Who You Are and How You Live Matters!

If at any moment in your life you felt that who you are and how your live your life doesn’t matter or if you know anyone who may feel this way, then this is the post to read. I am here today to encourage you to stop thinking that who you are doesn’t matter. I am here today to encourage you to stop thinking that how you live your life doesn’t matter because it does!

Whether you realize it or not, you impact others. I am pretty sure you have friends and family. Even if you don’t have much friends, you still impact those you do have. Everything we do and say set an example to others. There are people who look up to you and love you. There are people who are concern for you. And certainly the world needs you!

It doesn’t matter how you look nor how you are. It doesn’t matter what your tastes are. It doesn’t matter what you are good at and what you are not good at, all the things that make up who you are make you unique and you were created this way because someone else needs you exactly the way you are. How do they need you? It depends, people can need you in different ways. Perhaps you are meant to set an example for others. Perhaps you are meant to greatly influence others. Perhaps you are meant to inspire others. Whatever those reasons are, you are created with a purpose.

One thing I want to add is that you will be rejected by others. Why do I need to write this? Because rejection is one of the reasons why some may feel inadequate because none of us like rejection. However, if we can reframe that rejection into something else, we will see the beauty in that rejection. As a matter of fact, I want to encourage you to embrace rejection. That’s right! Gosh rejection is beautiful! You don’t want everything and anything that comes your way! It’s important to make room for more wonderful things and people in your life. This is why rejection is so beautiful- it makes room for better people and better opportunities!

When you are true to who you are and when you live your life fully according to the real you, you are actually giving others permission to do the same. That’s right! This is because it is so refreshing to be around people who are true to themselves and there is something about us living fully that resonates with others. That’s because all of us by nature crave to live fully and crave to be our true selves without caring about what others think nor feel. Living your life fully gives others freedom- the freedom to do the same and the freedom to not have to worry about you.

Since I wrote “the freedom to not have to worry about you”, I need to emphasize that not living your life fully and not being who you truly are, you are actually being a burden to others. That burden that you place on them without realizing will make others want to be away from you because indeed it is not freeing to be around someone who is negative towards themselves and not helping themselves.

I want to encourage you to know that who you are and how you live your life matters. Remember that it doesn’t matter who you are, what you do for a living, how many friends you have (it’s not the quantity that matters, it’s the quality), if you are currently single or married, etc., you do influence others. Your life has an impact on others that creates ripple effects. To not think this, I believe, is very selfish from your part because you are not considering how your actions nor who you are affect others and you are denying others of the gift of you.

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The Art of Detachment and Its Value To Your Well-Being

Detachment, I think it’s a word worth exploring and writing about when it comes to your well-being. This may seem the opposite of what you need in life since part of what gives life meaning is the connections and attachments that we have to certain things but whether you recognize this or not, there is a certain level of detachment that we must have for things and people if we are to be mentally and emotionally sane and this is what this post will be about.

The art of detachment is a very important one for your well-being because by detaching yourself from things and people, you are relying upon yourself for your own happiness and to create the life you want. By no means do I mean that you will not create bonds with others or that you will isolate yourself from others or that you will not have any form of feelings towards things or others, not at all! We all need to feel a certain level of attachment and connection to things and people since we are all social beings. However, with this said, the kind of true attachment that you must have is the one with yourself. If you can master having a strong attachment with yourself, you will develop a healthy bond and attachment to others without it compromising your well-being. When you can master this attachment, then the kind of detachment that I am referring to will be easy for you.

The kind of detachment that I am referring to is the kind where despite the fact that you may care about something or someone, you are able to separate your identity from that object or person. It is the kind of detachment where your happiness is not dependent upon what that person does or doesn’t do nor what happens or doesn’t happen. It is not dependent upon whether or not that person or thing exists in your life. The kind of detachment that I am referring to is the kind where your attachment to that object or person is not as strong as the one that you have for yourself.

Why is this kind of detachment important to your well-being? Because it is very dangerous to rely upon a circumstance or person for your happiness. It is dangerous to wait till someone does something or till something happens in order to be happy. By doing so, you are putting your life on hold, you become a burden to others rather than a blessing, you stop yourself from being your full self and you are not able to serve yourself nor others.

Detachment doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it is indeed a necessity to your well-being. What doesn’t serve you is to be completely detached to the point where you have no real feelings towards things or other people. What doesn’t serve you is to have superficial relationships just so you won’t be hurt. No, this is NOT life nor does it help create that great well-being that you need. It is important to create healthy bonds with others but that bond doesn’t have to be what your happiness is based upon. Yes, you need to have healthy attachment to things but it does not have to be THE thing that gives you all your happiness. This is where that art of detachment comes into play. The one attachment that should be so strong no matter what happens in your life is that attachment towards yourself. This is where your true happiness lies.

