The Danger of Waiting Until You Feel Like It

It would be great to wake up everyday feeling energized, pumped up and ready to do all the things that we must do in order to have the things and the life that we want. I believe that feeling this way is possible but it does require effort. Even effort is something that there are times we may struggle with because the truth of the matter is that we may not always feel the energy to put in the effort that is required.

There is a danger in waiting to feel like doing something that if that doesn’t get changed, the life that you want will still continue to be a dream. The problem with waiting until you feel like it is that not always are you going to feel like doing the things that you need to do in order to have the life that you want. Think about it. Do you always feel like going to work? Not really. Few people can say that they actually look forward to going to work. When you went to school or if you are currently going to school, do you always feel like studying? Not really. The reality is that there will be many things that you will not feel like doing but if you want to have the things you want, you must push through and do those things.

Waiting until you feel like doing something will delay you from having the things that you want. The one thing you can’t have back is time. Once time is gone, it is gone. The more you wait until you feel like doing something, the more time you will be wasting. What is needed most in order to get the things that you want is discipline.

Motivation is needed to get things started but you can’t rely on motivation to keep on going. This is where discipline comes into play. What can help with discipline is learning to keep your eye on the prize, especially when you are feeling lazy to do something. So how can you keep your eye on the prize at all times? Find what works for you according to how you function. Have a photo that reminds you of why you are doing what you are doing. Constantly remind yourself who you are wanting to be. Reminders are necessary for us not to forget our why behind our actions and they can keep us going when we want to give up.

Learn to see the lessons that you are getting from everything that you are doing. Even the most boring tasks there is so much you can gain. Nothing, absolutely nothing needs to go to waste and this includes the boring tasks. Everything serves for the purpose of growth.

Waiting…..there is a time to wait but not when it comes to getting certain things like waiting until you feel like doing something. This kind of waiting can be detrimental to your overall well-being because it can delay your happiness in every sense of the word. Waiting until you feel like it delays you from being the person that you are supposed to be. Waiting until you feel like it can make you have regrets in the future. So if you have been waiting until you feel like doing something, I would like to encourage you to think about the things that you have been delaying from doing because you have been waiting until you feel like doing them. Think about these things and if the objective of doing these things serves a higher purpose, then don’t delay in taking action.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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What Do Loving Behaviors Look Like?

In today’s post, I want to discuss something that is very much needed because whether we realize it or not, the behaviors that others have toward us and the treatment that we allow from others can affect our well-being in a very indirect way. So in today’s post, I would like to discuss what are some behaviors and treatments that you NEED to allow because these are loving behaviors- the ONLY behaviors that you need to allow.

There are many ways in which someone can mistreat us that goes beyond verbal, physical, mental and emotional abuse. It is the following behaviors that you need to be aware of and mindful because it is the “small” things that are not so small which can eat up and chip away your self-esteem without you even realizing it. Mistreatment can come in the form of disrespect of space, self, time and keeping things in a superficial level. The problem with the last thing I wrote, “keeping things in a superficial level” is that this doesn’t allow for a deeper, more meaningful bond which is what provides nutrients to our soul.

So now that I wrote some of the things that are forms of mistreatment, I would like to write about its opposite. Loving behaviors from others come in the form of being respectful of who you are. What I mean with this is that the person doesn’t judge you for being who you are. The person truly accepts you for who you are. The person sees your value as a human being and treats you like so. The person makes you feel comfortable and good about who you are. Being around that person feels like a very nutritious meal that feels satisfying and healthy. It is with those kinds of people that you should be cultivating relationships with.

Loving behaviors from others come in the form of them respecting your time. People that want to be in your life don’t ask to be in your life, they just are. These are people that make the time to be with you and spend time with you. When they do spend time with you, you are not their plan B, you are their plan A. These are people that when they say they will contact you to see you, they do so. These are not people that keep you hanging, on the contrary, they want to make sure that you have set the time aside to be with them. They are mindful of your time to leave you hanging and not let you know of your plans together.

Loving behaviors from others come in the form of respecting your space. They respect the fact that you need time for you. You need time to cultivate you. You need your space to center yourself and for you to be right with you. They respect the fact that you have your own ways and that those ways are to be respected. For instance, perhaps in the morning you are not much of a talker because you need time to wake up. The person respects that about you that they are not just thinking about how they function that they invade that space of yours of you needed some time to wake up a bit. This is just an example to illustrate what I mean with space and this is just one form of space. Space can be defined in other ways as well.

