Cambie su perspectiva de la palabra “obligación”

En la entrada del blog de hoy, me gustaría animarlo a algo que quizás al principio no parece hacer una diferencia en su vida pero sí hará una diferencia. ¿Se ha preguntado usted por qué el ir al trabajo no se siente igual como cuando usted primero comenzó a trabajar en ese lugar en donde trabaja ahora? ¿Ha pensado que su relación se siente como otro trabajo en vez de algo que usted disfruta? ¿Se ha preguntado por qué algo que usted disfrutaba ya no disfruta? Aunque puede haber muchas razones por la cual usted se siente de esta manera, una de ellas que es muy común para muchos es la palabra obligación.

La palabra obligación, si usted se pone a pensar, puede poner el cuerpo tenso. Eso es porque esto implica que es algo que se debe de hacer en vez de porque uno quiere hacer. Deberquerer son dos cosas diferentes. Estos dos verbos hasta se sienten diferentes para el cuerpo y el cerebro. Es por esta razón que me gustaría animarlo a que cambie su perspectiva de la palabra obligación. Me gustaría que lo cambie a la palabra opción.

Recuerde, y esto es cierto, que todo es una opción. Usted trabajando en donde trabaja es una opción. Hay otros trabajos y carreras y usted escogió el trabajo que tiene. Recuerde que es una opción el tener el esposo/la esposa/el compañero que tiene. El usted mostrar cariño, amor, el dar atención, todo esto usted lo hace porque usted escogió a esa persona. Por lo tanto, escoja el ver y saber que el usted invertir en su relación no es una obligación, al contrario, es algo que usted escoge hacer.

El lugar en donde usted vive es una opción. Usted no está obligado a quidarse a donde usted no quiere estar. El ambiente en general es una opción. Usted escoge la clase de gente que usted se quiere rodear.

Una cosa que me gustaría aclarar es que estoy conciente y sí entiendo que para algunos esto quizás no es el caso. Entiendo que para algunos quienes, por ejemplo, tienen una familia que mantener, quizás no tienen una opción en cuanto se trata del trabajo que hacen porque necesitan el dinero. Pero hay dos cosas que son opciones y esto es que usted decidió tener una familia Y usted puede cambiar su perspectiva de su trabajo. Si usted cambia su perspectiva de estas dos cosas, usted puede cambiar cómo se siente.

Todo tiene que venir desde un lugar de amor. La obligación no produce amor. El querer sí. En el momento que usted hace las cosas una obligación, ahí es cuando las cosas comienzan a perder su brillo. La obligación hace que el alma se convierta vago. La pereza adormece nuestro gozo. La manera de traer luz y felicidad a las cosas que uno una vez le gustó es regresando a ese amor- amor por nuestro trabajo, amor a nuestro compañero, amor a todo.

¡Recuérdese a si mismo las razones por la cual usted se enamoró de su esposo/su esposa/su compañero! ¡Recuérdese del por qué usted escogió el trabajo que tiene! ¡Recuérdese de qué tan feliz usted era cuando obtuvo ese trabajo! ¡Recuérdese cuando usted por primera vez compró su casa! Recuérdese para que usted pueda comenzar a cambiar su perspectiva de esas obligaciones a opciones. Hay momentos en donde tenemos que recordar para volver a nuestro lugar de felicidad.

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Become an Asset

On today’s post, I would like to encourage you to do one thing that if you don’t get anything else from this blog, this is one thing that you must do that can dramatically change every area of your life and that is to become an asset.

That’s right! For so many of us it is easy to blame other things, people or situations for our shortcomings, our “failures” whether that be in relationships, money, etc. However, none of this helps. All this does is continue the cycle of misery, frustration and dissatisfaction. I find that the best way to overcome shortcomings, misery, frustration and attracting the wrong things over and over again is by becoming an asset.

Become an asset by working on every area of your life. This means that you work on becoming a better self in every way you can- mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. So how can you start becoming an asset and in what areas am I referring to?

