You Are NOT Damaged Goods So Don’t Treat Yourself Like So

This post I want to dedicate it to anyone who has been badly bruised by someone, who has “made” them feel inadequate, wrong, or anything that is negative. My purpose with today’s post is for you not to allow anything or anyone make you become damaged goods because once you allow this, this is like catching the flu, only that it can take a really long time to heal.

How can we become damaged goods unintentionally? We can become damaged goods when we allow other people’s issues to become our issues. We can become damaged goods when we give so much to the point that we have nothing left for ourselves. This last thing can make us feel unworthy when those actions, we perceive, are not reciprocated. We can become damaged goods when we don’t learn from our past relationships and experiences. We can become damaged goods when carry negative feelings because of a perceived rejection. One thing I must say that the universe has lovingly taught me is that rejection is not a rejection, it is protection.

Others may do things that we may not understand why they do them. First and foremost, that is not your problem and it is not for you to try to figure out why they did it in the first place. Yes, analysis of a situation is a must so that we can grow. However, investing your time trying to figure out why someone did something when you did nothing wrong to them will only create issues for you that you have no business having in the first place.

Almost 99% of the time what others say and do is a direct reflection of the way they feel and think about themselves. This is because we only offer what we have inside and because we are the ones responsible for the way we decide to perceive and react toward a situation. No one else is but us. This means that you are not responsible for the way someone decides to speak or behave, so then this can help alleviate some of the pressure of trying so hard to impress or please others. Now, I would like to clarify that this does NOT give you permission to speak or treat others in a disrespectful manner because they “are responsible for the way they react to a situation”. At all times we have to be mindful of our actions and have compassion and empathy for others.

When you have done nothing wrong to someone who has done you wrong, you can have the peace of mind that from your end you are good. You have no regrets, nothing to worry about in terms of you hurting others. Therefore, don’t carry that hurt and anger with you. Those negative feelings that you carry as a result of someone else’s actions is only hurting you, not the other person.

You deserve to be in peace with what you do in life. You deserve to feel free to be yourself. You deserve to carry only the responsibility of your actions and your life. You will feel all this if you liberate yourself from the feelings that other people’s actions have caused. Remember that people reflect who they are inside, how they think and feel about themselves and their life. It is not your responsibility to change others but it is your responsibility to change yourself for the better.

As you can read, becoming damaged goods can be quite easy but it is up to us not to become damaged goods. I would like to encourage you with today’s post that if you haven’t done so, work through any issues that a situation, a relationship or the past has created in you. You are NOT damaged goods nor should you allow anything to make you become a damaged good.

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Are You Feeding Diseases?

These past few days have been very stressful for me because of what my family and I are going through with my dad’s health. Finding him a rehab center was more challenging than we have thought. Luckily this week, after many weeks of looking for a rehab center for him, we finally found one that accepted my dad with all his medications. After one emergency after another, after speaking so much with social workers, with doctors, doing research, going around checking out facilities, there were times that I put my health aside, really. I skipped meals these past days, it was challenging to sleep and it got to a point where I knew that my regular routine was lost. I no longer needed strong coffee to feel jittery because I was able to sense that my body, even when there was no reason to feel agitated or stress, it still thought it was in a state of emergency. All this got me thinking about how easy it is to become chronically sick over time and because of this I ask you this one question…are you feeding diseases?

One thing that we sometimes fail to realize is that all of us are prone to diseases. All of us. However, what determines whether we develop a disease or not is our lifestyle. Our genes do play a role, however, whether or not you develop a disease will also depend on your overall lifestyle. This is why I do advocate not to abuse your body on a daily basis because there will be times that because of life’s circumstances your health may be compromised a bit. This is why it is important to give your body the basics on a daily basis. The basics are proper nutrition, proper sleep, physical activity and stress management.

Proper nutrition is the FUEL for the body. You are on the outside what you put in the inside. If you want everything to work properly in your body, feed it not just to control your hunger but to have OPTIMUM health. One thing that I must include with your nutrition is supplementation. It is CRUCIAL to take supplements. Why? Because as the word itself implies, it supplements what you eat. Supplements are not meant to make up what you don’t eat, they are meant to ADD to what you are already eating. However, when choosing supplements, make sure you choose high quality ones which would be pharmaceutical grade. I can discuss more on another post.

Make sure you get enough sleep. Sleep for everyone will be different since some may need more than eight hours of sleep while others may need less. Sleep is so crucial because it is when you sleep that cells are replenished, the immune system gets a boost, anything that you are learning are reinforced in the brain and the list goes on and on as to the benefits of sleep. This is a topic all on its own. If you want to feel balanced, alert, and not feel so hungry, make sure you get sleep.

Awww physical activity, a must to maintain health. It helps the blood circulate better throughout the body, it helps release the feel good chemicals in the body, and there is something about working out that just makes you want to keep up with the healthy eating. Being physically active creates a domino effect in your life so even if you have to start small, do so but stay active. Your body was designed to be in motion.

The last thing but equally important is stress management. Stress was not meant to be eliminated from your life. Stress has its purpose since it helps prepare the body to either “fight or flight” a situation that may be threatening for us. Even though stress has its evolutionary purposes because stress does help the body prepare to deal with a threatening situation or with an emergency, constant stress creates damage to your body over time. This is why it is important that you know how to manage stress. Find things that are soothing and relaxing for you and try to do those things on a daily basis. This is not a luxury, it is a necessity for your overall well-being.

Your overall well-being depends on all of the things that I have discussed in this post. You are worth the investment and time in yourself. Should you want to learn more about supplementation since I am passionate about that topic as well as overall well-being, you can contact me by filling out the “Contact Me” form. I encourage you now to start taking a look at these different areas of your life and to start taking care of your body now.

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