Bad Health Comes In Different Forms

What prompts me to write today’s post is a question that has been on my mind for the longest time and it is “what does it mean to be truly healthy?” Is a person with a physical ailment no longer healthy because of that ailment? Is being healthy an impossible thing to reach? What does truly being healthy consist of? Well, I have my own definition of being healthy which some may not agree with since I believe that bad health comes in different forms.

If you are someone who has no physical ailment but emotionally you are a wreck, I’m sorry to say that you are not healthy. Why? Because bad health indeed comes in different forms. Being healthy is NOT about not having any physical ailment. I believe that those who have any physical ailment but that know how to manage it can still be healthy. In today’s world, it can be challenging to be healthy because there are several things that challenges us such as stress, what we eat and even when we do eat healthy, the way our food is handled doesn’t allow us to be healthy, our lifestyle, etc. My belief is that the absence of illness is not what being healthy is all about. It is the overall lifestyle what makes you healthy.

Do you mentally have huge blocks that makes your life a complete mess? I’m sorry to say that you are NOT healthy. Your mindset is huge and if you mentally are not fit, your whole life will reflect that. It’s time that we stop labelling those with any physical impediment or those with physical ailments as unhealthy because being mentally a wreck is the worst kind of impediment.

Do you have relationships in your life that are unhealthy for you? I’m sorry to say but that TOO is a form of being unhealthy. Relationships are meant to help you grow, to feel a sense of connection, to feel loved and cared for. It is not meant for you to be put down, to deplete from you, to get you in worse shape that you were before. When you are in an unhealthy relationship, you seriously have to question yourself and wonder what is your self-concept and self-esteem. Ask yourself why are you allowing this person into your life. Ask yourself what are you getting from this person. You will come to the conclusion that there are unhealthy dynamics and that you have an unhealthy relationship with yourself.

Indeed bad health comes in different forms and there are different ways to be unhealthy. Before one labels someone who has a physical ailment as unhealthy, it’s important to start analyzing the overall state of the person. It is also time to redefine what being healthy means. Being healthy is NOT about not having any physical ailment, rather it is about the overall state of the person. I believe that one can still be healthy even if they have a physical ailment as long as they know how to manage that ailment.

With this post, I want to encourage you to redefine the meaning of being healthy and to start viewing yourself as a whole person even if you have any physical ailment at the moment. Even if you have no physical ailment, if mentally, emotionally or if your relationships are not healthy, then yes, you STILL are not healthy because the state of being healthy is an OVERALL state of being.

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The Difference Between Deserving and Entitlement

Last week I wrote about the topic of deserving and I continued to explain how you are deserving of anything that you need and want. I wrote that when it comes to deserving, what really determines this is how you think and feel about what you deserve and this is closely tied to your self-concept and self-esteem. Because of this tie, this definitely has an effect on your overall well-being. However, there is a fine line and it is important to notice the fine line. This fine line is the feeling of entitlement which is the opposite from deserving and it comes from a different place than deserving does. Feeling a sense of entitlement is not beneficial at all to your well-being nor the well-being of others and this is what I will be writing today.

Deserving comes from a place of having a healthy and balanced self-esteem. It comes from knowing that you are a lovable person with so much to offer to this world and that being the unique human being that you are makes you valuable already. Entitlement comes from the ego, it comes from a place of insecurity, from a place of egotism and all this weakens you as a person. How so? There is no way you are in control of yourself when you are letting your ego rule you. I did a Google search on the definition of “entitlement” and I think this definition clues us in to the difference between deserving and entitlement. According to Google “entitlement” means “the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges and special treatment”. There is your clue-“privileges and special treatment“. You are deserving of good things but it is not healthy to think that you deserve special treatment in comparison to others.

How does feeling entitled hurt your well-being as well as others? Think about this, we are all inherently selfish. This isn’t necessarily bad, but we are that way. We always look at others for what we can get from them. This can be both good and bad, it all depends. Because of this fact, a person that feels entitled may act in ways that are not nice towards others, they may behave as if they are better than others and at the end of the day, who wants to be with someone like that?! This kind of thinking and behaving affects your social well-being.

