How Your Definition of Beauty Ties In With Your Well-being

One may not think that the definition of beauty is very much tied to one’s well-being since when one thinks of well-being/wellness, it is inevitable to think about nutrition and working out. However, this one definition can influence your well-being either for better or for worse. If your definition of beauty is hurting you rather than helping you, then it’s time for you to change your concept of beauty.

Our self-concept and self-esteem are very much tied to the way we feel and think about ourselves physically. It is because of this that your definition of beauty can either hurt you or help you. But first, let’s discuss what being beautiful means.

Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes and colors and thank God for this. It is these differences that make life so interesting. It is these differences that make us all fit with someone or some group. The different spices that we have in our pantry are what keep our food delicious with unique flavors. This is the same thing when it comes to people.

I am also aware that many of us want what we don’t have. Those who have curly hair wish they had straight hair and vice versa. Those who may be short wish they were a bit taller, well that’s not my case because I love my height. What I may lack in height I have in abundance in other things. This is exactly how you have to view whatever it is that you don’t have. Whatever it is that you “lack”, you have in abundance in other ways, whether that be intelligence, charisma, etc.

So with this said, what is your definition of beauty? If your definition of beauty consists of things that you don’t have or lack, then I encourage you to reconsider your definition of beauty because if this continues on, this can greatly affect the way you see yourself. Trust, know and learn to see several things about you that are beautiful. Everyone has their own beauty and this, in and of itself, is beautiful! Beauty doesn’t consist of having straight, long hair, or clear skin or whatever the color of your skin.

One thing I can’t leave out of this post is never, EVER allow anyone to define for you what is beautiful. Never EVER allow anyone to define you. The moment you allow this to happen, you allow that person to take control of the way you view and feel about yourself and that is a big no no.

The definition of beauty….is one to look into if you notice that you don’t find yourself pretty enough or handsome enough or good enough. You are MORE than pretty enough, MORE than handsome enough, MORE than good enough. If you don’t think this way, it’s time for you to check what your definition of beauty is.

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It’s Little By Little, Day By Day

What inspires me to write this is the fact that my family and I are grieving the passing of my father who passed away this past Friday, May 20th. We know it will take time to accept this fact, to find the conformity in how things happened and to accept that he is no longer with us physically. All that anyone can do in circumstances like this is to remind oneself that it’s little by little, day by day.

It’s little by little, day by day that you will start to accept the fact that whatever that is going on in your life is actually going on in your life. This is because it takes time to process things. It takes time to heal wounds. It takes time to understand things. It takes time to process one’s emotions.

It’s little by little, day by day that you will put the pieces together. When one grieves, of course physically you reflect what you feel and it takes a little at a time and day by day to get back to your old self again. It takes time to be able to find things with the same beauty as you once did. It takes time to understand that it is ok to feel what you feel at the moment that you feel it.

It’s little by little, day by day that you start to realize that the ending of something is just the beginning of something new. The end is never the end and even when a chapter ends, life must go on and so you must go on.

It’s little by little, day by day because nothing is done all at once. You don’t just grow from night to day, you don’t just heal one moment to the next, you don’t get over a grief so quick. It’s ok to grieve because in the grieving you are processing what is going on, you are letting out all that you feel, you are little by little putting your own pieces together in a way that only you can do for yourself.

There are different kinds of grieving and although I’m grieving my dad’s passing, one can grieve their marriage or anything that was so meaningful to them. Grief is grief and no matter what the grief is, it takes little by little, day by day.

 

The Purpose of Disappointments

Disappointments…..it’s just one of those things that we will get for as long as we live because they are a part of life. It sucks to be disappointed but they are a part of life and it is necessary to accept this. So if this is part of life, then what is the purpose of disappointments? That’s what I would like to discuss in today’s post.

There are different kinds of disappointments. Some disappointments will come from people, others from circumstances. Some will come from ourselves, believe it or not. There are many possible reasons as to what led to that disappointment such as expectations that one may have, needs that were not met, even miscommunication or no communication from the other person or even from yourself (unfortunately, miscommunication or no communication is a big one and it shouldn’t be this way).

