The Balance Between Giving

I realize that other people can tremendously give meaning to our life. It does because we are social beings and as social beings, we have a need to love others and be loved. In order to live a much more meaningful life, it is essential to be a giver, not just a taker. When one hears the verb “giving”, it can easily be thought of as giving to others, however, there are two types of giving that I would like to discuss in today’s post.

The two types of giving is the one when you give to others and the second is the one when you give to yourself. It’s the balance between the two the key to having a truly meaningful life.

We are meant to share what we have- share who we are, what we know, how we feel, what we possess, the love we have, etc. Keeping all this to ourselves is not only selfish, it will also leave us feeling empty and this is because at the end of the day, even up to the final hours of our life, it is the relationships that we have and the quality of those relationships what will mean the most to us.

There is a sense of satisfaction and even completeness to a certain degree when we give to others. By sharing, we are leaving a part of ourselves with those people and we’re adding to their life. Sharing gives us a sense of belonging as well. The one thing to keep in mind when sharing with others is that it is important to share the right things with the right people. With this I mean that when you share your most valuable possessions- that being your body, your heart, your mind, your emotions- it is important to share them with people who care about you. The body part refers more to when you are in a romantic relationship. Your heart, mind and emotions go for both romantic partners and friendships. One thing you will learn if you haven’t learned already is that not everyone will be worthy of your most valuable possessions. When you share with those who can’t value these things, this is when it is easy to feel empty inside. It is the sharing them with the right people that will make you feel good and full.

Just as it is equally important to give to others, in order for you to give to others it is a must to first give to yourself. You can’t serve from an empty glass and this also is the same when it comes to you. You can’t give to others when you don’t give to yourself. First be very giving to yourself- share with yourself love, respect, kindness, goodness, the best stuff, the best food, etc. It is in the you giving to yourself that you will have more than enough for others. You will be overflowing with goodness for others. One thing I must add is that if you are giving to others so that others can give to you, that is a BIG mistake. This actual giving will leave you feeling empty because first of all, you are taking from the little that you have to give to others. Second, because we are all energy, people can sense when we give in order to receive. People can sense when we are not loving to ourselves or when we give out of desperateness. So giving to yourself FIRST is a MUST.

Balance between these two types of giving is a must because although there is great satisfaction in giving to others, you can’t truly give to others from the heart if you first don’t give to yourself.

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Your Christmas Present From Life…

Christmas is just around the corner and for the past several weeks if not months before, I bet you have been planning what Christmas gifts to give to those you love. You probably have been thinking about what to get for yourself. Perhaps you even wondered what are others going to give to you. Have you ever thought, though, what is your Christmas present from Life? And more so, have you been good this whole year to have this present from Life?

There are several gifts from Life that we get that we tend to take for granted. I want to clarify that the reason why I write “Life” and not “God” is to respect those who may be atheist or who may have other beliefs so you may substitute “Life” to anything you believe in. Going back to today’s topic, some of Life’s gifts are health, love and prosperity.

Health is a gift, a very precious one, however, have you been behaving in order to enjoy this precious gift?! What do I mean with this question? I will explain. I can say from personal experience that health is something you truly enjoy when you understand how health works, when you have an understanding of how your body works, when you make the conscious effort to take care of yourself, when you invest in your health. Enjoying good health is your birth right but in order for you to enjoy this right, you have to take good care of your body. This is what I mean when I ask you if you have been good this whole year. The more you know, the better choices you make in regards to your health. Your health is the foundation of well-being.

Love, awww, the fuel of the soul, body and mind. I feel like without love we are literally dead. This is another thing we tend to take for granted. A healthy family, loving and supporting friends are gifts from Life. Have you been good in order to have this year round? What I mean with being good is have you been cultivating these relationships. Have you made it your goal to let those you love know how much they mean to you. Relationships are like plants, if they are not nurtured, they can die. They are nurtured with the care that you give to them. This is also part of having a balanced life.

Prosperity. This can be a tricky one because when one thinks of prosperity, the one thing that comes to mind is money. Indeed money is part of the prosperity piece. Having success in life is truly a gift but have you been good to deserve this? With this I mean if you have done all you could to allow prosperity in life. Have you made it your goal to educate yourself on topics that you need to learn. Have you made it your goal to love your money. Have you made it your goal to open yourself up to learning about creating different streams of income. Have you made it your goal to give to others. There are so many things that fall under the category of prosperity that I can’t fully cover in this post but that certainly are very important. This is just to give you some food for thought.

Certainly Life is constantly giving us gifts but it is up to us to keep earning those gifts with every action that we take. Life does its part but you too have to do yours if you are to see things going your way. This is all part of that well-being that we all strive for. With this I wish you all Happy Holidays.

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