Call BS on BS

For those who don’t understand what I mean with “BS”, that means bullshit. So on today’s post, I would like to write about the importance of calling BS on BS.

Many times the reason we keep doing the crazy things we do, we accept less than what we deserve, we keep getting more of what we don’t want, etc. is because we are not willing to call BS on BS. This is extremely important for your well-being because this will allow you to be all that you are meant to be because you are being honest with yourself.

So what are the BS in life? The BS can be your excuses for why you are not doing what you know you are supposed to be doing, your excuses as to why you settle for relationships that are below what you actually deserve. The BS can even be your limiting beliefs and the story that you tell yourself. Many times we don’t even realize that it is our limiting beliefs about ourselves, what we think we deserve, us holding on to an idea of something that we think needs to be a certain way and even the way that we view ourselves are what block us from having a great life.

It is for this reason that I would like to encourage you to sit with yourself and analyze what are your BS in your life that are holding you back. Think about this for a minute. Is it something that you are holding on to? Why are you holding on to this? Do you have an idea of how something needs to be in your life? Is this idea that you have in your mind holding you back? Is it blocking you from seeing all the other options that life has for you? Think about what are the things that are currently not working for you at the moment.

I can almost guarantee you that all these things have one thing in common and that is you. This is because YOU are the common denominator in all this. You are the one who creates your own life. You are the own who holds the key to changing all this. You are the one who can make your life into whatever you want it to be. Your well-being depends on you and nothing else. Your well-being depends on no one else. It is for this very reason that it is important to call BS on BS because doing so will bring to light the things you need to be paying attention to so that you can create the massive changes that you are looking for.

What calling BS on BS will do is that it will help you be so honest with yourself to the point that you will be able to appreciate parts of you that you didn’t appreciate before. It will help you see how you have attracted into your life the things that you have attracted. It will help you see what areas of your life and of yourself you may need to work on.

I can tell you from personal experience that this can be a challenge at times. It can be a challenge because it can be tough to be so brutally honest with yourself and admit the things that perhaps you don’t want to admit to yourself. I have been so fortunate to have a mentor that has helped me do this and realize how I have been using my own excuses to justify why certain things didn’t work the way I wanted it to work. It is because of this fortune that I would like to share this nugget with you so you too can do the same for yourself.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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The Danger of Waiting Until You Feel Like It

It would be great to wake up everyday feeling energized, pumped up and ready to do all the things that we must do in order to have the things and the life that we want. I believe that feeling this way is possible but it does require effort. Even effort is something that there are times we may struggle with because the truth of the matter is that we may not always feel the energy to put in the effort that is required.

There is a danger in waiting to feel like doing something that if that doesn’t get changed, the life that you want will still continue to be a dream. The problem with waiting until you feel like it is that not always are you going to feel like doing the things that you need to do in order to have the life that you want. Think about it. Do you always feel like going to work? Not really. Few people can say that they actually look forward to going to work. When you went to school or if you are currently going to school, do you always feel like studying? Not really. The reality is that there will be many things that you will not feel like doing but if you want to have the things you want, you must push through and do those things.

Waiting until you feel like doing something will delay you from having the things that you want. The one thing you can’t have back is time. Once time is gone, it is gone. The more you wait until you feel like doing something, the more time you will be wasting. What is needed most in order to get the things that you want is discipline.

Motivation is needed to get things started but you can’t rely on motivation to keep on going. This is where discipline comes into play. What can help with discipline is learning to keep your eye on the prize, especially when you are feeling lazy to do something. So how can you keep your eye on the prize at all times? Find what works for you according to how you function. Have a photo that reminds you of why you are doing what you are doing. Constantly remind yourself who you are wanting to be. Reminders are necessary for us not to forget our why behind our actions and they can keep us going when we want to give up.

Learn to see the lessons that you are getting from everything that you are doing. Even the most boring tasks there is so much you can gain. Nothing, absolutely nothing needs to go to waste and this includes the boring tasks. Everything serves for the purpose of growth.

Waiting…..there is a time to wait but not when it comes to getting certain things like waiting until you feel like doing something. This kind of waiting can be detrimental to your overall well-being because it can delay your happiness in every sense of the word. Waiting until you feel like it delays you from being the person that you are supposed to be. Waiting until you feel like it can make you have regrets in the future. So if you have been waiting until you feel like doing something, I would like to encourage you to think about the things that you have been delaying from doing because you have been waiting until you feel like doing them. Think about these things and if the objective of doing these things serves a higher purpose, then don’t delay in taking action.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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What Do Loving Behaviors Look Like?

