I decide to live….

In today’s blog post, I would like to encourage you to say to yourself “I decide to live”. Why? Because going through the motions of life is not living, it’s just existing and existing is the fastest way to death.

The reason why I write that it “is the fastest way to death” is because in essence your soul will feel dead. When you just go through the motions of life, not living with a purpose, you will slowly get to a point where you will question what you have been doing and was it all worth it.

So start declaring the following to yourself….

I decide to live despite the fact that I may get hurt. This is because rejection, hurt, disappointments are all part of life. They are part of my growth so that I can make better choices in the future. They all help me get clear as to what I want and need in different areas of my life. They all add up to the bigger picture of life.

I decide to live despite the fact that I may be afraid to make certain decisions. This is because living in fear will only paralyze me and put me further from the person I was always meant to be. I will take risks and I will take these risks because without them, I will remain wondering “what if” and the “what ifs” will only put me in a place full of regrets. I prefer to regret the chances that I took than the chances I never took in life.

I decide to live because when my time comes, I want to be in peace with the life I have lived. I want to be able to say I did everything that I always wanted to do. I want to know that I am leaving a legacy of strength, love and courage.

I decide to live….. saying these kinds of affirmations are necessary for your overall well-being because well-being requires risks. When I write “risks”, I’m not referring to risks that place you or your overall health in jeopardy; I’m referring to risks that you know would be healthy for you but that for some reason you are afraid to make because of a past experience, someone else’s experience, being afraid of the unknown, etc.

When you decide to live, you are making a commitment to yourself to be the best version of you. This is a promise that’s a must if you want to feel whole. This doesn’t mean that you won’t have moments of doubt or even regrets, but this will put you closer to having everything you ever wanted in life. So you decide whether you want to live or exist. I want to encourage you to decide to live because just existing is poison to the soul and that poison will catch up with you.

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You Will Always Be Tested…

I think about how my life has been like for over a year now and there is nothing else I can say or describe how life has been other than full of tests. Tests of courage, tests of faith, tests of patience, tests of strength, tests of endurance, Life will even provide you with tests of others which will help you see who is who in your life. All these tests are part of building you into the person that you are meant to be- a person with great well-being.

Although it would be so great to say that life is always great, that life is nothing but wonderful and don’t get me wrong, life is great when you look at the big picture. However, when challenges come your way, the best way to deal with these challenges is by looking at them as tests. So with this said, how can you pass these tests? You pass these tests by asking yourself several questions which are the following: “What am I meant to learn from all this?”, “How can I be a better person because of this?”, “In what ways am I meant to mature because of this?”, “How is this preparing me for the person that I am meant to become?”.

When I look back at certain “tests” I had that I felt I had failed, what I had failed to realize then is that those “tests” that I thought I failed I didn’t fail at all. Those were lessons that I was meant to learn for the bigger gift that was in store for me. There are different levels of tests that we all face. Some are bigger and more difficult than others but nonetheless, even the small tests are very important because there is so much value you can get from them.

With this post, I would like to encourage you that if you are going through any difficulty in life, anything that you are struggling with, start looking for those lessons that you are meant to learn and become better because of it. It doesn’t matter how big or small that difficulty may be, there are jewels hidden in those painful experiences. All we can do as humans is just grow from each situation because difficulties are a part of life but it doesn’t have to ruin our life. Pass these tests and you will see that great things can be in store for you because of the lessons you learned. Part of well-being is also passing these tests, believe it or not, because unless you learn, you will never grow as a person.

Know that with everything and anything, you will always be tested…

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The Importance of Taking Breaks

Some may have probably realized that last week I didn’t post on my blog. That is because I was giving myself a break since I am also working on other projects. This little break that I took made me think about the importance of taking breaks and this is what I will be discussing in today’s post.

It’s great to have momentum. Momentum keeps things going, however, it seems like in today’s world we have become like the energizer bunny that just keeps going and going without stopping for a moment to reflect upon things and enjoy what we have at the present time. Being this way can make you numb in regards to your emotions and to yourself.

Taking breaks every now and then can help you reflect upon what you have accomplished and it can make you look within so that you can be in touch with yourself. It’s so important to be in touch with your emotions and with yourself because the more connected you are with yourself, the more authentically you can be and live. The problem with not being in touch with your emotions and yourself is that you become numb as to how you feel and you become less and less who you really are.