It is important whenever you are disappointed to understand why you are disappointed and what led to that disappointment. This is going to shed some light as to what happened and what you can learn from it so that should something like this happen again, you will know how to respond. Life is wonderful in the sense that Life always gives us back the lessons that we must learn and it will test us to see if we actually learned our lesson or not.

Disappointments can feel like a sour experience. Depending on the degree of your expectations, or the feelings you have towards that person that disappointed you or depending on the circumstance is what will dictate how sour that experience will be for you. Emotions and your perception of what happened play a big role in how you experience things. By no means should you just brush the disappointment you feel under the rug as something insignificant. This is almost equivalent to you having a deep wound and covering it up with a Band-Aid hoping it will heal on its own. I always encourage to feel the pain, although it sucks, and take care of the pain.

I’ve said and wrote before that part of well-being is growth. In order to grow, changes are involved and where there is change, there is learning as well. Disappointments offer you an opportunity to grow in many ways that can make you a better person. It may suck that a friendship broke, a relationship is torn, an opportunity may seem lost, but I’m starting to realize certain things- those that are meant to stay in your life will stay, if a relationship means so much to you, both of you will work things out and opportunities are never lost.

Allow yourself to grow from that disappointment. Look at what you could have done differently, not just what that other person did wrong, but also look at what role you played in that situation. If an opportunity didn’t seem to be yours, that’s because there is something better that is yet to come. If you take everything that comes to you, you will not leave space for the thing that is truly for you. Disappointments have their purpose but it is up to you to let that purpose come forth.

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The Necessity of Having Passion in Life

Passion is a word that is most used in regards to love or lust. However, did you know that in order to have a life full of meaning and purpose then passion is a must? This is what today’s post is about.

Passion is so necessary when it comes to life because passion is what can provide you with the fuel that you need in order to get things done. We are emotional beings and as emotional beings we are driven by our emotions. Having passion for something is what lights you up and gets you moving. Passion is what can provide you with the motivation that you need in order to accomplish a goal. Passion is the feeling behind the purpose.

Without passion, it almost feels as if you have to drag yourself to do things. Things start to feel either bland or heavy and this is not how life is meant to be lived. Without passion, life can feel without much purpose. This is because there isn’t something that is lighting up your soul which is your true essence. Whatever it is that can light up your soul may be different from others around you and that is ok. You were not designed to be like others. You were designed to be you. When you have no passion in life, I believe this is an indicator that you are out of alignment with who you truly are and this is certainly one of the consequences of not being in alignment. Without passion, I believe you can’t be your best you for others because you can only offer your best to others when you are passionate about your life and who you are.

If you don’t have any passion already I recommend you start having passion for life. Life is full of so many things and you are full of so many things as well. There are many qualities to you that make you unique and special. There are times when there are things about us that we may be unaware, jewels that we possess that are hidden within us and it is up to us to start digging for them. I believe everyone has it in them to be passionate about their life, it’s just a matter of figuring out what that is that will take them to that level in their life.

Passion is a must if you want to have a life full of happiness, growth and health. It helps balance your life and this is so necessary for your well-being. I recommend that you start figuring out now what are you passionate about and start living your living according to your passions. This will add tremendous health and happiness into your life.

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There Is Beauty In Everything

What does this have to do with wellbeing? I would say everything. When we learn to see the beauty in everything, we learn to love everything. When we learn to love everything, we learn not to judge and we transmit love to others which helps us attract beautiful things into our lives. When we have love for everything, we can then have wellbeing since love is healthy.

When we don’t have love, we are poor in health, we are poor material wise, we are poor on the quality of our relationships with others, in other words, we are poor in everything. It’s that love that we have towards ourselves and others that leads us to richness. We are composed of cells and the emotions that we feel, every cell in our body feels it and so having love adds more health to your body. Who wouldn’t want to be more healthy? You can start by seeing the beauty in everything, even in the things that you may not like and you will see how little by little you will learn to have love for everything. Having and feeling love as well as seeing the beauty in things is part of your wellbeing.