How You May Unknowingly Be Stepping Away From Your Power

Sometimes we do things we don’t realize that hurt us. We all want happiness, there is no denying of that but we sometimes unknowingly make ourselves unhappy. Being unhappy takes away from your well-being. Part of happiness is knowing and stepping into your power and it is because of this that I would like to write about how you may unknowingly be stepping away from your power.

You unknowingly step away from your power when you hold on to things, situations, people, relationships, etc. that don’t serve you or don’t make you happy. I know how hard it can be to let go, trust me I do. I have held on to people and situations for way too long that didn’t serve me at all. If anything, holding on to those people and situations were just a waste of my time and it made me feel worse and worse with time. So do yourself a favor and let go NOW of the things that no longer serve you. It is important to trust that things are still working out for your favor no matter what.

You unknowingly step away from your power when you are not honest with yourself. I believe I wrote a post on the importance of being honest with yourself even if it hurts. Being honest liberates you. It’s best to feel bad now for a little bit than feel really bad down the road because you were not honest with yourself. Honesty can be one of the hardest things to do but it is a must if you are to grow in well-being. It will liberate you from things and situations you don’t need in your life.

You unknowingly step away from your power when you are not grateful for what you have at this very moment. I don’t know how to describe it but there is something so soothing about thanking God, the universe, whatever you believe in, for all that you currently have. There is emotional and mental power in you being grateful for all you have right now. It brings joy, it brings peace and you will feel loved when you live in gratitude.

You unknowingly step away from your power when you focus on the things that go wrong instead of all the things that are right with your life. Your focus is everything. Your focus determines your energy, your perspective, your emotions, your current physical state since mind influences the way the body will be, etc. Focus on what’s right and more right things will come to you. If this doesn’t come easy, just take baby steps. Catch yourself when you focus on the negative things and change it to positive things.

You unknowingly step away from your power when your self-talk is negative. It’s important to learn to be your own cheerleader. Not all the time will those who usually cheer you up be there when you need them. This is why you need to learn to be your own cheerleader and you do this through your self-talk. If your vocabulary consists of negative words and phrases, this needs to be changed if you are to change your life. Be mindful of the words you use and be mindful of the energy behind those words. The energy, too, matters a lot.

This post would be very long if I were to list more ways that you may unknowingly step away from your power but pay attention to one key indicator that doesn’t lie and it is your emotions. If your emotions are negative emotions, pay attention to how you may have unknowingly stepped away from your power. Your emotions don’t lie. Start now to step into your power. Doing this will add greatly to your well-being.

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How to Start Seeing and Believing in Your Inner Reality

This can be a tough one when the outer reality just doesn’t match how we believe our life is supposed to be. This is because there are certain things that we don’t ask for. We don’t ask to be born in a certain place that perhaps doesn’t resonate with us and the list can go on and on of whatever it is you feel or think you didn’t ask to have or be.

The truth is that you are not condemned to be your genes, your family, your community or whatever it is that you are at the moment. This is because what matters most is how you feel and think you and your life are supposed to be.

So how can you start believing in your inner reality? First, think about what that inner reality looks like. Think about how does it feel like. If it feels right, if it feels really good, go with that feeling. Sit with that feeling for a bit until it feels familiar to you. The purpose of you doing this is that you want to open yourself up to receive guidance as to what the next step should be. Know that everyone is different so the way you may receive your own guidance may be different.

Perhaps you feel compelled to do something and you don’t understand why. That may be your inner being guiding you toward the very thing that is your reality. Before you start thinking that this has nothing to do with believing in your inner reality, I would like to explain something. One very important ingredient to life, even if you don’t believe me at the moment is faith. Faith that you feel the way you do for a reason. If you have a dream inside you, if you have a desire to do something, you have to have faith, which is the belief, that it is placed inside of you for a reason and that the reason is that it is yours already.

I’m sorry to say but if you have no faith whatsoever, you can’t possibly be in a state to receive guidance as to what your next step should be. You can’t because your lack of belief blocks you from knowing what you need to do to get to where you want to get. It’s important to sit with how it feels to live your inner reality because it is there where you will receive inspired action. I look back at my life and it is amazing how it is because I have sat with the emotions of what my inner reality looks like that brought upon a series of events that led me to the very things that I wanted.

