The Problem With Unresolved Issues

One of the things that can ruin one’s well-being without one realizing is any unresolved issues and this is what I will be writing in today’s post.

Why write about unresolved issues? Because unresolved issues can prevent you from living your life fully. Unresolved issues can make you push away all the goodness and you may not even understand why. Unresolved issues can make you chase all that is not good for you and you may not understand why. Unresolved issues can make you hold on to something that is hurting you and you may find it hard to let go. Unresolved issues can lead you to do things, accept people and circumstances that are unhealthy and can lead to destructive choices. No, I am not exaggerating, it CAN lead to destructive choices.

How can one know when they have unresolved issues? I think the best way is by looking at how your life is. Take a look at what you have been attracting, take a look at what you have been accepting in your life, take a close look at your relationships and take a closer look at how you feel and think about yourself. We accept what we think we deserve. We accept what we feel we deserve. When you know that you deserve better, you don’t accept anything less. Based on the way you view yourself and your life, that’s what you tend to accept.

Where do unresolved issues come from? How does one get to this point? There are many things that can lead to one having unresolved issues. It can come from your childhood, from your parents, the way you were treated in school, any rejection you may have had in the past, any failure and the most important especially as an adult, your perception. Perception is a big one because your perception of anything is everything. What is done to us is not what really matters, it is the way we perceive what happened what matters most. The way that you get to a point of having an unresolved issue is that when something occurs, you perhaps didn’t give it much thought and didn’t processed how something either made you feel and your thoughts of what happened, the lessons, etc. It is important to give things room- give yourself as well as what happened room so that you can digest it. The best way to resolve something is by processing it. It is a mistake to sweep things under the rug or substitute what hurt you for another without first letting it sit for a bit until you learn the lesson and then move on. This is how many without knowing and unintentionally hurt others.

Unresolved issues….it is a must to deal with the issues and move past it. Once again, it is a mistake to sweep things under the rug, substitute what hurt you for another without first letting it sit for a bit until you learn the lesson and then move on, a huge mistake to numb your emotions with alcohol, drugs, food or anything in an unhealthy manner. If you don’t want the issue to creep its ugly head, you might as well learn and grow from it.

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It’s Still a Privilege!

This post that I am writing today is one that I write with pain and with so much mixed feelings and I hope this message can make you cherish more certain things if you still have them in your life.

There are things in life that we either take for granted, challenges that we may not like to face, things that we wish we weren’t going through, people who will get us on our nerves and on and on the lists goes. It doesn’t matter how hard the challenge may be, how difficult of a time you may be having, how much someone may get you on your nerves…it’s still a privilege.

That loved that you have by your side that may be getting you on your nerves now, it’s still a privilege that you have them in your life. Remember that someday they may not be there. This difficult time that you may be having, it’s still a privilege because there are lessons to be learned from that experience. That pain that you may be feeling at the moment it’s still a privilege because it makes you see how human you are.

Whenever you feel a heaviness, whenever you feel exhausted and tired of whatever situation that you are facing, please know that life is always changing so that moment that you have, no matter how difficult it may be, it is still a privilege that you are going through it. Life is extremely short and every moment is to be enjoyed. Enjoy that loved one even if they get you on your nerves! Always remind those who you love that you love them! No matter how difficult a moment may be, do your best to embrace that moment! Every moment, even the difficult ones, is to be cherished.

Today’s post I want to dedicate to my dad. It’s still a privilege to be able to fight for you, to be able to struggle with you, to be able to have those sleepless nights just to be by your side whenever you are at a new facility, whenever you feel lonely and need some company. It’s still a privilege although it’s a hard task but because you are a fighter, I am a fighter and even though there are times where it feels like it’s too much, I would still continue fighting along side you. For all those moments that we had to fight along side you that we know we won’t get back, we will still treasure those moments and we thank you so much for all that you are giving to us. We love you and will love you always!

To all of you, please remember that no matter what….it’s still a privilege.

Ways to Be Lucky

There are different ways to be lucky and the definition of what it means to be lucky will be different for everyone. As I am sitting on my balcony of my new home (this is why I have been MIA for almost a month- trust me, I never forgot my loyal readers), I can’t help but feel lucky.

It’s important for you to know what this definition is for you so that you can start living that life that you want to live. I remember how last year I was thinking how lucky I would be if I could have my morning coffee or even write from my balcony. However, there are other things that you must consider which are the basis for you being lucky and from which to build upon.