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You Need to Make Room For Everything

I wrote a post last year about what does it mean to be a positive person and I wrote that being a positive person doesn’t mean that you are always happy and that you just ignore everything that is going on. What I didn’t mention is that truly positive people are the ones who make room in their life for everything, the good and the bad. Making room for everything is so beneficial for your overall well-being and this is what today’s post is about.

Depending on the kind of person that you are or depending on how you have managed to resolve any issues that were unresolved issues in the past, it may be easy to make room for the good things in life. The reason why I started the sentence with “depending on the kind of person that you are or depending on how you have managed to resolve any issues that were unresolved issues in the past” is because believe it or not, there are those who don’t make enough room for the good things in life and this is not healthy. When this is the case, this may indicate that you have a fear of success which needs to be addressed as soon as possible since this is a hindrance to your happiness and well-being.

Likewise, you need to make room for the “bad” stuff as well. What do I mean with this? Whenever you feel sad or angry, make room for these feelings. Don’t hide them nor deny them. Allow yourself room to feel this way, what you can’t do is sit with this feeling for too long. You need to make room for the “bad” stuff because when you don’t, it just boils inside you like a volcano and it’s just a matter of time for that volcano to erupt. Instead, when you make room for this, you are releasing these energies in a healthy way by tending to them, by paying attention to them, by understanding them. I’ve wrote this before and I will write it again, there is power in understanding your feelings. There is also power in making room for these feelings.

How do you make room for everything? When it comes to the “bad” stuff, (and I write “bad” in quotation marks because these things don’t necessarily need to be bad), make some time to feel these emotions. So if you’re feeling sad, set some time to feel that sadness. Cry if you have to but once that time is up, that’s it. That way you can release those emotions rather than hang on to them. Understand those emotions. Emotions provide feedback as to where you currently are in your life, what you need and what you should be doing. After you understand your emotions then do something about what you are feeling. Whatever it is that makes you feel that “negative” emotion, then it’s best to stop doing it. Do things instead that will make you happy. Pay attention to the feedback and act accordingly.

Make also room for the good stuff. Make sure you get your daily dose of happiness. You need to make room for all the good stuff in life. After all, you deserve the good stuff. Make sure you do things that makes your soul beam with joy. Make sure you surround yourself with love and loving people. Make sure you allow yourself to be successful in love, in money, in everything. There are times that we don’t realize that we hinder these things from us.

Part of well-being is also making room for everything in life. It is the making room for everything that allows us to learn and grow from our experiences and makes us appreciate certain things better. It also allows us to have a better understanding of ourselves and others.

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The Purpose of Disappointments

Disappointments…..it’s just one of those things that we will get for as long as we live because they are a part of life. It sucks to be disappointed but they are a part of life and it is necessary to accept this. So if this is part of life, then what is the purpose of disappointments? That’s what I would like to discuss in today’s post.

There are different kinds of disappointments. Some disappointments will come from people, others from circumstances. Some will come from ourselves, believe it or not. There are many possible reasons as to what led to that disappointment such as expectations that one may have, needs that were not met, even miscommunication or no communication from the other person or even from yourself (unfortunately, miscommunication or no communication is a big one and it shouldn’t be this way).

It is important whenever you are disappointed to understand why you are disappointed and what led to that disappointment. This is going to shed some light as to what happened and what you can learn from it so that should something like this happen again, you will know how to respond. Life is wonderful in the sense that Life always gives us back the lessons that we must learn and it will test us to see if we actually learned our lesson or not.

Disappointments can feel like a sour experience. Depending on the degree of your expectations, or the feelings you have towards that person that disappointed you or depending on the circumstance is what will dictate how sour that experience will be for you. Emotions and your perception of what happened play a big role in how you experience things. By no means should you just brush the disappointment you feel under the rug as something insignificant. This is almost equivalent to you having a deep wound and covering it up with a Band-Aid hoping it will heal on its own. I always encourage to feel the pain, although it sucks, and take care of the pain.

I’ve said and wrote before that part of well-being is growth. In order to grow, changes are involved and where there is change, there is learning as well. Disappointments offer you an opportunity to grow in many ways that can make you a better person. It may suck that a friendship broke, a relationship is torn, an opportunity may seem lost, but I’m starting to realize certain things- those that are meant to stay in your life will stay, if a relationship means so much to you, both of you will work things out and opportunities are never lost.

Allow yourself to grow from that disappointment. Look at what you could have done differently, not just what that other person did wrong, but also look at what role you played in that situation. If an opportunity didn’t seem to be yours, that’s because there is something better that is yet to come. If you take everything that comes to you, you will not leave space for the thing that is truly for you. Disappointments have their purpose but it is up to you to let that purpose come forth.

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“Uplift Yourself”

Today as I’m sipping on my favorite brand of tea “Yogi tea”, I read the message that comes with the tea and it reads “Uplift others and uplift yourself”. The part that caught my attention was the “uplift yourself”. With so much that is going on in my life, it can be quite a challenge to uplift myself as I am sure that it is the same for others as well and so I thought of this importance after I read this.

