How You May Unknowingly Be Stepping Away From Your Power

Sometimes we do things we don’t realize that hurt us. We all want happiness, there is no denying of that but we sometimes unknowingly make ourselves unhappy. Being unhappy takes away from your well-being. Part of happiness is knowing and stepping into your power and it is because of this that I would like to write about how you may unknowingly be stepping away from your power.

You unknowingly step away from your power when you hold on to things, situations, people, relationships, etc. that don’t serve you or don’t make you happy. I know how hard it can be to let go, trust me I do. I have held on to people and situations for way too long that didn’t serve me at all. If anything, holding on to those people and situations were just a waste of my time and it made me feel worse and worse with time. So do yourself a favor and let go NOW of the things that no longer serve you. It is important to trust that things are still working out for your favor no matter what.

You unknowingly step away from your power when you are not honest with yourself. I believe I wrote a post on the importance of being honest with yourself even if it hurts. Being honest liberates you. It’s best to feel bad now for a little bit than feel really bad down the road because you were not honest with yourself. Honesty can be one of the hardest things to do but it is a must if you are to grow in well-being. It will liberate you from things and situations you don’t need in your life.

You unknowingly step away from your power when you are not grateful for what you have at this very moment. I don’t know how to describe it but there is something so soothing about thanking God, the universe, whatever you believe in, for all that you currently have. There is emotional and mental power in you being grateful for all you have right now. It brings joy, it brings peace and you will feel loved when you live in gratitude.

You unknowingly step away from your power when you focus on the things that go wrong instead of all the things that are right with your life. Your focus is everything. Your focus determines your energy, your perspective, your emotions, your current physical state since mind influences the way the body will be, etc. Focus on what’s right and more right things will come to you. If this doesn’t come easy, just take baby steps. Catch yourself when you focus on the negative things and change it to positive things.

You unknowingly step away from your power when your self-talk is negative. It’s important to learn to be your own cheerleader. Not all the time will those who usually cheer you up be there when you need them. This is why you need to learn to be your own cheerleader and you do this through your self-talk. If your vocabulary consists of negative words and phrases, this needs to be changed if you are to change your life. Be mindful of the words you use and be mindful of the energy behind those words. The energy, too, matters a lot.

This post would be very long if I were to list more ways that you may unknowingly step away from your power but pay attention to one key indicator that doesn’t lie and it is your emotions. If your emotions are negative emotions, pay attention to how you may have unknowingly stepped away from your power. Your emotions don’t lie. Start now to step into your power. Doing this will add greatly to your well-being.

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Are You Failing Your Courses?

Have you ever noticed that you get the same experience over and over again, just with different people or even different circumstances? Sometimes these experiences are not even pleasant experiences. In situations like these, it is easy to believe that one may be cursed or just have bad luck or perhaps one is a magnet to those things. Have you ever considered that most likely this is occurring because you are actually failing your courses?

Yes, many times we fail many courses- the courses of life. You will forever be a student in the school called Life where every person you meet, every experience, every disappointment, every failure are your teachers. Many of them are great teachers, it’s just a matter of perspective.

I learned the hard way that indeed people do reflect the way we feel about ourselves. How so? Well, if you meet someone who mistreats you and you allow it, that person is teaching you that you need to learn to love yourself. The key phrase in the previous sentence is “you allow it”. This is because you don’t have to be a bad person for bad people to come into your life. Whether you have a good heart or not, you may encounter some people who are not nice, this is not a reflection of you at all. What DOES become a reflection of you is when you ALLOW them to treat you in a way you don’t deserve.

A bad experience can be a huge blessing and a preparation for bigger things that are yet to come. If an experience didn’t go the way you expected or hoped, you learning to see what went wrong and what you could have done different can help you understand what to do better the next time. When you think about what went wrong and what you could have done different, it is important that you do this without any judgement towards yourself. This is important because otherwise analyzing what went wrong and what you could have done differently can backfire you. It backfires you because you end up being hard on yourself.

A disappoint can be a real eye opener. It’s awful to go on in life with blindfolds on, not seeing what is in front of you. A disappointment prepares you for a bigger task and a bigger responsibility that may lie ahead. This is why disappointments can be true blessings.

A person you meet can teach you something you needed to learn or they can tell you something you needed to hear. Even someone that gets you on your nerves is teaching you something whether that be patience, how to mold yourself, teaching you to become more tough, etc. So learn to view even those you can’t stand as blessings because they too serve a purpose in your life. That is part of developing that mental and emotional agility that you need in life.

A failure shows you what went wrong and what to do differently next time. Failures are nothing to be ashamed of since they are a necessary component to life. Without it, you can’t learn to be humble, you don’t learn different ways of thinking or doing things and you just can’t grow as a person.