In this world we are meant to help one another and grow each other. Being a person who feels entitled doesn’t allow you to give much to others because all you can think of is me, me, me. That can cloud you from your sense of purpose. That can prevent you from living a meaningful life because part of having a meaningful life is having a purposeful life. Also, a person who feels entitled doesn’t have much beautiful words to say to others. Even in the most minor way, you do have an effect on others. Why not make that effect a good one?

Entitlement can make you become intolerant of others. How so? Well, when you feel entitlement, because you are coming from a place of me, me, me, you don’t have the empathy to understand others. A perfect example of this is when someone who goes to the restaurant acting as if he/she is the only customer the waiter is serving. A person who feels entitled would be so impatient and even act mean towards the waiter if he/she feels they took long.

Deserving and entitlement….there is a fine line between the two because on the one hand you are deserving of great things in life but it is important to keep that deserving in check so that you don’t cross that line to entitlement. Never think of yourself as better or more deserving than others because that is not so. Other people are just as important as you are regardless of their economic status, of their physical condition, of the ethnicity, etc. If you somehow find yourself crossing that line, for your well-being as well as the well-being of others, get back to knowing that you are deserving and feel grateful for the blessings that you have.

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Don’t Become Damaged Goods

I had a conversation with my friend Ozzy about something personal to me and I just loved how he used the term “damaged goods”. “Well, what in the world does this have to do with my well-being?” you may wonder and you will know how as you continue reading.

Part of life is hurt. With every good, there is bad. For every negative there is a positive. Indeed, life is like a battery in this way. There comes a point in our life where we may be hurt by someone or some experience and sometimes that hurt is an unexpected hurt. In these cases, it is easy to become bitter, it is easy to be sad, that hurt rules us and if we’re not careful, we can end up hurting others because of that hurt. No matter what that hurt may be or who caused that hurt, don’t allow yourself to become damaged goods.

Damaged good are just that- they are goods that appear to be good but if you take a closer look, you will realize there is some damage to it. There are certain hurts such as betrayal, lying, etc. that if we don’t heal those wounds, they can damage us, stopping us from any good that can come our way, making us hurt others even if we don’t mean to hurt others. As my soulmate friend Dawn said to me once, “hurt people hurt people”. When you are hurt, all you have to give is hurt. The only way out of this is to admit that you have an issue to resolve, give yourself the appropriate time and space to heal and do your best to be the best you that you can be. Forgive that other person for hurting you and forgive yourself for allowing yourself to be in that situation or for whatever role you played.

The hurt that you went through or are going through is an opportunity for growth. Don’t allow that hurt to shrink you into something less that you are meant to be and have. You are the one who rules over your hurt, not the other way around. It is up to you to decide to rule over your hurt and grow from it. In reality, hurt was never intended to shrink you or to close yourself up, it was meant to be lessons to grow from and become better. The more you start to look at your hurt from this perspective, the better you will be as a person in every sense.

I want to encourage you NOW to start looking at your hurt as lessons. The people you meet and life itself are your teachers. Don’t allow yourself to become damaged goods.

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Are You Wasting Your Time?

There are many times when we may not even realize it until it is too late that all we have been doing in life is wasting our time. Sometimes what makes us come to this realization is either a sickness, a disability, a loss of some sort and none of this is necessary for us to come to this realization.

Now, this question that I just asked on the title will have different answers for everyone. That’s because everyone’s definition of living life and enjoying life will be different. What I may find as enjoyment may be different for someone else. So for this reason, you can’t go to anyone else for an answer, you have to look within you.

Even though the answer to this question will be different for everyone, there are some basic things that I think are time wasters for everyone no matter how different we may all be for certain things. Time wasters would be being angry at others, being worried all the time, not working on the relationships that truly matter most, taking those you love for granted, focusing on things that are no longer in your present life or focusing on what could have been but isn’t, being angry with Life for the things that you don’t have in life or for what was taken away from you. All these things are what I call paralyzers because they do just that, they paralyze you. They paralyze you mentally, physically and emotionally. They don’t help you move forward and see all the goodness that you still have. They make you blind. They hinder you from enjoying life.

Being angry at someone else is not hurting the other person, it is hurting you. The other person may not even be aware of what you are feeling but you are and that can make you even more angry because it does hurt to know that you care while the other person doesn’t. Depending on what it is that made you angry, that anger may be easy to let go or not. Whatever it is that made you angry, know that by continuing to feel this way, the only person who are hurting is yourself. There are times when other people may not even mean to harm us and so this is another reason why it is not worth getting so angry. As my very good friend Dawn reminded me over and over, no one can make you feel a certain way unless you allow them.

