Know Your Values

These past few years have been nothing but growth for me. This growth, though, came with so much disappointment and hurt but the lessons are so valuable that I can’t put a price to this. One of the things that I learned was the importance of truly knowing what your values are.

The reason why you want to know what your values are is because if you want to attract the kind of people that you need, the friendships that will truly nurture your soul, the loving man or woman that you want, etc. it’s important to know what you value. For instance, I realized these past two years that I truly value people who don’t consistently speak awful about others whether that be their family, friends, etc. Why? Because to me this shows me what the person is capable of saying even about me and it tells me what is in their heart.

When you know what you truly value, you will attract and let in those things and people that align with what you value. But unless you get a good understanding of who you are and what matters most to you, you can’t position yourself to allow only the things, people and situations that you truly want.

So, how do you know what your values are? Well, this comes with self-analysis. It comes with the willingness to go deep within you to understand what truly matters most to you. It takes a willingness to want to take the time for you to know who you are. And it takes a willingness to grow. Know that as you get older, your values may slightly change due to the experiences you have. Every encounter you have, every relationship, every circumstance will shape you in some way.

If you allow the growth, you allow the lessons that you are meant to learn. You will allow yourself to be a little better than yesterday. You will allow yourself more wisdom. It is through this growth that you will learn more about your own values.

When you know your values, you won’t waste your time on relationships that will just have you spiraling down. You don’t allow circumstances that don’t add to you. You are more willing to let go of the things that are not working for you no matter how good those things may look on the surface.

The values that I am referring to in today’s post are the ones that are truly aligned with your true essence. Know that there are times when we may have values that conflict with one another, which is something that I mention because of personal experience. I will get into conflicting values on another post. For now, it’s important that you become aware of the values that you know that will add to your life greatly. This is why in my coaching program, I coach people on knowing their deep down important values because this is part of mastering yourself to greater well-being.

So, if you find yourself in constant opposition to what you want in life, missing the mark or just not getting what you want, then you have to look into your values. This will help indicate to you the direction you need to be heading in life. I would like to invite you in today’s post to take a look at your values if you see anything that isn’t the way you want it to be.

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The Fine Line Between Caring About What Others Think and Feel Vs. Not Caring

Since on my last post I discussed how in order to be authentic you have to be true to who you are and this will also mean that you can not care about what others think and feel, then you may wonder whether or not there is a fine line between caring about what others think and feel vs. not caring and to what degree should we care or not care and this is exactly what this post will be about.

First I want to discuss the “not caring part”. The reason why you shouldn’t care so much is because at the end of the day, no one else is living your life for you. No one else has to carry the consequences of your actions. No one else can do anything for you. Others can be a sense of support for you but no amount of support will matter if you are not the first one to support yourself. No amount of love from others will matter if you first don’t love yourself. No amount of any investment that others can do in you will matter if you first don’t invest in yourself. In other words, everything, absolutely EVERYTHING in your life starts with you. YOU are the one that matters most in YOUR life. When it comes to YOUR life, it is you who has to live with you for the rest of your life. Concerning yourself too much with what others will think and feel will hinder you, it will cripple you and prevent you from your own growth. This is because no one truly has the answers to your life. This is because other people may have their own insecurities that they may project on to you. This is because other people may be limited and this limitation includes that they may be mentally limited due to their own ignorance or limiting beliefs. They may be limited emotionally in the sense that they may not believe something is possible when you in your heart know it is. Whatever it may be, other people will always be limited because they are not you to know what you truly need and want.

Now, just because I write that you shouldn’t care about what others think and feel doesn’t mean that this is not a license to disregard other people’s feelings and thoughts and act in a careless manner. Not at all! To a certain degree you have to care because we all influence each other. You matter to someone and what you say and do has an influence on someone else. Even though other people’s happiness is not your responsibility, it is their responsibility, you can add to other people’s well-being by being a sense of joy to them. I think we come into this world to add to other people’s life in tremendous ways, it’s just a matter of us seeing that. It is in this sense that what others think and feel should matter. If your words and actions are going to hurt others, then it has to matter! If what you are going to say or do will add joy to others, then it has to matter! Everything and anything that you do has to come from a place where you are full and good. We have to be real and honest to know that we are not always going to be our best selves. We are only human. However, care about what others think or feel to the degree that you add joy and greatness to others. Not the opposite.

There is a fine line between caring about what others think and feel vs. not caring and that line is where is this caring coming from. Is it coming from a place of insecurity about yourself or is it coming from a genuineness of adding rather than depleting from others? THAT is the fine line. When this caring is coming from a place of insecurity, then you need to value more what you think and feel rather than others. When it comes from a genuine place of adding to others rather than depleting, then that’s when it should matter. Mastering this fine line is a must for your well-being.

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The Secrets to Strength and Clarity

Strength and clarity- two key ingredients needed whenever one deals with very difficult times. Strength is needed because it is a must to be strong enough to not break apart but yet strong enough that at the same time you can still become a better person as a result of what you are going through rather than allowing your heart to harden as a result. You need clarity because it is during difficult times that one has to make very hard decisions and in order to make the right decisions, you need clarity.

With this said, what are the secrets to strength and clarity? The secrets are having a good mind, keeping your emotions in check, compartmentalizing and giving things space.

Having a good mind is extremely important. Without a good mind, you have the wrong perspective, you make bad decisions and everything in your life will reflect what is in your mind. This is because indeed everything starts in the mind. It is a must that you train your mind to be how you need it to be.

Keeping your emotions in check is a must because wherever your emotions go, your body will follow. When all you are feeling are negative emotions, you also make bad decisions and will have the wrong perspective, both not conducive to great well-being. When emotionally you are not right, you won’t want to choose the right foods to nourish your body. Eventually your physical body will suffer as well. We are emotional beings and as emotional beings, we make decisions based on our emotions. This is the very reason why you need to keep your emotions in check.

One thing to learn from men that I think should not be a man thing is compartmentalizing. Men have a fascinating way of separating things, events and emotions and this is a great survival tool. The reason for this is because by compartmentalizing, you don’t spill over other areas of your life the stress that one area of your life is causing you. Compartmentalizing basically is separating mentally and emotionally the different areas of your life. This is a challenge at first if you normally mesh every area of your life but it can be mastered.

It is important to give yourself space- space to feel your emotions, space to be there for yourself, space to tend to your needs, space away from the things that hurt you. The reason for this is to maintain your mental and emotional sanity. Space allows things to flow freely because when you allow things to flow freely, they have a way of getting better. For instance, when you give yourself space to grieve, you are letting that all out which will help you feel better. When instead you bottle your emotions in, it is only a matter of time for that to explode like a volcano. This is why space is very important.

Strength and clarity are two things that although are very important in difficult times it can be a challenge to have, trust me, I know. However, if you work on the ingredients needed to have both strength and clarity, you will surely have both.

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