So it all starts with faith. Faith that the things that you want are already yours despite what anyone else says and despite how reality looks like. Faith that your life is supposed to be how you envision it to be. Trust me that I understand how frustrating it can be when your reality isn’t the way you want it to be. Trust me that I know that it can be challenging to keep believing when you don’t see what you want coming. But the key is faith and keep sitting with how that inner reality feels so that you can start receiving guidance. It is when you start receiving guidance that slowly but surely you will start seeing reasons to believe in your inner reality.

I’m also going to give this suggestion. Think about all the things that you already manifested in your life. This will help you see that you have the capacity to have the things you want and will help you believe in the things that you want. Start thinking about even the “smallest” things that you were able to have that you wanted. Look for evidence that what you have always wanted is within reach.

To end this post, I would like to encourage you once again to look for evidence that what you have always wanted is within reach. Start having faith and sit with the feelings of that inner reality so that you can start receiving guidance as to what you need to do in order to get yourself closer to living that inner reality.

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Cambie su perspectiva de la palabra “obligación”

En la entrada del blog de hoy, me gustaría animarlo a algo que quizás al principio no parece hacer una diferencia en su vida pero sí hará una diferencia. ¿Se ha preguntado usted por qué el ir al trabajo no se siente igual como cuando usted primero comenzó a trabajar en ese lugar en donde trabaja ahora? ¿Ha pensado que su relación se siente como otro trabajo en vez de algo que usted disfruta? ¿Se ha preguntado por qué algo que usted disfrutaba ya no disfruta? Aunque puede haber muchas razones por la cual usted se siente de esta manera, una de ellas que es muy común para muchos es la palabra obligación.

La palabra obligación, si usted se pone a pensar, puede poner el cuerpo tenso. Eso es porque esto implica que es algo que se debe de hacer en vez de porque uno quiere hacer. Deberquerer son dos cosas diferentes. Estos dos verbos hasta se sienten diferentes para el cuerpo y el cerebro. Es por esta razón que me gustaría animarlo a que cambie su perspectiva de la palabra obligación. Me gustaría que lo cambie a la palabra opción.

Recuerde, y esto es cierto, que todo es una opción. Usted trabajando en donde trabaja es una opción. Hay otros trabajos y carreras y usted escogió el trabajo que tiene. Recuerde que es una opción el tener el esposo/la esposa/el compañero que tiene. El usted mostrar cariño, amor, el dar atención, todo esto usted lo hace porque usted escogió a esa persona. Por lo tanto, escoja el ver y saber que el usted invertir en su relación no es una obligación, al contrario, es algo que usted escoge hacer.

El lugar en donde usted vive es una opción. Usted no está obligado a quidarse a donde usted no quiere estar. El ambiente en general es una opción. Usted escoge la clase de gente que usted se quiere rodear.

Una cosa que me gustaría aclarar es que estoy conciente y sí entiendo que para algunos esto quizás no es el caso. Entiendo que para algunos quienes, por ejemplo, tienen una familia que mantener, quizás no tienen una opción en cuanto se trata del trabajo que hacen porque necesitan el dinero. Pero hay dos cosas que son opciones y esto es que usted decidió tener una familia Y usted puede cambiar su perspectiva de su trabajo. Si usted cambia su perspectiva de estas dos cosas, usted puede cambiar cómo se siente.

Todo tiene que venir desde un lugar de amor. La obligación no produce amor. El querer sí. En el momento que usted hace las cosas una obligación, ahí es cuando las cosas comienzan a perder su brillo. La obligación hace que el alma se convierta vago. La pereza adormece nuestro gozo. La manera de traer luz y felicidad a las cosas que uno una vez le gustó es regresando a ese amor- amor por nuestro trabajo, amor a nuestro compañero, amor a todo.

¡Recuérdese a si mismo las razones por la cual usted se enamoró de su esposo/su esposa/su compañero! ¡Recuérdese del por qué usted escogió el trabajo que tiene! ¡Recuérdese de qué tan feliz usted era cuando obtuvo ese trabajo! ¡Recuérdese cuando usted por primera vez compró su casa! Recuérdese para que usted pueda comenzar a cambiar su perspectiva de esas obligaciones a opciones. Hay momentos en donde tenemos que recordar para volver a nuestro lugar de felicidad.

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Choose People Willing to Do the Inner Work

In today’s post, I want to discuss the importance of choosing people willing to do the inner work.