The basis are first your health. If you have health, please consider yourself lucky. Without health you can’t possibly do anything, let alone achieve anything. Any dream that you may have, believe it or not, starts with your health. When I write “your health” I don’t refer to just the physical health, I mean your overall health- your mind, your soul and your emotions. Yes, you need a healthy body because that is your primary vehicle but you need a healthy mind because a healthy mind leads you to making wise decisions that contributes to your overall well-being. Emotionally you need to be healthy because we all are emotional beings and the decisions that we make are healthy based on our emotions.

Consider yourself lucky if you have love in your life and I’m not necessarily referring to romantic love, this can be love from your family, friends, etc. Love truly is the basis of everything and it’s what drives us as well. Love truly makes the world go round and it is the primary food for your mind and soul. Consider yourself lucky to be surrounded by love and to have people who would be there for you through thick and thin. It is not about having hundreds of friends, it’s about having quality friends and that’s what truly matters.

Believe it or not, consider yourself lucky if you can dream. It’s free and so necessary for achieving your goals. Everything starts from the mind so if you can first see it in your mind, it is only a matter of time for you to see it in your reality.

Being lucky comes in many forms and it is important for your overall well-being for you to see how lucky you are even in the most simple ways. Doing so will help you feel good about your life and yourself.

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Your Christmas Present From Life…

Christmas is just around the corner and for the past several weeks if not months before, I bet you have been planning what Christmas gifts to give to those you love. You probably have been thinking about what to get for yourself. Perhaps you even wondered what are others going to give to you. Have you ever thought, though, what is your Christmas present from Life? And more so, have you been good this whole year to have this present from Life?

There are several gifts from Life that we get that we tend to take for granted. I want to clarify that the reason why I write “Life” and not “God” is to respect those who may be atheist or who may have other beliefs so you may substitute “Life” to anything you believe in. Going back to today’s topic, some of Life’s gifts are health, love and prosperity.

Health is a gift, a very precious one, however, have you been behaving in order to enjoy this precious gift?! What do I mean with this question? I will explain. I can say from personal experience that health is something you truly enjoy when you understand how health works, when you have an understanding of how your body works, when you make the conscious effort to take care of yourself, when you invest in your health. Enjoying good health is your birth right but in order for you to enjoy this right, you have to take good care of your body. This is what I mean when I ask you if you have been good this whole year. The more you know, the better choices you make in regards to your health. Your health is the foundation of well-being.

Love, awww, the fuel of the soul, body and mind. I feel like without love we are literally dead. This is another thing we tend to take for granted. A healthy family, loving and supporting friends are gifts from Life. Have you been good in order to have this year round? What I mean with being good is have you been cultivating these relationships. Have you made it your goal to let those you love know how much they mean to you. Relationships are like plants, if they are not nurtured, they can die. They are nurtured with the care that you give to them. This is also part of having a balanced life.

Prosperity. This can be a tricky one because when one thinks of prosperity, the one thing that comes to mind is money. Indeed money is part of the prosperity piece. Having success in life is truly a gift but have you been good to deserve this? With this I mean if you have done all you could to allow prosperity in life. Have you made it your goal to educate yourself on topics that you need to learn. Have you made it your goal to love your money. Have you made it your goal to open yourself up to learning about creating different streams of income. Have you made it your goal to give to others. There are so many things that fall under the category of prosperity that I can’t fully cover in this post but that certainly are very important. This is just to give you some food for thought.

Certainly Life is constantly giving us gifts but it is up to us to keep earning those gifts with every action that we take. Life does its part but you too have to do yours if you are to see things going your way. This is all part of that well-being that we all strive for. With this I wish you all Happy Holidays.

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You Will Always Be Tested…

I think about how my life has been like for over a year now and there is nothing else I can say or describe how life has been other than full of tests. Tests of courage, tests of faith, tests of patience, tests of strength, tests of endurance, Life will even provide you with tests of others which will help you see who is who in your life. All these tests are part of building you into the person that you are meant to be- a person with great well-being.

Although it would be so great to say that life is always great, that life is nothing but wonderful and don’t get me wrong, life is great when you look at the big picture. However, when challenges come your way, the best way to deal with these challenges is by looking at them as tests. So with this said, how can you pass these tests? You pass these tests by asking yourself several questions which are the following: “What am I meant to learn from all this?”, “How can I be a better person because of this?”, “In what ways am I meant to mature because of this?”, “How is this preparing me for the person that I am meant to become?”.