Become an asset to your family! Everything starts at home. Ensuring that you become the best mother, father, brother, sister, cousin, etc. will help create a very healthy home. This means that you work on being the best version of yourself because you understand that you are a role model for other family members. So make sure you are a good role model to yourself first so you can be a great role model to others.

Become an asset to your husband/wife or companion! You do this by making sure you are in harmony with yourself because you can only offer what you have. This means that you work on any issue you may have, so if you have any hurt or if you are broken, you work towards becoming whole. What constitutes healthy relationships are two whole people. If you realize that you need professional help in order to heal, then go seek that help. You are worth the investment.

Become an asset at work! Always do your best to acquire new skills so that you can have more to add to the work that you do. Do your best to always be grateful for the job that you have. Always strive to be a great coworker for your fellow work colleagues.

Become an asset for your friends! Do this by always striving to make yourself happy so you have more joy to offer to your friends. Always take care of yourself so that you can be that example to your friends. Always strive to be grateful for all you have as a person.

Become an asset to yourself! Yes, you read right. You have to be an asset to yourself. You do this by taking care of your whole body. This means taking care of your mindset, of your spirit and your physical body. This means stating positive affirmations to yourself, doing things that you love, being more loving towards yourself and always striving for happiness. This also means taking yourself away from situations that don’t serve you. This last thing I wrote is a form of love because you don’t allow yourself to be in situations that are harmful to you.

Becoming an asset is about making the effort and taking responsibility for your life. This is crucial to your overall well-being. It all starts with a decision so make a decision to choose yourself first and become an asset.

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What to Look For When Choosing People For Your Life

This post is especially important for me and for everyone but this area of our life seems to be one that we neglect or may not see its importance. One area that we constantly overlook when it comes to our well-being is our social life. Our social life when it comes to our well-being includes ALL relationships- family, friends and even our romantic partners. Because this area impacts greatly our well-being, today I would like to discuss what to look for when choosing people for your life.

Each and every one of us are different. However, there are certain basic things that we all need from everyone that we allow into our life and there are certain things that one must take into consideration when choosing friends, the family that we choose to spend a lot of time with and especially when choosing your romantic mate.

First, choose people with integrity. The definition of integrity is whole and honest. With this said, choose people who are whole because those are the people who will have so much love to give to you. These are people who have nothing but beautiful things to share about themselves. Also choose people who are honest. Honesty is a big one because to be honest with others, one must first be honest with themselves and sometimes being honest with oneself can be difficult for some.

Choose people that care about you for you, not for what you can offer them materialistically or anything of that sort. People who choose what you have to offer materialistically and not what you have to offer mentally, emotionally and spiritually will not last in your life. As a matter of fact, those people the moment you cut off whatever it is that they came after will disappear from your life and that is great because you don’t need them anyways. Those that love you for you won’t care if you don’t have anything material to offer to them. Your presence alone will be enough and what a gift your presence can be!

Choose people who love themselves and their life. You can only give what you have so when you have no love for you and your life, you can’t possibly have love for others. Those that love themselves will be able to provide you with a healthy love.

Choose people who are forgiving and have compassion. In every relationship, meaning interaction that you have with others, there will be, let me repeat, there will be disagreements, arguments and moments where you will be upset with the person. Holding on to a grudge or anger doesn’t serve anyone. A mature person has the capacity to see both sides of the story and be able to forgive and move on. There are certain circumstances where there is an exception like when someone betrays you or shows qualities that are big no-nos and you just simply can’t tolerate that in your life. For everything else, choose someone who knows how to forgive, have compassion and understanding.

Relationships are one of the pillars of well-being. It is important to know how to choose the people that you allow in your life as well as what to look for when choosing those people.

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Clarification of Ignorance and Which Is The Bad Kind

You probably think I sometimes write odd titles for my blog posts. Perhaps this is one of the most odd ones yet because one perhaps wouldn’t think that ignorance has much to do with our well-being but boy does it have so much to do with our well-being.