Healthy relationships start with you. When I write the word “relationships”, I mean any close interaction you have with another human being so this includes friendships, family members, and romantic relationships. How and why does a healthy relationship start with you? Because first you have to be right with you. You have to love yourself. You have to love life. You have to see your own potential. You have to see your own beauty. You have to see your own value. You need to be willing to do your inner work. Once all this is in place, then you choose based on that.

So say for example, if you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself, without realizing it, you most likely will choose people that they are unhealthy themselves. A person with an unhealthy relationship with themselves won’t be able to choose people that are right for them either because deep down inside they don’t feel deserving of healthy love, etc. When you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you are quick to notice when something isn’t right for you and you let it go. This is why it is crucial that you are right with you first.

Just as it is important that you do your inner work, it is important that you choose people willing to do the inner work themselves. This is because people who are not right with themselves don’t have much to offer. We can only offer what we have. So someone who is afraid to make certain decisions and is afraid of happiness will only give fear to you. This means that if you try to engage in a relationship with them, they will confuse you to death because their actions will be that they will push you away or do something that turns you off, etc.

It is only when you are clear in who you are, what you want, on your value and what you deserve that you will get what you want and more. It is then when you can engage in healthy relationships with others, when you can feel great about your life, then attracting more great things into your life and have more to offer to others.

You can tell when someone is willing to do the inner work. How can you tell? Well, let me start off by stating the signs of someone not willing to do the inner work. The first sign is that they live in fear. They are afraid to be happy so they push people away. They have commitment issues that they are not willing to resolve. They are very judgmental of others for silly things. They always find fault in others. They choose to be in relationships or situations that don’t make them happy. They constantly talk about problems. You feel heaviness the moment you are with them. The list can go on. The point is that you end up wondering what happened, is there something wrong with you, your energy shifts for the worse and so on. None of this is good!

Doing the inner work requires one to be willing to look within themselves and work through any issues they may have. It requires one to challenge their limiting beliefs. It requires seeking help should one need help. It requires to notice the patterns in the choices one makes and then be willing to take responsibility for the role they played. Doing the inner work is not easy because of all the emotions that will resurface but it is necessary in order to uncover the things that are holding you back.

Be willing to choose people who are willing to do the inner work because doing so will lead to healthy relationships in which you yourself can blossom as a person. Because you deserve to be loved exactly for who you are; because you deserve to be fully happy; because you deserve a great life, you need to be the first one to be willing to do the inner work so you can then choose someone willing to do the same. You owe this to yourself.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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“It Will All Somehow Get Done”

These past few weeks have been extremely stressful. The last time I’ve been so stressed was when my dad was very ill but this stress, which was brought upon goals that I had set for myself, was certainly not a healthy one. It brought acne to my face, so much that I haven’t seen in a long time, and a body breakdown last week Friday which led to me being in bed all day. I constantly heard a low voice telling me “It will all somehow get done” and had I listened to this inner voice, I don’t think I would have reached that point of stress. It is this that I would like to encourage you in today’s post….no matter what it is that you are trying to accomplish or need to finish doing…it will all somehow get done.

It will all somehow get done, therefore, there is no point in stressing. For what? To stress your body unnecessarily? Raise your blood pressure unnecessarily? Get yourself all out of whack mentally? It doesn’t matter how many goals you have, nothing is more precious than your body so it is a must to relax in the thought that everything will resolve itself.

It will all somehow get done, therefore there is no point in worrying. Worrying is so energy consuming to the point that it paralyzes you. It is actually a low energy vibration so this certainly won’t get you to where you want to go. Worrying robs you of mental and emotional agility, which you need when you have a lot going on.

It will all somehow get done…if you always keep this phrase in your mind, this will help you decrease any negative emotion you may feel due to the overwhelming pressures you may have. As long as you focus on the end result, whatever it is that you want to do, you will see the results of your labor.

It will somehow get done….a powerful phrase, believe it or not, and a way to train your mind and body to not stress itself because of life’s pressure. You were not meant to be stressed to the point of being sick. Enjoy everything you have to do, even the things that are not so pleasant- they are all part of the journey of growing into the person that you are meant to be.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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The Problem With Unresolved Issues

One of the things that can ruin one’s well-being without one realizing is any unresolved issues and this is what I will be writing in today’s post.