Being worried all the time is just paralyzing in every aspect. It paralyzes you mentally because the worry that you feel can stop you from thinking of making the right decision. It paralyzes you physically because the worry can make you not want to take any action. We usually worry about something that hasn’t happened yet and this stops us from living the present moment. If you want to be able to look at your past and think of it with good thoughts and feelings, then you must enjoy this moment because this moment will be past. Besides, worry just attracts more of the things that you are worried about.

One of the things that matters so much in life is the relationships we have in our life. Not cultivating them is, to me, equivalent to not saving money and the reason for this is because whether you realize it or not, the relationships that you have with others are an investment. What you give to others is what you get back. Family is one thing we tend to take for granted and think about this, when you are in your down moments, it isn’t a job or strangers who will be there for you, it is your family and close friends so make time for those you love and love you.

I can tell you that focusing on what no longer was in my present paralyzed me for a bit and made me waste my time by not looking forward. That is what focusing on what could have been but isn’t, focusing on what you no longer have and what you feel Life has taken away from you do to you, it keeps you from looking forward. I know it can be challenging at times but it is a must to look forward to more goodness in life. Part of life is transitioning from one stage of life to the next and we must embrace this if we are to be happy.

So now I challenge you to think whether or not you are wasting your time. This simple question can transform the way your life is right now if there is any part of it that you are not happy with and can add more well-being to you.

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You Need to Make Room For Everything

I wrote a post last year about what does it mean to be a positive person and I wrote that being a positive person doesn’t mean that you are always happy and that you just ignore everything that is going on. What I didn’t mention is that truly positive people are the ones who make room in their life for everything, the good and the bad. Making room for everything is so beneficial for your overall well-being and this is what today’s post is about.

Depending on the kind of person that you are or depending on how you have managed to resolve any issues that were unresolved issues in the past, it may be easy to make room for the good things in life. The reason why I started the sentence with “depending on the kind of person that you are or depending on how you have managed to resolve any issues that were unresolved issues in the past” is because believe it or not, there are those who don’t make enough room for the good things in life and this is not healthy. When this is the case, this may indicate that you have a fear of success which needs to be addressed as soon as possible since this is a hindrance to your happiness and well-being.

Likewise, you need to make room for the “bad” stuff as well. What do I mean with this? Whenever you feel sad or angry, make room for these feelings. Don’t hide them nor deny them. Allow yourself room to feel this way, what you can’t do is sit with this feeling for too long. You need to make room for the “bad” stuff because when you don’t, it just boils inside you like a volcano and it’s just a matter of time for that volcano to erupt. Instead, when you make room for this, you are releasing these energies in a healthy way by tending to them, by paying attention to them, by understanding them. I’ve wrote this before and I will write it again, there is power in understanding your feelings. There is also power in making room for these feelings.

How do you make room for everything? When it comes to the “bad” stuff, (and I write “bad” in quotation marks because these things don’t necessarily need to be bad), make some time to feel these emotions. So if you’re feeling sad, set some time to feel that sadness. Cry if you have to but once that time is up, that’s it. That way you can release those emotions rather than hang on to them. Understand those emotions. Emotions provide feedback as to where you currently are in your life, what you need and what you should be doing. After you understand your emotions then do something about what you are feeling. Whatever it is that makes you feel that “negative” emotion, then it’s best to stop doing it. Do things instead that will make you happy. Pay attention to the feedback and act accordingly.

Make also room for the good stuff. Make sure you get your daily dose of happiness. You need to make room for all the good stuff in life. After all, you deserve the good stuff. Make sure you do things that makes your soul beam with joy. Make sure you surround yourself with love and loving people. Make sure you allow yourself to be successful in love, in money, in everything. There are times that we don’t realize that we hinder these things from us.

Part of well-being is also making room for everything in life. It is the making room for everything that allows us to learn and grow from our experiences and makes us appreciate certain things better. It also allows us to have a better understanding of ourselves and others.

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Are You Putting Your Health On Hold?