In today’s post, I want to discuss something that is very much needed because whether we realize it or not, the behaviors that others have toward us and the treatment that we allow from others can affect our well-being in a very indirect way. So in today’s post, I would like to discuss what are some behaviors and treatments that you NEED to allow because these are loving behaviors- the ONLY behaviors that you need to allow.

There are many ways in which someone can mistreat us that goes beyond verbal, physical, mental and emotional abuse. It is the following behaviors that you need to be aware of and mindful because it is the “small” things that are not so small which can eat up and chip away your self-esteem without you even realizing it. Mistreatment can come in the form of disrespect of space, self, time and keeping things in a superficial level. The problem with the last thing I wrote, “keeping things in a superficial level” is that this doesn’t allow for a deeper, more meaningful bond which is what provides nutrients to our soul.

So now that I wrote some of the things that are forms of mistreatment, I would like to write about its opposite. Loving behaviors from others come in the form of being respectful of who you are. What I mean with this is that the person doesn’t judge you for being who you are. The person truly accepts you for who you are. The person sees your value as a human being and treats you like so. The person makes you feel comfortable and good about who you are. Being around that person feels like a very nutritious meal that feels satisfying and healthy. It is with those kinds of people that you should be cultivating relationships with.

Loving behaviors from others come in the form of them respecting your time. People that want to be in your life don’t ask to be in your life, they just are. These are people that make the time to be with you and spend time with you. When they do spend time with you, you are not their plan B, you are their plan A. These are people that when they say they will contact you to see you, they do so. These are not people that keep you hanging, on the contrary, they want to make sure that you have set the time aside to be with them. They are mindful of your time to leave you hanging and not let you know of your plans together.

Loving behaviors from others come in the form of respecting your space. They respect the fact that you need time for you. You need time to cultivate you. You need your space to center yourself and for you to be right with you. They respect the fact that you have your own ways and that those ways are to be respected. For instance, perhaps in the morning you are not much of a talker because you need time to wake up. The person respects that about you that they are not just thinking about how they function that they invade that space of yours of you needed some time to wake up a bit. This is just an example to illustrate what I mean with space and this is just one form of space. Space can be defined in other ways as well.

For the purpose of this blog, I will break down this topic into different blog posts just so I don’t make this blog post very long. There are many ways to show loving behaviors that this in and of itself can become a chapter rather than a blog post. I just wanted to show you in a general sense what loving behaviors look like because these are the ONLY behaviors that we all need to be accepting from others. Accepting anything less than this only chips your self-esteem and self-concept, reducing you to believing that others can treat you however way they want and subconsciously placing you in the category of being an “option”. You are NOT an option, therefore, don’t ever reduce yourself to anyone treating you this way.

With today’s post, I want to encourage you to pay attention to the way others are treating you. How are you allowing others to treat you? If those in your personal space are not showing loving behaviors, it’s time to reconsider and do some spring cleaning of relationships in your life.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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You Are NOT Damaged Goods So Don’t Treat Yourself Like So

This post I want to dedicate it to anyone who has been badly bruised by someone, who has “made” them feel inadequate, wrong, or anything that is negative. My purpose with today’s post is for you not to allow anything or anyone make you become damaged goods because once you allow this, this is like catching the flu, only that it can take a really long time to heal.

How can we become damaged goods unintentionally? We can become damaged goods when we allow other people’s issues to become our issues. We can become damaged goods when we give so much to the point that we have nothing left for ourselves. This last thing can make us feel unworthy when those actions, we perceive, are not reciprocated. We can become damaged goods when we don’t learn from our past relationships and experiences. We can become damaged goods when carry negative feelings because of a perceived rejection. One thing I must say that the universe has lovingly taught me is that rejection is not a rejection, it is protection.

Others may do things that we may not understand why they do them. First and foremost, that is not your problem and it is not for you to try to figure out why they did it in the first place. Yes, analysis of a situation is a must so that we can grow. However, investing your time trying to figure out why someone did something when you did nothing wrong to them will only create issues for you that you have no business having in the first place.

