Get Sick of Wishing

Today I would like to encourage you to get sick of wishing. Why? Because wishing will take you nowhere. The secret to life, apart from knowing what you want, is taking action towards what you want.

So get sick of wishing for better health. Know that great health is in your hands by making better choices, by choosing healthy foods, by making the effort to exercise, by choosing to educate yourself in regards to any medications you are taking, any illness you may have and educating yourself in regards to the body.

Get sick of wishing for a better relationship. Work everyday on the relationship that you have because you are part of the equation of making that relationship work. If the relationship just isn’t working anymore, know that you have two choices- you either put in the effort it takes to make the relationship better or you decide it’s best to part ways. Either way relationship is work and great things do require effort. Also work on cultivating that relationship. Relationships need to be nurtured in order to thrive.

Get sick of wishing you had a better job and either make the best of the job you have or change it. Complaining all the time about the job that you have doesn’t help. It just helps at the moment because you are releasing the tension that you are feeling but what are you doing to change the situation? That is what matters most, what you are doing right now to change the situation.

Get sick of wishing you had a better life. I personally don’t believe in the could’ve, would’ve, should’ve. You either are or you’re not, you either do or you don’t, you either know or you don’t. That life that you want is in your hands. Let me repeat, that life that you want is in your hands. It’s not in someone else’s hands. It’s not in someone else’s power. You have the power to decide what you will do with your life.

Get sick of wishing for more because if you want more, you have to go get it. Many people want more, who doesn’t but it is not a matter of wanting more, it is a matter of doing more.

Yes, get sick of wishing. Your well-being depends on it because for as long as you are wishing, you might as well just keep on waiting. Life is not for those who wish, it is for those who do- so get sick of wishing.

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The Different Ways of Being Healthy

I think we all know it’s important to be physically healthy. This is the most visible part of us, making it obvious the kind of lifestyle we have. For as much as taking care of our physical body is important, there are other ways to be healthy that are equally important if not even more since when these parts of us are not healthy, the physical body will suffer as well. It is important to be healthy mentally and emotionally and this is what this post will be about.

First I would like to discuss how can you know when you are not healthy mentally and emotionally. One of the most simple ways is by looking around you. Does your life reflect what you deserve? What kind of relationships do you have with others? What kind of relationship do you have with yourself? Do you have any kind of destructive, unhealthy relationship in your life? How are you feeling most of the time? All these questions are indicators as to how is your mental and emotional state.

In other words, if you block out your own happiness, if you are living in fear, if you are being pessimistic, if you push away good things or people, if you live in the past and it is a hurtful past, if you allow negativity, then you are unhealthy mentally and emotionally.

What many may not realize is that for as much as one may want to put a band-aid on a huge wound or ignore the real problems in their life, one can NEVER reach full happiness. Full happiness comes from dealing with your issues when your issues are preventing good in your life. Yes, it is hard to open that luggage and go through everything and throw away what is not serving you but that’s when you have to ask yourself if it’s serving you to carry such a heavy luggage to begin with.

What does it mean to be healthy mentally and emotionally? It means to feel good about yourself and your life, to accept abundance, to accept and let in happiness, to know you are deserving, to know that you deserve to be loved right by others, to allow people who help you grow and who truly love you. It is mentally having the capacity to do away with things, situations and people who don’t serve you. It is being able to not stress what doesn’t matter. It is being able to focus more on the positive than the negative. It is doing whatever possible to develop mental and emotional agility in order to bounce right back from any disappointment. Being emotionally healthy is being able to love yourself even when others may not love you, forgiving yourself for your own mistakes and being able to accept yourself even when others may not accept you. It is you loving yourself more than anyone else. This act of love is a must since it is this kind of love that will prevent you from allowing situations, things or people who don’t make you feel good.

Being physically healthy indeed is very important but one can not forget how extremely important it is to be healthy also mentally and emotionally. When mentally and emotionally you are not right, there is no way to be right physically as well since all three parts are connected. If you feel your life isn’t the way you want it to be, I encourage you to look into these two parts of you and if you need intervention, by all means go see a psychologist or therapist. This is an investment that you are making in yourself and you are worth the investment. Your mind and emotions are assets to be taking care of, so make sure you do what you can to have these parts of you healthy.

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The Importance of Feeling Safe When It Comes to Your Well-Being

Safety is something that one may think of when it comes to being physically safe as in being away from anything that can harm them. However, that is not the only kind of safety. There is a kind of safety that perhaps many may not mention and it is equally important when it comes to your well-being and that is feeling safe.

What feeling safe refers to is the knowing that you can be yourself freely, the knowing that you can express yourself freely without feeling judged, threatened or reprimanded, being able to have your own thoughts without any fear and knowing that you can have your own opinions. It is a must to feel safe at home, at work, in your relationships and with yourself believe it or not.