For the purpose of this blog, I will break down this topic into different blog posts just so I don’t make this blog post very long. There are many ways to show loving behaviors that this in and of itself can become a chapter rather than a blog post. I just wanted to show you in a general sense what loving behaviors look like because these are the ONLY behaviors that we all need to be accepting from others. Accepting anything less than this only chips your self-esteem and self-concept, reducing you to believing that others can treat you however way they want and subconsciously placing you in the category of being an “option”. You are NOT an option, therefore, don’t ever reduce yourself to anyone treating you this way.

With today’s post, I want to encourage you to pay attention to the way others are treating you. How are you allowing others to treat you? If those in your personal space are not showing loving behaviors, it’s time to reconsider and do some spring cleaning of relationships in your life.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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What Are Your Thoughts and Feelings In the Morning and at Night?

Thoughts and feelings are very important to keep in mind when it comes to your well-being because thoughts become beliefs and your beliefs can become actions and a way of life. Your way of life influences greatly your well-being since it does create a domino effect on everything. Your feelings affect the choices that you make in everything whether that is food, relationship, etc.

One thing that I would like to encourage you to think about and analyze is what are your thoughts and feelings in the morning and at night. Why? Because what you last think about or feel before you go to sleep you will most likely think of and feel in the morning and the morning sets the tone for the day. You don’t want to wake up on the wrong side of the bed. You want and need to wake up on the right side of the bed and who determines that right side? You do!

It can be easy to focus on the things that go wrong. Trust me, I know. It can be easy to focus on the things that we yet don’t have. Trust me, I know. It’s easy to have the thought that others are lucky except for us. That thought is harmful to you in so many ways. It can be easy to be impatient to have and be the things we want to have and be. Trust me on this one that I know the feeling. However, all these things will contribute to you thinking the wrong things, feeling the wrong things which can spill over to the next day if your thoughts and feelings are not changed.

I would like to clarify that it is perfectly normal to feel frustrated, mad and disappointed every once in a while. You’re only human. It’s when these feelings are constant that it becomes a real problem because it interferes with your own happiness and well-being. As my mentor Kay Zulu has suggested, when you feel a certain way, move up to the next feeling above that. For instance, if you’re sad, move on to anger because anger is a higher vibration than sadness. Then from anger to being neutral, etc. You can’t jump from being sad to happy, we can’t necessarily do that quickly.

Another thing that I would recommend is that at night you write down and remind yourself all the things that you have to be grateful for. Our mind tends to just wander around and so it’s important to help it focus on the things that we want it to focus on. We do that by redirecting our thoughts at night to the things that we have to be grateful for. This, then, will help you fall asleep in peace and when you wake up, you can feel differently in comparison to feeling sad or angry.

Remind yourself that everything passes so whatever you’re going through, that too shall pass. It’s easy to think that whatever we are going through has no end but it will have an end. Remind yourself of that and do your best to get all the lessons you are meant to learn from what you are currently experiencing. This leads to growth and growth is very much a part of well-being.

I would like to encourage you to be mindful of your thoughts and feelings at night and in the morning. The night time is a time when your body is relaxing and rejuvenating and you need it to rejuvenate in good thoughts and feelings so you can vibrate in high energy. What you last thought of and felt when you went to sleep you will most likely wake up with that same thought and feeling. The morning time sets the tone for the day. If you want a great day, then start your morning right in every regards. Paying mind to your thoughts and feelings at night and in the morning will help you increase in well-being.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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Reframe That Obligation

In today’s post, I would like to encourage you to something that perhaps at first may not seem to really make a difference in your life but it will. Have you ever wondered why going to work doesn’t feel the same as it did when you first started working at your job? Have you thought that your relationship feels like another job rather than something that you enjoy being a part of? Have you questioned yourself why something that you once loved doing you no longer love anymore? Although there can be many reasons for feeling this way, there is one thing that is a common denominator for some and it is the word obligation.