Why write about unresolved issues? Because unresolved issues can prevent you from living your life fully. Unresolved issues can make you push away all the goodness and you may not even understand why. Unresolved issues can make you chase all that is not good for you and you may not understand why. Unresolved issues can make you hold on to something that is hurting you and you may find it hard to let go. Unresolved issues can lead you to do things, accept people and circumstances that are unhealthy and can lead to destructive choices. No, I am not exaggerating, it CAN lead to destructive choices.

How can one know when they have unresolved issues? I think the best way is by looking at how your life is. Take a look at what you have been attracting, take a look at what you have been accepting in your life, take a close look at your relationships and take a closer look at how you feel and think about yourself. We accept what we think we deserve. We accept what we feel we deserve. When you know that you deserve better, you don’t accept anything less. Based on the way you view yourself and your life, that’s what you tend to accept.

Where do unresolved issues come from? How does one get to this point? There are many things that can lead to one having unresolved issues. It can come from your childhood, from your parents, the way you were treated in school, any rejection you may have had in the past, any failure and the most important especially as an adult, your perception. Perception is a big one because your perception of anything is everything. What is done to us is not what really matters, it is the way we perceive what happened what matters most. The way that you get to a point of having an unresolved issue is that when something occurs, you perhaps didn’t give it much thought and didn’t processed how something either made you feel and your thoughts of what happened, the lessons, etc. It is important to give things room- give yourself as well as what happened room so that you can digest it. The best way to resolve something is by processing it. It is a mistake to sweep things under the rug or substitute what hurt you for another without first letting it sit for a bit until you learn the lesson and then move on. This is how many without knowing and unintentionally hurt others.

Unresolved issues….it is a must to deal with the issues and move past it. Once again, it is a mistake to sweep things under the rug, substitute what hurt you for another without first letting it sit for a bit until you learn the lesson and then move on, a huge mistake to numb your emotions with alcohol, drugs, food or anything in an unhealthy manner. If you don’t want the issue to creep its ugly head, you might as well learn and grow from it.

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Are You Really Living Your True Life? If Not, How Can You Know?

The past three days have been a bit emotional for me for reasons that what I really want out of life came to the surface and I came to the realization of several things of which I’m pretty sure there are others who feel the same and it is for this reason that in today’s post I ask you to ask yourself…are you really living your true life? If not, how can you know?

Sometimes we live the life that we live because we are trying to please others or we live it because that’s what others think we should be doing. Sometimes we live the life that we live because we are being there for someone else. Sometimes it is our own fear that stops us or even our limiting beliefs that hinder us of being the person we want to be. There are times that when we are just going with the flow of things, we are subconsciously numbing who we truly are and what we are really feeling, making a huge mistake which can be costly. For this reason in today’s post, I would like to discuss how can you know when you are not living your true life.

Pay attention to your emotions. I have said it and wrote before that your emotions are just feedback from your soul. If you wake up every morning hating your life, or not happy with life for whatever reason,  you hate going to your job, you feel sad for no reason, etc, these are things to start paying attention to. You can’t nor should you ignore these feelings because it is an indication that something is seriously wrong in your life and that something has to change. This is equivalent to when your body is giving you symptoms that something is wrong which is an indication that an illness may be developing and you are just ignoring it. Feeling constantly in a negative state is not normal!

Pay attention to your body. There are times when your body has physical manifestations of some emotional or mental hurt that you have. When you are constantly suppressing a yearning, a hurt, an anger, these have to go somewhere. There are times when it comes out as a physical pain whether that is constant headaches, joint pain, etc. If you feel this pain when you are in an environment or in a situation and that same pain goes away when you are away from that environment or situation, that is a sure sign that something you have been suppressing is manifesting physically. Don’t ignore this sign!

Pay attention to the things that you feel strongly about or connect very strongly to something you see or hear. Those are signs from your higher and true self that you are meant to be doing those things and having those things. There are times that one may think that if they don’t have a particular thing that they desire then perhaps that isn’t meant for them when that is not the case. There are times that we may subconsciously numb that desire and as a result we think that we are not meant to have that. Strong feelings or strong connections to things you see and hear are indications that those are things for you to pursue and keep believing in having them. Keep believing that you will have those things which you feel so strongly for!

Well-being is about you living greatly, you living passionately and living authentic to you who truly are regardless of what others may think or feel. This is your life to live, nobody is living this life for you, therefore, you need to live it according to your authentic you.

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