Taking breaks can allow you to re-energize yourself so that you can go back to what you were doing with more energy. When you just keep going and going, this can be very exhausting not just physically but also mentally and emotionally. Taking some time away from what you were doing can help you gain a much deeper appreciation for what you have and do. That distance away from something allows you to miss it and sometimes it’s good to miss certain things because it is in the missing it that you can appreciate it. When you are surrounded with the same thing over and over, you won’t be able to help but to take it for granted, this is why missing something can be healthy.

Taking breaks every now and then helps you to slow down and this helps your body to relax. When you are constantly on the go go go, this can stress the body and this activates the sympathetic system which is responsible for the fight-or-flight response. If this continues for long, this can cause serious damages to the body like for example, the liver produces more blood sugar, your heart beats faster and the blood pressure elevates, among other things that lead to chronic diseases. I’m pretty sure you don’t want any of this and so taking breaks every now and then can help your body to slow down.

It is my belief that taking breaks is not so much a luxury but a necessity. It helps with your mental and emotional sanity, it can help your body to slow down and it can help you reflect upon your life and where you are at the moment. Take some time every now and then to give yourself a break and remember the benefits of taking a break. This too can help you maintain balance in your well-being.

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Embrace Your Humanness

There will be times where you will make mistakes from time to time. There will be times where you will feel like you can’t seem to get things together. There will be times where you will feel more emotional. There will be times where you will not feel like yourself. When we have times like these, we sometimes tend to be hard on ourselves. I know this very well because I can be the queen of being so hard on myself. For example, when it comes to languages I tend to want to be a perfectionist or when I make a mistake I tend to be so hard on myself and this in itself is a huge mistake.  There will be days where you will make a mistake, say the wrong things, do the wrong things, be more emotional, can’t seem to get things together and you will have those days because you are only human. For your overall well-being, it is very important for you to learn to embrace your humanness.

Embrace the fact that you make mistakes. I’m not talking about mistakes that you know ahead of time that they are mistakes and you do them anyway, no. I’m talking about mistakes that you make that you didn’t mean to make. You perhaps didn’t mean to say things the way you said it. You didn’t mean to do what you did. You mispronounced a word or didn’t do something right. Mistakes, I think, are meant to help you grow so allow yourself to grow from the mistakes you make. You will always be a work in progress.

Embrace the fact that there will be times when it will seem like you can’t get things together. Sometimes life does throw things in our way that makes us feel frazzled or that just throws us off. It’s best to have compassion for yourself in this case and to have compassion for those who find themselves in this situation. You just never know what the other person is going through that they are frazzled themselves.

As human beings our life will continuously be full of lessons, we will never stop growing nor should we stop growing since growth is a part of well-being. For as long as we live we will make mistakes from time to time, the important part is to learn from them. Life is never really perfect so there will be times where you will feel off and that’s ok because you’re only human. The way to avoid being so hard on yourself, I think, is by embracing your humanness because even in your humanness you are perfect the way you are.

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The Willingness to Mature

What does maturity have to do with well-being? A lot. Maturity comes in different ways. There are circumstances in life that forces us to mature, experiences that we go through over and over that leaves us with no option but to learn from those lessons of life. But more so, I think in order to mature, there needs to be a willingness to mature. I believe maturity is essential to well-being because when we are willing to mature it means we are willing to grow and growth is part of wellness.

Growth is what leads us to become better human beings on every level. Maturity requires us to grow. Without the willingness to mature, we become stuck and when we are stuck, eventually we will become miserable even if at the moment we may feel comfortable. Maturity does lead us to having the life that we want. For example, it takes maturity to be in a healthy, loving relationship. To know what your needs and wants are, to be willing to commit to another person, to be willing to take time for a relationship takes growth from your part because you had to look within to know these things about yourself. That takes maturity. Another example, to realize that it is ultimately you who is responsible for taking care of yourself, for taking care of your health, for making sure that you eat right takes maturity because it means that you took ownership of your life. For some it is easier to put the responsibility on the doctor for their health, it is easier to make a loved one responsible for whether or not they eat. It takes a certain level of maturity to take ownership of your mistakes and to learn from them.

The process of maturity is not easy because it requires changes and changes can feel quite uncomfortable. It feels uncomfortable because as human beings we feel comfort in the usual stuff even if that means that the usual isn’t working for us. For us it feels better to leave everything as is. The only problem with this is that sooner or later reality will hit us until we can no longer remain where we are.

For this reason, one of the things that we should be willing to do is to mature in every way each day. We are the sum total of what we do on a daily basis and it is for this reason that we should be willing to mature in every way. Growth leads us to true well-being.

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