Almost 99% of the time what others say and do is a direct reflection of the way they feel and think about themselves. This is because we only offer what we have inside and because we are the ones responsible for the way we decide to perceive and react toward a situation. No one else is but us. This means that you are not responsible for the way someone decides to speak or behave, so then this can help alleviate some of the pressure of trying so hard to impress or please others. Now, I would like to clarify that this does NOT give you permission to speak or treat others in a disrespectful manner because they “are responsible for the way they react to a situation”. At all times we have to be mindful of our actions and have compassion and empathy for others.

When you have done nothing wrong to someone who has done you wrong, you can have the peace of mind that from your end you are good. You have no regrets, nothing to worry about in terms of you hurting others. Therefore, don’t carry that hurt and anger with you. Those negative feelings that you carry as a result of someone else’s actions is only hurting you, not the other person.

You deserve to be in peace with what you do in life. You deserve to feel free to be yourself. You deserve to carry only the responsibility of your actions and your life. You will feel all this if you liberate yourself from the feelings that other people’s actions have caused. Remember that people reflect who they are inside, how they think and feel about themselves and their life. It is not your responsibility to change others but it is your responsibility to change yourself for the better.

As you can read, becoming damaged goods can be quite easy but it is up to us not to become damaged goods. I would like to encourage you with today’s post that if you haven’t done so, work through any issues that a situation, a relationship or the past has created in you. You are NOT damaged goods nor should you allow anything to make you become a damaged good.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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What Are Your Thoughts and Feelings In the Morning and at Night?

Thoughts and feelings are very important to keep in mind when it comes to your well-being because thoughts become beliefs and your beliefs can become actions and a way of life. Your way of life influences greatly your well-being since it does create a domino effect on everything. Your feelings affect the choices that you make in everything whether that is food, relationship, etc.

One thing that I would like to encourage you to think about and analyze is what are your thoughts and feelings in the morning and at night. Why? Because what you last think about or feel before you go to sleep you will most likely think of and feel in the morning and the morning sets the tone for the day. You don’t want to wake up on the wrong side of the bed. You want and need to wake up on the right side of the bed and who determines that right side? You do!

It can be easy to focus on the things that go wrong. Trust me, I know. It can be easy to focus on the things that we yet don’t have. Trust me, I know. It’s easy to have the thought that others are lucky except for us. That thought is harmful to you in so many ways. It can be easy to be impatient to have and be the things we want to have and be. Trust me on this one that I know the feeling. However, all these things will contribute to you thinking the wrong things, feeling the wrong things which can spill over to the next day if your thoughts and feelings are not changed.

I would like to clarify that it is perfectly normal to feel frustrated, mad and disappointed every once in a while. You’re only human. It’s when these feelings are constant that it becomes a real problem because it interferes with your own happiness and well-being. As my mentor Kay Zulu has suggested, when you feel a certain way, move up to the next feeling above that. For instance, if you’re sad, move on to anger because anger is a higher vibration than sadness. Then from anger to being neutral, etc. You can’t jump from being sad to happy, we can’t necessarily do that quickly.

Another thing that I would recommend is that at night you write down and remind yourself all the things that you have to be grateful for. Our mind tends to just wander around and so it’s important to help it focus on the things that we want it to focus on. We do that by redirecting our thoughts at night to the things that we have to be grateful for. This, then, will help you fall asleep in peace and when you wake up, you can feel differently in comparison to feeling sad or angry.

Remind yourself that everything passes so whatever you’re going through, that too shall pass. It’s easy to think that whatever we are going through has no end but it will have an end. Remind yourself of that and do your best to get all the lessons you are meant to learn from what you are currently experiencing. This leads to growth and growth is very much a part of well-being.

I would like to encourage you to be mindful of your thoughts and feelings at night and in the morning. The night time is a time when your body is relaxing and rejuvenating and you need it to rejuvenate in good thoughts and feelings so you can vibrate in high energy. What you last thought of and felt when you went to sleep you will most likely wake up with that same thought and feeling. The morning time sets the tone for the day. If you want a great day, then start your morning right in every regards. Paying mind to your thoughts and feelings at night and in the morning will help you increase in well-being.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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How to Come From a Place of Authenticity

These past few months and especially now, have been a bit of a turmoil inside me and I am starting to embrace that turmoil. “Aura in a turmoil?” you may wonder. The turmoil that I am referring to is the one where there are debates inside me about things that I need to seriously consider in my life. And it is this turmoil that inspires me to write the following post.

