part of well-being is making adjustments when things are not conducive to our overall health. Although complaining can be healthy because it helps release some of that emotion, complaining all the time about the same thing and not doing anything about it is useless. What’s the use complaining about something that you’re not doing anything about it to change?! It’s useless because the situation will never change unless you take action and constantly complaining robs energy from you that you can utilize to take action. I would like to clarify that there’s nothing wrong with complaining. However, complaining with no action is useless.

Feeling frustration doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It’s a good indication that something isn’t right in your life. Pay attention to that frustration and try to see where that frustration is coming from. Rather than viewing that frustration in a negative way, let that frustration propel you to higher levels in life. This, I guarantee you, will skyrocket your overall well-being. And isn’t this something that you would like?!

Don’t Bottle In Your Emotions Nor What You Are Thinking When Feeling Low

Feeling and showing vulnerability is something that perhaps many don’t feel comfortable with and perhaps many may feel like this is a weakness. Well, I think if one thinks this is a weakness, then it is implying that being human is being weak because as human beings we all have and will have moments of vulnerability. It is only natural. When feeling vulnerable, it is very important not to bottle in your emotions nor what you are thinking when feeling on the low side.

Bottling your emotions, rather than showing strength, can weaken you. How so? I don’t know about you but it feels like too much effort to keep all to myself what I am feeling when feeling low. As human beings, it is only natural to have your ups and downs. Even though I think part of living life to the fullest is choosing happiness, (because happiness is a choice), I think part of that happiness and well-being is embracing all emotions, even the not so good ones. I have said it before and I will say it again, emotions can be an indicator of what is going on inside you. It is a way to measure how your soul feels. Sharing with someone that you know you can trust and who is not judgmental of what you feel can be so liberating and healthy. Make sure, though, that it is someone that you know you can trust because I am one to believe that if you tell the wrong person, you can actually feel worse and that’s no good. So make sure it is someone who will truly understand you and be uplifting.

I think that bottling your emotions and any negative thoughts is like a volcano with lava bubbling up waiting to erupt. You are what you think and feel and there is only so much that you can bottle up when feeling sad or angry. It is important to release, in a healthy way, what you are feeling and share your thoughts with someone you know loves you and cares about you. Someone that truly loves you, when knowing you have some negative thoughts in your mind, would knock some sense into you.

I believe showing vulnerability is a sign of strength because it takes courage to expose yourself. With this said, there is no shame in feeling a bit in the low side, just don’t remain there for your well-being. Share with someone you love what is going on. If you need professional help, then get the help you need, and try to understand what it is that is causing you to feel this way. For your well-being it is crucial that you don’t keep your emotions bottled in if you feel they are eating you up inside. It is important for every other area of your life that you have a mental and emotional balance in life and you do this by keeping these areas of your life in check.

No Matter What You Do Or Say, Always Come From A Place Of Love

There will be times in life where you will be disappointed, sad and angry. That is normal because you are a human being and as a human being, you will feel all kinds of emotions. The one thing I think is very important and it’s one lesson I learned in these past weeks is that no matter what you do or say, always come from a place of love.

When I say “always come from a place of love”, I’m not saying that you neglect whatever anger, sadness or disappointment you are feeling, this is not what I mean since it is important to acknowledge these feelings. What this really means is that when you respond to a situation, wait until you are cooled off and instead of coming from a place of anger or sadness, come from a place of peace. It’s very easy to react to what is going on and what you are feeling but it is very important to just step back for a moment and think about what is going on and what you are feeling. I have to admit that there will be times where it will feel hard to do this but when you are coming from a place of love, the person that is benefiting from this is YOU. It’s important at the end of the day to be happy with the way you handled a situation and that many times means taking the high road for as difficult that this may be.

For as difficult as it may be for you to smile, for whatever the reason may be that is keeping you from feeling happy, still find it within you to smile. Indeed when you smile the world does smile right back at you. For as difficult as it may feel to be nice when you are upset, still manage to find it within you to be nice to others. Remember, once again, the person that benefits from this is YOU. For as angry as someone may have made you, step back and wait until you cool off to then approach the person. If you are upset and disappointed with yourself, even with yourself come from a place of love and have compassion for what you did. Have an understanding that what you did doesn’t make you a bad person. Treat yourself with love and kindness the way you would for your best friend.

Always coming from a place of love is one very important and valuable lesson that you can learn and apply to your life in order to grow in your overall well-being. It is love what truly nurtures our soul and it’s essential to make it a goal to always add more love into your life.