It’s interesting how I hear many times “I’m very hungry but I have to finish this task first” or how people on a constant basis sacrifice their sleep in order to get things done. I even hear from people that they have no time to workout. In my mind, it is no wonder that as a society we are getting sicker and sicker. With the exception of those who work at night because there are jobs where you have to be up all night but you can recuperate the sleep during the day, if you are one of those people doing any of the things I just said, then I ask you, why are you putting your health on hold? If you are doing any of these things, you are indeed putting your health on hold whether you realize it or not. Just like you wouldn’t put your car on hold when it’s low on gas by continuing to drive knowing that you are running out of gasoline, you don’t put your health on hold by not eating, not sleeping, not hydrating it right, not eating the right foods. Your body, your whole body, for that matter, needs to be taken care of as if you were taking care of the most precious thing that you have because indeed it is the most precious thing that you have.

When I say the whole body, I am referring to not just the physical aspect of your body, I’m also referring to the mental, spiritual and emotional aspect because when either one of these parts of you is suffering, it only takes one for all the other parts to be affected with time.

It’s important in life to have balance because it is that balance that helps you achieve your highest well-being. You can not achieve your highest when every other area of your life is good except for your emotional life, for example. It’s only a matter of time for the imbalance that you feel emotionally to start taking over the decisions you make, the things you attract, etc. It is important that you make it a point to strive for balance. I do understand that at times it can be a challenge but it is possible.

It’s important to take a look at all the areas of your life. If you are not happy with your life, ask yourself why. If you are not eating right, find out why. If you can’t seem to get yourself to exercise, find out why. If finding the answers to all these questions feels overwhelming, I suggest you hire a coach. A good coach helps you get from point A to point B. Now if you have serious emotional and mental concerns, by all means, get a good therapist or psychologist. There is nothing wrong with that. I have noticed that what many need is accountability when it comes to achieving their goals and that is one of the things that a good coach can help you with. The point is that you can not afford to be putting your health on hold any longer. Every day and every thing that you do matters and YOU matter as well. Always keep this last phrase in the forefront of your mind.

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Look For Life’s Wink

I believe it was a couple of years ago that I had a conversation with a great friend of mine and in the middle of some chaos that was going on, I shared with her the fact that something interesting and cool happened and she responded “You see, that’s God’s wink for you”. Today I received a beautiful compliment from a colleague blogger and I couldn’t help but think “That’s God’s/Life’s wink for me”. Why am I sharing this? I’m sharing this because there are times when you may feel like things are not going the way you want- you don’t have the love of your life, you don’t have the job that you want, you’re not making as much money as you would like, you don’t feel satisfied with life and despite whatever it is that is going on in your life, you have to look for Life’s wink for you.

I say “Life’s wink” because I want to respect everyone’s belief about life and because this blog is not about religion, I say in this post “Life’s wink” but you can replace it with whatever you want whether it be God or the Universe. And why am I talking about this topic and how can this help you with your life? Like I’ve said before in other posts, it’s too easy to focus on the things that aren’t working in life, however, there are STILL things that are working for you whether you realize it or not. Life has a way of showing you that despite everything that is going on, there is always a wink for you telling you things are still alright.

You don’t have a companion and someone gives you a beautiful compliment, it may not be your companion saying that to you but that’s Life’s wink for you that you are still beautiful/handsome. You are starting your own business and you receive compliments from others, that’s Life’s wink that you are on the right track. You are in the middle of so much chaos in your life and suddenly something so odd happens that makes you smile, that’s Life’s wink for you to still keep on looking up and smiling. It’s important to watch out for those winks.

Those are the winks that can help restore those feelings of feeling lost, of sadness and of hopelessness. Being happy is healthy, this is important for your well-being and so watching out for those winks will create a mind shift that will help you look for the positive in things. Be open to those winks and embrace them when they arrive. These winks that you may get may not seem like a big deal but they are because they can be little messages of light for you. If you are open to receive them, they can start making a difference in your mental and emotional state, thus leading to you having the life that you want and deserve because part of well-being and having that happiness that you long for is being able to still see the good. When you see the good, you then will feel good. What you think is how you feel. Your body follows your emotions, your emotions follow your mind so how you think and the way you perceive things affect the way you will feel overall. So with this said, it is in your best interest to look for Life’s wink.

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I dedicate this post to Maria F. since it was her who said that lovely phrase of “God’s wink”. Thank you so much for helping me see those winks.