With yourself you must feel safe because you must feel secure within you that you ARE entitled to your own feelings, your own thoughts, your own way of being no matter how different it may be from others. When you don’t allow yourself to feel, think and be who you are, believe it or not, you are not making yourself feel safe. Have that assurance that you are entitled to be who you are and to think and feel how you want to think and feel.

You must feel safe at home. You must feel safe to express your concerns to your loved ones, be your real self around them and share your thoughts and feelings. If for whatever reason you feel you need to somewhat hide your real self, you can’t share your feelings because of fear of being criticized, etc. something is seriously wrong. This has to change for the good of everyone.

You must feel safe at work. I believe that an environment where you feel you can’t be yourself, you can’t thrive. I want to clarify, if your behavior at work is disruptive, not productive and one of hostility, then no, there is something wrong with you and not your work environment and in no way should any employer tolerate that. This is not what I mean when I say to be yourself. Yourself should be one of positive energy, of encouragement but when you notice that your own work environment doesn’t encourage that, then it won’t work. Your job is where you spend most of your day, therefore it must be an environment where you feel safe.

It is a must, of course, to feel safe in your relationships. Relationships are about growth, trust, communication and knowing you can be yourself. Now, I must write and I have noticed that it’s not with everyone that you can be your 100%. You will notice that there will be those who you can be 80% with, others perhaps 75%, some 90% and only a select few 100%. With any close interaction that you have with someone, you must feel safe no matter what percentage of yourself you are. If not, it can’t work.

Feeling safe is just as important as being safe, “being safe” as in being physically away from harm and danger. Feeling safe helps form a glue in relationships and at home with your loved ones, it makes going to work so pleasant and it helps you feel more confident about yourself. Being aware of this is a must when it comes to your well-being.

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Are You a Liability to Yourself?

Many times we don’t have the life that we want, we don’t feel as great as we are capable of feeling and we don’t reach our fullest potential not because we are not deserving of all the things that we want but because we are our own liability.

The meaning of liability is something that can cause a disadvantage. So with this said, when you are your own liability, you put yourself in a disadvantage in the sense that you yourself cause your own misfortunes, your own failures, your disappointments, etc.

You are probably wondering “how so?”. Well, there are many ways to be your own liability. You can do this through your own beliefs. If you deep down inside don’t believe you are worthy, don’t think you are enough, don’t think that you are capable, these beliefs hinder you of the very thing that you want. This is something to be dealt with ASAP since not dealing with one’s own beliefs can keep recreating what it is that you don’t want.

You do this through your thoughts, whether these are thoughts about yourself or thoughts about your life. This can kind of be related to your beliefs but with thoughts, think about what it is that you think on a daily basis. Your thoughts do influence your emotions.

You can be your own liability by the things that you allow in your life. What kind of messages are you allowing in? What kind of relationships are you allowing in your life? What kind of environments are you choosing to be a part of? What kind of labels are you allowing? You can truly become what you allow.

What kind of shape are you emotionally? We are driven by our emotions. We make decisions based on our emotions. When emotionally we are not right, we won’t have the capacity to make decisions with clarity. When emotionally we are not right, we open the doors to bad things to come into our life.

When you come to the realization that you are your own liability, it is a must to get help. Sometimes it is hard to do this on our own and that is when it is a must to reach out to someone who can help. This is for your own good as well as the good of your own well-being.

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What Does It Mean to Be Truly Healthy?

I want to finish off what I wrote last week but this time write about the question that I had in mind for quite some time which is “what does it mean to be truly healthy?” and I think there are several things to this.

First, I feel the need to add that being truly healthy, at least in my opinion, doesn’t mean the absence of illness. The reason for this is because there are other forms of being unhealthy that goes beyond the physical ailments. With this in mind, it is important to not judge another person with any physical impairment or ailment. It also doesn’t mean the absence of any sadness or mental ailment. I think nowadays it is easier than ever before to be more emotionally and mentally stressed which can lead us to more mental ailments. With the right amount, anyone is susceptible to feeling depressed or having a mental ailment.

Being fully healthy is making the most of what you have. That means that even if you have a physical ailment, you learn to manage, treat or work around it. You don’t use your physical ailment or impairment as an excuse to not live your life fully. You don’t allow it to stop you from fully expressing yourself. As long as your spirit isn’t handicapped, you still have so much in you to strive for.

Being fully healthy means that no matter the size of your baggage, you take the time to open it up and leave out all that you no longer need. I am using the word “baggage” as a metaphor to mean any issues you may have. We all have issues and that’s only because we are human beings. No one is perfect. We all have had things happen to us that perhaps are unresolved but as adults, it is our responsibility to work on those issues. The reason why it is important to work on those issues is because those very issues can hinder us from living the life we truly want.