There will be times in your life where others may not necessarily be there to uplift you and this is why it is very necessary to learn to uplift yourself. In the same way that you would encourage others, you need that same encouragement from yourself. “But how can I uplift myself when I have so much going on?” you may ask and what I can share is what I do on a daily basis to uplift myself.

I am aware that everyone’s belief may be different and I respect everyone’s belief and outlook in life so you can take the following advise in a way that suits you. I believe that prayer is one of the greatest ways to uplift yourself. There is something that I can not explain but that truly helps when you need encouragement.

Have faith or the belief that things will change and be better. That belief or faith helps you feel and think differently. It helps change your outlook on the situation. Without the belief or faith that things will be better, you will feel a heavy burden in you that just feels as if it’s dragging you down. This places weight on you that reflects everywhere you go.

Don’t forget to do things that make you happy. For everyone this will be different. For some it is reading, for others it is yoga, or perhaps going for a walk. It is crucial for you to do something that cheers you up because this helps you to relax. It is in a relaxed state that we can accomplish more and endure more.

Remember that you are loved. I think it is easy when one is going through so much or feeling sad or overwhelmed to think that they are lonely. Thinking in this manner just creates negative emotions within you that just doesn’t help. Remember that there are those who love you, who are influenced by you and who also depend on you. Knowing this will help you gain some strength since love is an empowering feeling.

These are just some of the many things that you can do to uplift yourself whenever you need encouragement. We sometimes tend to be so good at being there for others that we forget that we also need to be there for ourselves. This is part of taking care of yourself in order to ensure your well-being.

The Necessity of Having Passion in Life

Passion is a word that is most used in regards to love or lust. However, did you know that in order to have a life full of meaning and purpose then passion is a must? This is what today’s post is about.

Passion is so necessary when it comes to life because passion is what can provide you with the fuel that you need in order to get things done. We are emotional beings and as emotional beings we are driven by our emotions. Having passion for something is what lights you up and gets you moving. Passion is what can provide you with the motivation that you need in order to accomplish a goal. Passion is the feeling behind the purpose.

Without passion, it almost feels as if you have to drag yourself to do things. Things start to feel either bland or heavy and this is not how life is meant to be lived. Without passion, life can feel without much purpose. This is because there isn’t something that is lighting up your soul which is your true essence. Whatever it is that can light up your soul may be different from others around you and that is ok. You were not designed to be like others. You were designed to be you. When you have no passion in life, I believe this is an indicator that you are out of alignment with who you truly are and this is certainly one of the consequences of not being in alignment. Without passion, I believe you can’t be your best you for others because you can only offer your best to others when you are passionate about your life and who you are.

If you don’t have any passion already I recommend you start having passion for life. Life is full of so many things and you are full of so many things as well. There are many qualities to you that make you unique and special. There are times when there are things about us that we may be unaware, jewels that we possess that are hidden within us and it is up to us to start digging for them. I believe everyone has it in them to be passionate about their life, it’s just a matter of figuring out what that is that will take them to that level in their life.

Passion is a must if you want to have a life full of happiness, growth and health. It helps balance your life and this is so necessary for your well-being. I recommend that you start figuring out now what are you passionate about and start living your living according to your passions. This will add tremendous health and happiness into your life.

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Embrace Your Humanness

There will be times where you will make mistakes from time to time. There will be times where you will feel like you can’t seem to get things together. There will be times where you will feel more emotional. There will be times where you will not feel like yourself. When we have times like these, we sometimes tend to be hard on ourselves. I know this very well because I can be the queen of being so hard on myself. For example, when it comes to languages I tend to want to be a perfectionist or when I make a mistake I tend to be so hard on myself and this in itself is a huge mistake.  There will be days where you will make a mistake, say the wrong things, do the wrong things, be more emotional, can’t seem to get things together and you will have those days because you are only human. For your overall well-being, it is very important for you to learn to embrace your humanness.

Embrace the fact that you make mistakes. I’m not talking about mistakes that you know ahead of time that they are mistakes and you do them anyway, no. I’m talking about mistakes that you make that you didn’t mean to make. You perhaps didn’t mean to say things the way you said it. You didn’t mean to do what you did. You mispronounced a word or didn’t do something right. Mistakes, I think, are meant to help you grow so allow yourself to grow from the mistakes you make. You will always be a work in progress.

Embrace the fact that there will be times when it will seem like you can’t get things together. Sometimes life does throw things in our way that makes us feel frazzled or that just throws us off. It’s best to have compassion for yourself in this case and to have compassion for those who find themselves in this situation. You just never know what the other person is going through that they are frazzled themselves.

As human beings our life will continuously be full of lessons, we will never stop growing nor should we stop growing since growth is a part of well-being. For as long as we live we will make mistakes from time to time, the important part is to learn from them. Life is never really perfect so there will be times where you will feel off and that’s ok because you’re only human. The way to avoid being so hard on yourself, I think, is by embracing your humanness because even in your humanness you are perfect the way you are.

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