I want to start by clarifying what ignorance means. Many associate the word “ignorance” with something negative and this doesn’t have to be a negative thing at all. Ignorance is the lack of knowledge of something or the not being aware of something. With this said, to a certain extent we all are ignorant because we all don’t know it all. There is so much out there in the world, so much to learn, so many theories that we can’t possible know it all and that’s ok. What is not ok, in my book at least, is the kind by choice.

Because we all don’t know everything, we are all ignorant to a certain extent. I just want to clarify that and emphasize that being ignorant of something is not something negative. It just is what it is. When you learn that you are ignorant of something, be grateful of this awareness and open to learning about it. It is because of this that it is important to always have a student mindset because as you have this kind of mindset, you will always ensure your growth in every way.

The bad kind of ignorance and the one that you should never strive to have is the ignorance by choice. What does this mean? This means that you know that you are unaware of a particular issue or topic and decide not to learn more about it. The reason way this is the bad kind of ignorance is because what you don’t know can hurt you and kill you. It kills your possibility of enjoying good health, a good life and of being your best self. How so? Let me just bring up an example to illustrate what I mean. If you know you have a medical condition but decide to make the choice not learn and understand that condition you have as well as ways to help your body, you are actually killing your possibilities of living a great life despite your medical condition. Ignorance by choice hurts you as well. It hurts your chances of making the right choices, it hurts your power, it hurts everything.

Ignorance…it’s one of those topics in which one may not agree with me that it’s good to know as much as you can because sometimes the more you know, the more disgusted you can get at certain things because of the level of understanding you may have. I think that the more you know, the better choices you can make in every regards and that in my book is a great thing. Make it your goal to take advantage of the resources that you may have to know as much as you can for the betterment of your life.

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Think About Something Else

Some of you may know that my family and I are going through a difficult moment with my dad’s health. Today I spent the day with my mom and had to convince her, literally force her, not to go to the hospital to see my dad since seeing the state in which my dad is in is too hard for her. This was my suggestion since she is every single day by his side without taking care of herself the way she should which is not healthy for her. During the day it was tempting to speak about my dad and I had to remind her to think about something else. I am happy to know that this helped and this is what I would like to encourage you to do in today’s post if you are going through a rough time.

Indeed it is very tempting to think about the very thing that makes you sad, however, this is not beneficial for you in any way. Constantly thinking about what hurts you or makes you sad will make you spiral down, hurting your well-being in every way. In the end, you are of no good to yourself nor to others.

Thinking about something else isn’t about making believe that the problem or what hurts you isn’t there. Instead, it is about restoring your mental and emotional sanity so that you don’t start heading towards the negative path. And what is that negative path? It’s the negative path of feeling depressed, of being mentally clouded, feeling hopelessness, thinking and feeling that things are coming to an end, etc. These are path of destruction which leads you to a dead end street. It doesn’t serve you. In life, in order for you to solve problems and get things done you need strength and clarity and being on the negative path robs you of both these things.

How can you think about something else? Either listen to a music that makes you feel really good, talk to a really good friend that you trust, read the bible if that helps you, meditate, watch a funny movie, anything that works for you. Do your best to avoid talking about the topic that hurts you. Do your best not to look at things that reminds you of what hurts you. Again, this is not about you making believe that the problem or what hurts you isn’t there, this is about restoring your mental and emotional sanity. Wherever your mind goes, the emotions follow and wherever the emotions go, the body follows. You want to avoid creating a negative domino effect that takes a long time to repair. Also remember that the way you live your life affects others as well so take that into consideration when you feel really sad.

It is only normal to go through a rough time every so often in life. That’s because it’s life. What is important is how you deal with the rough times and one good way is to remind yourself every so often to think about something else. Doing so will help preserve your mental and emotional sanity, contributing to more well-being not just for yourself but for others as well.

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What Determines the Choices That We Make?

Last week I wrote about how it all comes down to our choices but what is it that determines the choices that we make? Well, that’s what I would like to write about in today’s post.

