Are You Feeding the Negative Emotion?

This is an extremely important topic because many times we overlook how we are feeding the emotions we are feeling. So, if you or anyone you know is constantly feeling the blues, feeling overwhelmed or feeling empty, this post will be of value for you.

If you are constantly feeling any “negative” emotion, have you considered the fact that perhaps you are unknowingly feeding that “negative” emotion? The reason why I write the word negative in quotation marks is because I don’t think any emotion is negative. However, they can turn negative when we don’t learn and understand that emotion that we are feeling.

Any emotion that you are feeling is just feedback from your soul. It is your job to sit with it for a bit and understand it. Just like you would sit with your child and listen to him/her when he/she is feeling a certain way, it’s important that you do the same with yourself. This is a form of self-love and self-care. It is when we don’t do this that we start to neglect ourselves. When we neglect ourselves, those emotions that one would consider negative then turns negative,  which eventually then starts eating us up, affecting other areas of our life.

Our actions, apart from our thinking, also affect our emotions. So if you constantly find yourself feeling down, worried, anxious, etc., you have to consider the actions that you are taking. Are you feeding that emotion that you are feeling? If so, why?

You may wonder “how am I feeding this emotion if I don’t want to feel this way?!” Well, good question! We don’t intentionally do this but sometimes we do. The way you may be constantly feeding that emotion is if, say for example, you are feeling depressed and so you feel like not doing anything. The very act of not doing anything, just sitting there and not going out, not getting yourself dressed, is feeding that emotion. If you feel fear of doing something that you know would be very helpful for you and would move you forward, you giving into that fear is feeding that emotion.

I know it is easier said that done but it is necessary to be conscious of the actions you take and not feed that emotion. If you feel very down and you feel like not doing anything, do the opposite of what you are feeling. Do something because this will break what you are feeling. The more you keep feeding that emotion, the worse you will feel. This is when it becomes a cycle that seems difficult to break.

For your well-being, it is a must to be conscious of your actions and feelings. It is a must to break any emotion that can become negative for you. You break it by not feeding that emotion. You stop feeding it by doing the opposite of what you are feeling.

With today’s post, I would like to encourage you that if you are feeling the blues on a consistent basis, if you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, etc., look into your actions and don’t feed that emotion. As you do this, I promise you that you will start to feel better with time.

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La hierba nunca es más verde del otro lado

Creo que como seres humanos es normal pensar que quizás otra persona tiene una vida mejor que uno, que quizás puede encontrar una persona mejor que la persona que se tiene al lado, etc. Este tipo de mentalidad, por más normal que sea, le puede prevenir de ver todo lo bueno que tiene en frente de usted. Es por eso que quisiera animarlo a que vea que la hierba nunca es más verde del otro lado.

Para aclarar, este dicho que la hierba nunca es más verde del otro lado es un dicho en inglés para expresar que lo que otra persona tiene o hacer no es necesariamente mejor que la de usted. Es de esto que me refiero cuando uso este dicho.

No espere hasta que algo se haya perdido para que usted comience a valorarlo. Recuerde que usted actualmente tiene cosas que otros quisieran tener. Eso puede ser el trabajo que usted tiene otro quisiera tener. Puede ser la relación que usted tiene, alguien quisiera tener una relación como la suya. Quizás hasta una cualidad física suya otro quisiera tener. Lo que sea, recuerde que usted tiene algo que otro quisiera tener.

También, su hierba será del verde que usted la haga. Quizás la hierba de otra persona se ve más verde porque ellos la están cuidando. Con esto dicho, comience a cuidar de lo que usted tiene. Lo que sea que usted ve en los demás, porque usted no trata de hacer lo mejor por tener esa cualidad pero de manera que sea única como usted. Comience a tomar los pasos necesarios para que usted pueda tener las cosas que quiere, la vida que quiere, las relaciones que usted quiere, el trabajo que quiere, etc.

Quisiera animarlo a que comience a ver las cosas maravillosas que tiene. Pregúntese: ¿Qué tengo hoy por lo cual puedo estar agradecido? ¿Qué tengo que es maravilloso? ¿Cuáles son las cosas de mi mismo que son asombrosas? ¿Cómo puedo mejorar la relación que tengo en este momento? ¿Cuáles son las cosas de esta relación que me gustan? ¿Qué es lo bueno de tener el trabajo que actualmente tengo?

El hacerse estas preguntas ayudará a su mente a pensar y a ir hacia una dirección positiva. Recuerde que su hierba será del verde que usted la haga. Trate lo mejor posible por cuidar lo que tiene. Recuerde que en cada aspecto de su vida, usted cosecha lo que siembra. Si usted quiere que su vida sea como usted quiera, está en usted en hacer el trabajo que se requiere. Usted tiene el poder de hacer que su hierba sea del verde que usted quiera y recuerde que sólo porque la hierba de otra persona se vea más verde, no quiere decir que sea más grande o mejor que la suya.

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How Hungry Are You?