The word obligation, if you think about it, can tense the body. That’s because there is an implication that it is something that one must do rather than because one wants to do. Must and want are two different things. These verbs even feel different to the body and to the brain. It is because of this reason that I would like to encourage you to reframe the word obligation. Instead, I would like to encourage you to reframe it to choice.

Remember, and this is true, that everything is a choice. You working where you work is a choice. It is your choice to work at the job that you work. There are other jobs or careers out there and you instead chose the one you have. Remember that it is a choice to have the husband/wife/companion that you have. You showing affection, love, giving attention, all this you do it because you chose to love this person. So choose to see and know that you investing in your relationships is not an obligation, instead, it’s something that you choose to do.

You living where you live is a choice. You are not obligated to stay where you don’t want to stay. The environment in general is a choice. You choose the kind of people that you want to surround yourself with.

One thing I would like to clarify is that I am aware and I do understand that for some this may not be the case. I do understand that for those who, say for example, have a family to support, there may not be a choice in terms of the job that you may do because you may need the money. But there are two things that are choices and that is that you decided to have a family AND you can change the way you view your job. If you can change your perception of these two things, you can change the way you feel.

Everything must come from a place of love. Obligation doesn’t breed love. Wanting does. The moment you make things an obligation, that’s when things start to lose its glamour. Obligation can make the soul lazy. Laziness can numb us from our joy. The way to bring light and happiness to the things that we once enjoyed is by bringing back that love- love for our work, love for our partner, love for everything.

Remind yourself of the reason why you fell in love with your husband/wife/companion! Remind yourself of why you chose the job you have! Remind yourself how happy you were when you first had that job! Remind yourself when you first bought that house! Remind yourself so that you can start reframing those obligations that you have into choices that you have made. There are times that we must remember in order to get back to our happy place.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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You First Need to Be Right With You

I have written and said over and over the things that I am about to write in today’s blog post. Before anything can be right in your life, whether that’s in relationships, especially relationships, job, anything you name it, you first need to be right with you.

Absolutely everything starts with you. Everything is determined by you. You are constantly sending energy that you may not be aware of that affects the way you interact with others. If you want to feel great most of the time, if you don’t want things to affect you negatively, if you want to come from a place where you are authentic, then you first need to be right with you.

What does it mean to be right with you? This means that you are mostly comfortable in your own skin. This means that you are pretty much accepting of who you are, the way you are. It means that you have a strong sense of who you are- of your likes, dislikes, what you can tolerate and what you can’t, etc. It also means that you come from a place where you are not so judgmental of yourself. It means that you have clarity of who you are and where you want to be. You have a strong sense of direction of your life. It also means that you clear the air in your life as to what may be hindering you from being centered and from your growth. Anything and everything that disturbs your peace you do away because you know it doesn’t serve you.

Everything that I just wrote may sound easier said than done but it must be done. For all these to be done, it is a must to have an assessment of your life. Without that assessment, you won’t know what it is that is clouding your life. You won’t know and fully understand why it is that you feel frustrated, why you don’t manifest the things you want in life, etc. It is the knowing that can help you find a solution to what it is that you need to do in life.

Give yourself time to be right with you. Give yourself the space to connect with yourself. Give yourself the privilege of your time, your attention, your love, your own moment to understand you so that you can be right with yourself. The time that you dedicate to yourself, your own attention that you give to yourself, all this and more you deserve. It is not only others who are deserving of your own time, attention and affection. You also need that from yourself. It is only when you give that to yourself that you will be able to be right with you.

Being right with you is so crucial because it is truly the only way to be happy. Nobody else can really help you be right with you, nor should you give that responsibility to someone else. Besides, giving this responsibility to someone else endangers your well-being in every way because you then become a slave to that other person. A slave of what they may think of you. A slave to the way they react toward you. A slave to their affection and the list goes on.

I would like to encourage you to figure out what is it that makes you feel right with you. Is it space? Is it being alone? Is it being in nature? The more you understand yourself, the more balanced you will feel. You will be able to fill yourself up in a way that no one else can. You will know what your needs are. Ask yourself, who is the fabulous person hidden inside you? You may be surprised to learn how amazing you are.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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Do Things That You Can Be Proud Of

In today’s post, I would like to encourage you to do things that you can be proud of and to focus on that very pride that you want to feel whenever you want to do something.