There are many factors that influence the choices that we make. Two big ones are our feelings and our mind frame at the time that we make our choices. We are emotional beings and as emotional beings, we are highly influenced by how we feel and that plays a big role in the decisions that we make. When you feel down, needy, or you are coming from a place of emptiness, of course you won’t make the right choices. When you are tired or stressed, you are most likely to choose foods that are sugary or the bad carbs. When you feel lonely and needy or don’t feel so good about yourself, you are most likely to choose people that are no good for you. Likewise, when you feel good and relaxed, you are most likely to choose healthy foods. When you feel good about yourself and feel a sense of fullness, you are most likely to choose people that are good for you. This is the power of emotions.

Your mind frame also plays a huge role in the choices that you make. The wrong mindset can attract even your worst nightmare. It will feel as if you are a magnet for bad things and in essence, when your mindset is wrong for you, indeed you do attract the wrong things. It’s not that you necessarily attract it, but it is as if you can not filter what is bad for you. When your mindset is not right, of course your emotions won’t be right. Everything is connected, therefore, where your thoughts are, your emotions will follow as well. The wrong mindset can lead you to thinking that what you would like is not possible, leading you to make the wrong choices. However, when your mindset is right, you will find yourself looking at the possibilities of things no matter how hard something may seem.

When making a decision, it is important to understand your reason behind that decision and the consequences of that decision. Everything has consequences whether they are good or bad. Consequences are nothing more than the results that we get from every action we take.

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Todo está en sus decisiones

Lo encontré interesante cómo alguien encontró mi blog escribiendo “me levanté sintiendo triste, qué esto quiere decir” en su búsqueda. Quien haya sido que ha escrito esto, primero le quiero dar las gracias por leer el blog y espero que con lo que escribo hoy esto le pueda dar luz a lo que usted estaba buscando.

Creo que hay razones para nuestras emociones. El que uno entienda esa emoción o no ya esa es otra historia y un tema diferente lo cual puedo escribir en otro momento. La razón por la cual lo encuentro tan esencial el escribir sobre esto es porque quizás hay muchos quienes no entienden el por qué de lo que sienten y están tratando de entender el por qué.

Cuando se sienta triste, es importante saber el por qué usted está triste y es aún más importante que usted sepa que todo está en sus decisiones. Usted toma la decisión todos los días de cómo usted se va a sentir, cómo usted va a dejar que las cosas lo afecten y usted es quien escoge si usted va a vivir una vida feliz. Usted sí tiene el control sobre su vida de tantas maneras aunque usted se dé cuenta o no.

Cuando se sienta triste, usted debe de preguntarse el por qué de esto y tomar la decisión de ser feliz. Tome la decisión de vivir la vida que usted siempre ha querido. Tome la decisión de vivir una vida saludable. Tome la decisión de rodearse de personas que lo apoyen y quieran. Tome la decisión de ser la mejor persona que usted puede ser. Sepa que sus emociones son una parte de usted pero no lo tienen que dominar a usted. Quiero aclarar que no estoy diciendo de ignorar sus emociones o que usted se esfuerce de sentir felicidad cuando usted se siente triste, para nada. Quisiera añadir que si usted se siente triste sin razón por más de dos semanas, recomiendo que usted busque ayuda profesional. No hay nada de malo con buscar ayuda profesional si lo necesita. Pero sepa que usted sí tiene el control sobre su vida.

Cuando una situación o persona lo “hace” sentir de una cierta manera, sepa que la decisión es suya de cómo usted va a permitir que esa persona o situación lo haga sentir. La persona en control de sus emociones es USTED. Nadie ni nada más tiene ese control.

Si tiene una situación que simplemente no lo hace feliz, la decisión es suya si usted va a continuar en esa misma situación o no. Usted tiene dos opciones- o usted cambia la situación o usted cambia su perspectiva sobre la situación. El sentirse miserable en la misma situación no debería ser una opción y una vez más, la decisión es siempre suya.

Todo desde lo que uno come, hasta las amistades que uno tiene, la persona con quien uno se casa, la manera que vivimos, la manera que pensamos y todo las demás cosas son decisiones que uno toma a diario que tienen un impacto en nuestra vida aunque sea de manera pequeña. Usted siempre se tiene que recordar que no importa lo que sea, todo está en las decisiones que usted toma.

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