Hunger….is something that we try to suppress because let’s face it, hunger is uncomfortable. No, I’m not referring to physical hunger. I’m referring to the hunger that you have to improve your life and well-being.

I constantly hear people saying that they want a better life but yet if you ask them “what are you doing to have the life you want?”, they say nothing. I have said over and over again, it’s not enough to just want, you have to be HUNGRY. So I would like to ask you now, how hungry are you?

How hungry are you to lose weight? If you are not doing anything to change your diet and lifestyle, then you are not truly wanting to lose weight. How hungry are you to change your financial situation? If you’re not doing anything viable to start changing your financial situation, then you truly don’t want to change it. How hungry are you to make your dreams come true? If you are not taking the first step to get to where you want to go, then you truly don’t want that dream to come true.

It is a must to face your fears. Fear is a part of life but it doesn’t have to stop you! Things will be challenging but it’s all part of the bigger picture. Also I want to encourage you not to compare your first step with other people’s first step. The reason for this is because everyone is in a different journey in life. Everyone’s path will be different no matter how similar it may be.

I learned to embrace hunger. Hunger creates pain so I encourage you to feel that pain. Feel it until the continue feeling of that pain is greater than the fear you may feel. That is what will help you do what you must do in order to have the life that you want.

Once again, and I mean it with all my heart, wanting is not enough in life no matter what you may want. You need to have hunger. Hunger is a must because hunger pushes you to do what you must do in order to satisfy that hunger. So don’t suppress the hunger. Feel it until it seriously hurts then do something to change the situation.

So if you want the things you want but are not doing anything serious about it, ask yourself how hungry are you. The lack of action is an indicator that the hunger is not there. It takes being hungry to take the action necessary to have the life and well-being that you want. Embrace that hunger until it hurts and then go do something about that hunger!

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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Fillers Are Just That….Fillers!

I think and observe and I’ve come to the conclusion that so many things are filled with fillers. Normally when one hears or reads the word “fillers”, they may think of supplements since there are supplements filled with fillers but claim to just have vitamins and minerals. Well, it’s not just supplements that have fillers, I challenge you to think if you are filling your life up with fillers.

What are these fillers that I am referring to? Well, fillers can be many things. It can be you being so concerned for another person as a way to not pay attention to what you need to be concerned with which is yourself. It can be you getting distracted with something that only adds drama into your life in order to fill up a void you may have. It can be you trying to put a band-aid on a wound that still needs to heal. All these things are just filling up on something that needs to be worked on.

Fillers in food can be toxic over time. This is because the body was not designed to handle those kinds of chemicals. Same thing with the fillers that one may try to add onto their life. You are meant to feel whole and great on a consistent basis but you can’t for as long as you avoid the real issues in your life. One thing I need to clarify in this post is that when I write, “you being so concerned for another person”, I am not referring if you are a mother or father of a young child or teenager or if you are a son or daughter who is there for an elder parent. That is NOT what I am referring to. I am referring to whether you are worried and concerned about everyone else except for yourself. It is important to remember that if you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be in the right position to care for another person.

Fillers are also toxic because overtime, the body gets to a point where it can no longer handle what is being ingested. The same thing goes to fillers that you allow in your own life. Overtime, those fillers either won’t be enough to get you to a point of wholeness or those fillers will be toxic for you mentally and emotionally. There is a Spanish saying “no puede tapar el sol con un dedo” which means “you can’t cover the sun with a finger”. You can’t hide for long what is really wrong in your life. You can’t deny for long what needs to change in your life, otherwise it will all catch up to you.

If you currently find yourself or know someone who finds themselves trying to do everything possible to fill themselves up in ways that are unhealthy, I encourage you and the other person, then, to think about any ways that you may be filling your life up with fillers. You deserve a whole and great life and certainly fillers are not the way to get there.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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The Positive and Negative of Everything

I’ve been pondering and asking myself why for many great things there has to be a negative to it. I’m working out this morning and although I love to workout and I’m helping my health with that, my hair has to be a nice mess afterwards. It makes me feel as if I have to choose between my body or my hair. Same thing with other decisions that I have to make, there are positives and negatives to everything. It makes me wonder why this is and this is what today’s post will be about.

I think one of the best comparisons to describe how life functions is a battery- it has a positive and a negative side. The battery, in order to function the way it is supposed to, needs both sides. If both sides are positive or negative, it just can’t work right. For as much as we would like for life to just have the positive, it can’t function if there is no negative.

So what’s the purpose of having both in our life? They both help balance each other out. This goes with everything in life. You can’t understand what true happiness is unless you know what sadness is. You can’t fully comprehend what true abundance is until you experience lack. You don’t fully appreciate your body until you get sick. You don’t fully appreciate the role someone plays in your life until you miss them. Certain places have to have their own downside because otherwise if it were to suite everyone, there would be a problem whether that problem is a place being overpopulated or very stressful, etc. This is what having the good and the bad can do, it can balance things out.

Balance is what contributes to your well-being and this is key. You need both sides in order to balance out your life. It is through balance that things can work in harmony. Nature intended it to be that way.