Why focus on the pride? Pride is a great feeling and it is a feeling that can keep us going. The reason why I encourage you to focus on the pride is because there WILL be times when you will feel lazy to do something. There WILL be times when life will get in the way. The things that you may want to do may scare you. That’s just the way it is because we are human. However, if you do your best to focus on the pride part, this can encourage you to do things despite you not wanting to do them and despite things getting in the way.

Also, because it is the beginning of a new year, it’s easy to create new years resolution and not keep up with the things you have to do in order to accomplish your goals. It can be easy to be distracted, especially in today’s world. It becomes crucial to be focused for your own well-being and knowing that you want to have things to be proud of can push you further.

Do things that you can be proud of despite not feeling like it. Know that those moments do come so think of ways that you can overcome that feeling. For me, it is what I am recommending to you in today’s post- I remind myself of how proud I want to feel about myself.

Do things that you can be proud of despite life getting in the way. Ahh life, life sometimes does have its moments. Think about where do you want to be a month from now. Think about what you want to be able to say that you accomplished. If you have to, find an accountability partner. This can help you keep going even when things can get in the way. When my dad was very ill at the hospital, it was challenging for me to eat healthy because I was sad with all that was going on. It was the Sugar Buster program that helped me keep going even when I didn’t feel like eating right.

Do things that you can be proud of despite the fear. I can tell you from personal experience that the more you want out of life, the more fear you will feel and that’s because you are stepping into the unknown. Feel the fear and remind yourself that the fear you feel is also excitement masked in fear. Remember that fear is normal because you are stepping into the unknown.

It’s important to always do things that you can feel proud of and this can be big or small. It can be something like drinking more water if you hardly drink water to daring to do something that you have always dreamed to do. There is always a start to everything and challenges will arise along the way. However, for your overall well-being, it is important to learn from those challenges and grow. Nothing that ever happens has to go to waste. I encourage you that every day you work on doing something that you can be proud of and you’re more than welcome to share in this post what have you done that you are proud of. I look forward to hearing from you.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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Honesty Is Truly the Best Policy

Probably as you read this title, you thought about being honest with others. Even though it is important to be honest with others, this is not the honesty that I am referring to. There is one person that is very important in your life; one person who truly has so much power in your life, one person whom you ALWAYS need to be honest with so that you can be guided to the things and people that you want and that person is YOU.

Yes, the first person that you must be honest with is yourself. Honesty is truly the best policy and it only hurts you to not be honest with your own self. How does not being honest with yourself hurts you? The lack of honesty toward yourself hurts your chances of ever being happy. This is because you will most likely do things that doesn’t come from your true essence which is your soul. Most likely you will do things to please others. Most likely you will seek approval from others. This lack of honesty can prevent you from even listening to your own intuition. This, then, leads you to situations and people that you can’t help but wonder “how did this ever happen?”.

Lack of honesty toward yourself leads you to being confused and lost. This is because if you are not truly honest with yourself, how do you know what you need out of things and people? How do you know what will truly make you happy? How do you know what truly works for you and what doesn’t? What honesty does is that it leads you to the root of things that help you get what you want out of life.

Lack of honesty makes you numb to your own inner truth. How are you supposed to know who you are if you can’t be honest with yourself? Even though there are universal truths, I believe that each of us have our own truth according to our true essence. This truth may not resonate with those around you or even your own environment but how are you supposed to know that when you are not honest with yourself? Honesty sheds light to any darkness that you may be experiencing in your life.

Lack of honesty ruins your chances of ever having the life that you want in every regards. This is because that lack of honesty prevents you from having a deep understanding of who you are. Perhaps you are doing things just because everyone else around you are doing it, but is it really what you want to do? Perhaps you have been so used to eating a certain way because that’s how you grew up eating, but is that way of eating working for you? Perhaps the career that you have doesn’t bring joy to you, so why is it that you are in that profession? Once again, honesty sheds light where there is darkness. If you are in the dark of who you really are, this will hurt your well-being tremendously.

So with this post, I want to encourage you to be honest with yourself as to the decisions that you make, the things that you allow in your life and even the things that you got rid of in your life. Be honest with yourself as to the things that you really want. Be honest with yourself as to how you really want to feel…..because honesty is truly the best policy.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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