Once you learn a lesson, you will notice that life will test you to see if you passed the test. How do these tests look like? Well, the same situation will most likely come back again and that is the time to show what you have learned. Once you pass the test, you will notice that you won’t be repeating the same people nor scenario because you truly have learned your lesson.

You will always be given lessons and well, if you don’t learn the lesson right and pass the test, you will just be repeating the same course, over and over again with different people, different circumstances but the result is the same. So I encourage you to think about the following: what is one lesson that you are being pushed to learn? Are you meeting the same kinds of people over and over again? If so, what are you meant to learn? In what ways do you still have to grow? I guarantee you that if you master the lesson and pass the test, you won’t find yourself repeating courses.

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Are You Mentally Paralyzing Yourself?

I have always thought that the worse way to be paralyzed is to be paralyzed mentally. What made me come to this conclusion is that I would analyze how many who are physically challenged would rise up and do things that many would perhaps consider impossible and some who have no physical challenges seem to not achieve much or anything in life and I would ask myself “why is that?”. It is then that I realized that being mentally paralyzed is the worst and this is what I will be writing about in today’s post.

What does it mean to be mentally paralyzed? Being mentally paralyzed means that you mentally make yourself incapable of doing things. There are signs that one gives when they are mentally paralyzed and these are: the frequent use of “can’t”, “I would if I could”, “I don’t have skills/money/talent/connections, etc”, the doing many things at once and not finishing any of the things that are started, believing that you indeed can’t do something or can’t have something, among many other things that actually mask you paralyzing yourself. When you do this, you block all that you say that you want, all that you want to achieve AND you stop yourself from being who you truly are.

You may ask yourself, “who am I?!”. Well, I can certainly say that you are NOT your “can’ts”, your “I would if I could”, your lacks, etc. However, it is your constant focus on these things that makes you become the very thing that you don’t want to be! In order for you to become unstuck, you NEED to remove your blocks, you NEED to get out of your own way, you NEED to stop saying that you can’t do something or that you don’t have something. You can’t wait for something to change in order for you to change! YOU need to change in order for things to change! I know that this is easier said or written than done but it is much more fruitful to move yourself out of the way and this I can write for personal experience. For as long as you keep focusing on your lacks, for as long as you keep saying that you can’t, you won’t go anywhere and you have no one else to blame but yourself.

For your well-being, it is important to question whether or not you are mentally paralyzing yourself whenever you are in a situation that you don’t want to be. Many times we don’t have the life that we want because it is us who are hindering that from happening. It is important to access the way you are talking, assess the actions you are taking and then from there make changes. If you can remove yourself out of your own way, you will see yourself achieving that which you want to achieve.

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Is There Anything That Is Draining You?

I find that sometimes one of the reasons why one may feel unmotivated or exhausted or not have the discipline to do the things that they want to do is because there is something that is draining them. When this is the case, it seems and feels as if there is nothing that can cheer you up, nothing that can motivate you and it may feel like no amount of sleep gives you the energy you need for the day. If this is the case, it is necessary to figure out what is it that is draining you.

There are several things that can drain a person and it is important to pinpoint which one it is. There are some things that it is inevitable not to feel drained like when a loved one is sick but even so, in times like this it is still very important to take care of yourself. When this happens, it takes very little to lose your balance and you will feel at times as if you have to play catch up. Even in times of distress, it is important to do your best to eat right. Not just eat but eat right. What you eat is what will sustain you. You also have to do your best to do things that relax you. I know for personal experience that this is a challenge but finding a way to distract yourself, even if it is for 30 minutes, will help minimize the amount of stress your body is going through. You also need to make sure you are getting your sleep. Sleep is so essential and you will most definitely need it when having to make tough decisions. Sleep is one of those things that I would have to discuss on another post but it is so necessary for your overall health.

There are people who can actually drain your energy. You will know when this is the case based on how you feel after either talking to them or being around them. They either constantly talk about things that are so plain depressing or their ways just suck the life out of you or they put you down. You don’t need that! When this is the case, the first step is recognizing this, then understand what it is that makes it draining for you so you know what you don’t need from others and either minimize your contact with them or just stay away from them completely. Life is too beautiful for you to be around those that don’t make you feel good.

Sometimes it is work that can drain you. In this case you have several options. If you really can’t stand the job, start looking for another one. Work is where you spend most of your time during the day and so you can not afford to feel so miserable most of the time. This is so damaging to your overall well-being. If for whatever reason you are unable to change jobs, do your best to change your perspective of it. Sometimes a change of mindset is what we need in order to feel differently about this.

The list can go on and on of the things that can drain you. It is important that you learn to identify what it is that makes you feel this way and do something about it. Your well-being depends on it.

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