I think that at times it may be a challenge to come from a place of authenticity because of pressures of life. Or is it really the pressures of life? I question this because many times the pressures that we feel are not pressures that are coming from outside of us, they are actually coming from within us. So I would like to encourage you just like I am doing at the moment, to consider the following: What are some pressures that you are currently placing on yourself? Why are you placing those pressures onto yourself?

Many times our obligations rob us from feeling free. They make us feel as if there is one chore to do after another and then another. This can then make us feel as if we can’t breathe. As if there is never a moment to take a break. I would like to encourage you to ask yourself the following: Is it really an obligation that is holding you back? Do you really have obligations or are they things that you have imposed on yourself? Are they obligations or are they choices that you have made? The reason why I want to encourage you to question this is because many times what we call obligations are merely choices that we have made that we are not really conscious that they are choices.

I think it’s easy to want to look outside for the things we want- acceptance, love, understanding, respect, attention. But the biggest mistake in this is that the moment we do that, we give up our power. Many times the emptiness that one feels is something beyond anything anyone or anything else can provide. I would like to encourage you to ask yourself the following questions: Is what I’m missing something that I am not providing to myself? If so, why am I not providing that to myself? Do I feel powerless? If so, then how can I regain my power back?

You see, the reason why I lightly touch on some topics that one needs to pay attention to is because your authentic self lies within you. It lies in understanding yourself. It lies in taking responsibility for your life. It lies in knowing your true essence so well. It lies in taking your power back.

When you put unnecessary stress on yourself, when you feel obligated to do things, when you pressure yourself, all these things rob your joy, your freedom and your authenticity. Although everyone is different and unique, your authentic self is to be happy, energetic, in love with life and with yourself. When that is not the case, when you are not happy in any shape or form, then it’s time to reconsider things in your life. Perhaps the changes that you need are minor, perhaps these are things that are not a big deal, but what I can certainly say is that these are not things to be ignored.

Learn to honor your emotions, just don’t sit with them too long if they are negative emotions. Learn to understand your emotions. Discover who you are and what makes you tick. Discover what would make your heart jump for joy. Even discover the things that don’t make you happy. The more you discover these things for yourself, the more authentic you can become.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

You can also read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at https://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez. I now have a YouTube channel which I will ask that you subscribe for more tips to increase your well-being https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLZANKeRUFM4YvMXy4HzQrg.

 

Honesty Is Truly the Best Policy

Probably as you read this title, you thought about being honest with others. Even though it is important to be honest with others, this is not the honesty that I am referring to. There is one person that is very important in your life; one person who truly has so much power in your life, one person whom you ALWAYS need to be honest with so that you can be guided to the things and people that you want and that person is YOU.

Yes, the first person that you must be honest with is yourself. Honesty is truly the best policy and it only hurts you to not be honest with your own self. How does not being honest with yourself hurts you? The lack of honesty toward yourself hurts your chances of ever being happy. This is because you will most likely do things that doesn’t come from your true essence which is your soul. Most likely you will do things to please others. Most likely you will seek approval from others. This lack of honesty can prevent you from even listening to your own intuition. This, then, leads you to situations and people that you can’t help but wonder “how did this ever happen?”.

Lack of honesty toward yourself leads you to being confused and lost. This is because if you are not truly honest with yourself, how do you know what you need out of things and people? How do you know what will truly make you happy? How do you know what truly works for you and what doesn’t? What honesty does is that it leads you to the root of things that help you get what you want out of life.

Lack of honesty makes you numb to your own inner truth. How are you supposed to know who you are if you can’t be honest with yourself? Even though there are universal truths, I believe that each of us have our own truth according to our true essence. This truth may not resonate with those around you or even your own environment but how are you supposed to know that when you are not honest with yourself? Honesty sheds light to any darkness that you may be experiencing in your life.

Lack of honesty ruins your chances of ever having the life that you want in every regards. This is because that lack of honesty prevents you from having a deep understanding of who you are. Perhaps you are doing things just because everyone else around you are doing it, but is it really what you want to do? Perhaps you have been so used to eating a certain way because that’s how you grew up eating, but is that way of eating working for you? Perhaps the career that you have doesn’t bring joy to you, so why is it that you are in that profession? Once again, honesty sheds light where there is darkness. If you are in the dark of who you really are, this will hurt your well-being tremendously.

So with this post, I want to encourage you to be honest with yourself as to the decisions that you make, the things that you allow in your life and even the things that you got rid of in your life. Be honest with yourself as to the things that you really want. Be honest with yourself as to how you really want to feel…..because honesty is truly the best policy.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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