When I look back at certain “tests” I had that I felt I had failed, what I had failed to realize then is that those “tests” that I thought I failed I didn’t fail at all. Those were lessons that I was meant to learn for the bigger gift that was in store for me. There are different levels of tests that we all face. Some are bigger and more difficult than others but nonetheless, even the small tests are very important because there is so much value you can get from them.

With this post, I would like to encourage you that if you are going through any difficulty in life, anything that you are struggling with, start looking for those lessons that you are meant to learn and become better because of it. It doesn’t matter how big or small that difficulty may be, there are jewels hidden in those painful experiences. All we can do as humans is just grow from each situation because difficulties are a part of life but it doesn’t have to ruin our life. Pass these tests and you will see that great things can be in store for you because of the lessons you learned. Part of well-being is also passing these tests, believe it or not, because unless you learn, you will never grow as a person.

Know that with everything and anything, you will always be tested…

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Make Your Own Vows

Today, the day after my birthday, I had a voice inside me advice me of certain things which I know was my intuition and it’s something that I would like to share with you. I feel like sharing this because I think these things that my intuition is advising me are things that we should all be doing on a daily bass. Here it goes…

“Aura, from this day forward, I want you to make several vows because life is too beautiful and awfully short to be focusing on all the things that are not serving you. I want you to make a vow to focus more on yourself. Do more of the things that make you happy. Focus on making yourself happy because that is your main responsibility. Take care of your health no matter what. Focus on those who truly love you and forget those who couldn’t see your value. Let go of those who hurt you and love more those who love you. Let go of your fears. You can’t live on fear since fear paralyzes you. Be more of who you are. And since your relationships mean so much to you, again, let go of those who can’t see your value and focus and love those who do. Make this promise to yourself, please.”

This is the kind of vow that we all need to make to ourselves. To your vows you can add whatever it is that you know you need to work on more in your life. We make vows to our spouse and loved ones but many times we may fail to make that vow to ourselves. I personally know what it’s like to struggle with certain issues and I can tell you that not learning how to deal with them can hinder you from your best. I know what it is like to allow your fear to take over. This stops you from fully growing. I also know what it is like to focus on the wrong things and people. Those that are meant to be in your life will have the capacity to see you exactly for who you are and still stay in your life.

I share this with you because I want to challenge you to make your own vows and to commit to them because committing to your own vows can add tremendously to your well-being. Well-being doesn’t start with anything or anybody else. It starts with you.

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The Purpose of Disappointments

Disappointments…..it’s just one of those things that we will get for as long as we live because they are a part of life. It sucks to be disappointed but they are a part of life and it is necessary to accept this. So if this is part of life, then what is the purpose of disappointments? That’s what I would like to discuss in today’s post.

There are different kinds of disappointments. Some disappointments will come from people, others from circumstances. Some will come from ourselves, believe it or not. There are many possible reasons as to what led to that disappointment such as expectations that one may have, needs that were not met, even miscommunication or no communication from the other person or even from yourself (unfortunately, miscommunication or no communication is a big one and it shouldn’t be this way).

It is important whenever you are disappointed to understand why you are disappointed and what led to that disappointment. This is going to shed some light as to what happened and what you can learn from it so that should something like this happen again, you will know how to respond. Life is wonderful in the sense that Life always gives us back the lessons that we must learn and it will test us to see if we actually learned our lesson or not.

Disappointments can feel like a sour experience. Depending on the degree of your expectations, or the feelings you have towards that person that disappointed you or depending on the circumstance is what will dictate how sour that experience will be for you. Emotions and your perception of what happened play a big role in how you experience things. By no means should you just brush the disappointment you feel under the rug as something insignificant. This is almost equivalent to you having a deep wound and covering it up with a Band-Aid hoping it will heal on its own. I always encourage to feel the pain, although it sucks, and take care of the pain.

I’ve said and wrote before that part of well-being is growth. In order to grow, changes are involved and where there is change, there is learning as well. Disappointments offer you an opportunity to grow in many ways that can make you a better person. It may suck that a friendship broke, a relationship is torn, an opportunity may seem lost, but I’m starting to realize certain things- those that are meant to stay in your life will stay, if a relationship means so much to you, both of you will work things out and opportunities are never lost.

Allow yourself to grow from that disappointment. Look at what you could have done differently, not just what that other person did wrong, but also look at what role you played in that situation. If an opportunity didn’t seem to be yours, that’s because there is something better that is yet to come. If you take everything that comes to you, you will not leave space for the thing that is truly for you. Disappointments have their purpose but it is up to you to let that purpose come forth.

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