Having the negative along with the positive can bring out the creative side in us. This is because the negative can make you look for solutions as to how to a handle a situation. For example, I have to be creative with my hair in order to make it look nice after I workout. Certain things force the creative side of you and that is great.

So, if nature intended it this way, how can one handle the positives and the negatives when making certain decisions? When it comes to making decisions, you have to see what weighs more for you. It’s a matter of knowing who you are and knowing what matters most to you.

When it comes to cases where the negatives of something highly impacts your well-being, if it’s a decision that you made to have that positive in your life but it comes at a high price, then you have to mold yourself to the negative. What I mean with this is to find a way to work around the negative. For instance, if it’s a job that affects your health due to odd hours of work, then create your life and make a schedule that can still fit your job. The point is that you want to work with what you have and make the most of it.

Life indeed is like a battery with its positive and negative sides and both are needed in order for things to work in harmony. Both sides are needed in order to have balance in life. I encourage you to start looking at everything from this perspective.

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How To Get Energy When You Feel Emotionally Exhausted

There are times in your life when you feel physically exhausted but not because you have worked too hard or because you haven’t slept well, but because perhaps you are going through some either inner conflict or you are going through a rough time in your life that is robbing your energy emotionally. I think this kind of exhaustion is one of the worst kinds because if you are not careful, you can slip down and maybe even fall into depression. When feeling this way, how can you find the energy to keep going?

First thing I believe is to acknowledge what you are feeling. I believe that denying what you are feeling is not helpful nor conducive to truly moving forward. By denying what you are feeling it’s like trying to make believe that the wound that you have isn’t even there yet it is bleeding and needs your attention.

Try to understand where this feeling is coming from. Ask yourself what can you learn from what you are feeling. I believe there is always something to learn from everything whether it is good or bad. Every experience is a chance to become a better person and understanding where your hurt is coming from can provide important insight to you that can open up the opportunity for healing. The way to heal something is by understanding what is causing the pain/hurt.

Take things day by day, minute by minute. Just try to take one step at a time, put one foot in front of the other.

As hard as it may be to find the positive in even the most negative moments of life, it is a must to find the positive in everything. What focusing on the negative does is that it magnifies the bad things which then affects your emotions which will then affect your energy levels. Think about this, anything you dread to do, anything you don’t feel excited about doing will deplete your energy. By focusing on the positive, you are shifting your mindset which will then shift your energy- energy that you need to keep going even when the going gets tough.

It would be wonderful if there was an easy answer, a magic pill that would give us all the emotional energy we need when the going gets tough. The truth is that there is no such thing but there is one person who has the capacity to give you that emotional energy you need and that is YOU. With your acceptance of your feelings, with your own compassion towards yourself, with you doing your best to heal your wounds and see the positive in everything, you have the power to get the emotional energy that you need. I’ve said and written over and over again, well-being is something to work on everyday. It is something that you cultivate, nurture and create. It is YOU who have this power.

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Think About Something Else

Some of you may know that my family and I are going through a difficult moment with my dad’s health. Today I spent the day with my mom and had to convince her, literally force her, not to go to the hospital to see my dad since seeing the state in which my dad is in is too hard for her. This was my suggestion since she is every single day by his side without taking care of herself the way she should which is not healthy for her. During the day it was tempting to speak about my dad and I had to remind her to think about something else. I am happy to know that this helped and this is what I would like to encourage you to do in today’s post if you are going through a rough time.

Indeed it is very tempting to think about the very thing that makes you sad, however, this is not beneficial for you in any way. Constantly thinking about what hurts you or makes you sad will make you spiral down, hurting your well-being in every way. In the end, you are of no good to yourself nor to others.

Thinking about something else isn’t about making believe that the problem or what hurts you isn’t there. Instead, it is about restoring your mental and emotional sanity so that you don’t start heading towards the negative path. And what is that negative path? It’s the negative path of feeling depressed, of being mentally clouded, feeling hopelessness, thinking and feeling that things are coming to an end, etc. These are path of destruction which leads you to a dead end street. It doesn’t serve you. In life, in order for you to solve problems and get things done you need strength and clarity and being on the negative path robs you of both these things.

How can you think about something else? Either listen to a music that makes you feel really good, talk to a really good friend that you trust, read the bible if that helps you, meditate, watch a funny movie, anything that works for you. Do your best to avoid talking about the topic that hurts you. Do your best not to look at things that reminds you of what hurts you. Again, this is not about you making believe that the problem or what hurts you isn’t there, this is about restoring your mental and emotional sanity. Wherever your mind goes, the emotions follow and wherever the emotions go, the body follows. You want to avoid creating a negative domino effect that takes a long time to repair. Also remember that the way you live your life affects others as well so take that into consideration when you feel really sad.

It is only normal to go through a rough time every so often in life. That’s because it’s life. What is important is how you deal with the rough times and one good way is to remind yourself every so often to think about something else. Doing so will help preserve your mental and emotional sanity, contributing to more well-being not just for yourself but for others as well.

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