Being healthy means understanding your emotions whether they are positive or negative emotions. Understanding your emotions is one of the keys to understanding yourself. It is also important to know how to manage your emotions as well. It is crucial to know that it is only normal to have your ups and downs emotionally. You just want to watch out for those really lows that can hinder you from living your life.

Being truly healthy is more about knowing how to manage yourself. It is not about the absence of illness or being physically perfect when it comes to health. It is important to look at all aspects of your life in order to really say whether you are healthy or not because it could be that you are physically healthy but not healthy in another area of your life. With this I would like to encourage you that you take a close look at your overall life in order to see what area of your life could be healthy if not healthier.

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Are You Mentally Paralyzing Yourself?

I have always thought that the worse way to be paralyzed is to be paralyzed mentally. What made me come to this conclusion is that I would analyze how many who are physically challenged would rise up and do things that many would perhaps consider impossible and some who have no physical challenges seem to not achieve much or anything in life and I would ask myself “why is that?”. It is then that I realized that being mentally paralyzed is the worst and this is what I will be writing about in today’s post.

What does it mean to be mentally paralyzed? Being mentally paralyzed means that you mentally make yourself incapable of doing things. There are signs that one gives when they are mentally paralyzed and these are: the frequent use of “can’t”, “I would if I could”, “I don’t have skills/money/talent/connections, etc”, the doing many things at once and not finishing any of the things that are started, believing that you indeed can’t do something or can’t have something, among many other things that actually mask you paralyzing yourself. When you do this, you block all that you say that you want, all that you want to achieve AND you stop yourself from being who you truly are.

You may ask yourself, “who am I?!”. Well, I can certainly say that you are NOT your “can’ts”, your “I would if I could”, your lacks, etc. However, it is your constant focus on these things that makes you become the very thing that you don’t want to be! In order for you to become unstuck, you NEED to remove your blocks, you NEED to get out of your own way, you NEED to stop saying that you can’t do something or that you don’t have something. You can’t wait for something to change in order for you to change! YOU need to change in order for things to change! I know that this is easier said or written than done but it is much more fruitful to move yourself out of the way and this I can write for personal experience. For as long as you keep focusing on your lacks, for as long as you keep saying that you can’t, you won’t go anywhere and you have no one else to blame but yourself.

For your well-being, it is important to question whether or not you are mentally paralyzing yourself whenever you are in a situation that you don’t want to be. Many times we don’t have the life that we want because it is us who are hindering that from happening. It is important to access the way you are talking, assess the actions you are taking and then from there make changes. If you can remove yourself out of your own way, you will see yourself achieving that which you want to achieve.

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The Real Definition of Strength and Being Strong

Many times we mistaken certain qualities of a person of strength and who is strong for weaknesses that I feel it is important to write about the real definition of strength and being strong just so we don’t get certain things confused.

There will be times in life when our strength will be tested and during times where we have every right to to feel the way we do, certain emotions and actions may be interpreted as weaknesses. I would first like to describe what a person who is strong and of strength is.

A person of strength is someone who shows courage despite the fear. It is someone who does what they can to handle the most difficult situation in the best way they can. This doesn’t mean that they don’t feel resistance with the challenge that is put on their path, not at all. It means that they accept the way they feel, they know they have the right to feel the way they do and they do their best to work through what they are going through. It is someone who does their best to see the positive in their situation. It is someone who puts their best foot forward. It is someone who doesn’t give up even when they feel like it.

A strong person is someone who is creative because they know that despite the circumstances, they have to make things work. It is someone that even when they are down, they still lift others up. It is someone who reaches out for help when they know they need it. It is someone who has the courage to cry when something prompts their tears to fall down their eyes.

As you can read, being strong doesn’t mean that you don’t feel pain, that you are always happy, that everything is going super well for you, that you are superman or superwoman or that your life is all well put together. Not at all! This is because life is not always well put together. That’s because there will always be something put on your path that will challenge you. That’s because you are only human and it is ok to feel sad once in a while when a situation does take you to that point. It is ok to feel pain when a loved one is sick or even passed. It is ok to love and then feel hurt when that love is not corresponded.

It is time that we start giving the real definition to what having strength and being strong mean because for your well-being it is a must to know that life happens, there will be things that will hurt you and there will be times where you will be challenged. There is nothing wrong with seeking help when you need it. That actually makes you a very strong person because it takes maturity to admit when one needs help. If there is any doubt in you as to whether or not you are strong due to circumstances in your life that are challenging, I hope this definition sheds some light to you and provides you with the comfort that you are still a strong person.

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