Honesty Is Truly the Best Policy

Probably as you read this title, you thought about being honest with others. Even though it is important to be honest with others, this is not the honesty that I am referring to. There is one person that is very important in your life; one person who truly has so much power in your life, one person whom you ALWAYS need to be honest with so that you can be guided to the things and people that you want and that person is YOU.

Yes, the first person that you must be honest with is yourself. Honesty is truly the best policy and it only hurts you to not be honest with your own self. How does not being honest with yourself hurts you? The lack of honesty toward yourself hurts your chances of ever being happy. This is because you will most likely do things that doesn’t come from your true essence which is your soul. Most likely you will do things to please others. Most likely you will seek approval from others. This lack of honesty can prevent you from even listening to your own intuition. This, then, leads you to situations and people that you can’t help but wonder “how did this ever happen?”.

Lack of honesty toward yourself leads you to being confused and lost. This is because if you are not truly honest with yourself, how do you know what you need out of things and people? How do you know what will truly make you happy? How do you know what truly works for you and what doesn’t? What honesty does is that it leads you to the root of things that help you get what you want out of life.

Lack of honesty makes you numb to your own inner truth. How are you supposed to know who you are if you can’t be honest with yourself? Even though there are universal truths, I believe that each of us have our own truth according to our true essence. This truth may not resonate with those around you or even your own environment but how are you supposed to know that when you are not honest with yourself? Honesty sheds light to any darkness that you may be experiencing in your life.

Lack of honesty ruins your chances of ever having the life that you want in every regards. This is because that lack of honesty prevents you from having a deep understanding of who you are. Perhaps you are doing things just because everyone else around you are doing it, but is it really what you want to do? Perhaps you have been so used to eating a certain way because that’s how you grew up eating, but is that way of eating working for you? Perhaps the career that you have doesn’t bring joy to you, so why is it that you are in that profession? Once again, honesty sheds light where there is darkness. If you are in the dark of who you really are, this will hurt your well-being tremendously.

So with this post, I want to encourage you to be honest with yourself as to the decisions that you make, the things that you allow in your life and even the things that you got rid of in your life. Be honest with yourself as to the things that you really want. Be honest with yourself as to how you really want to feel…..because honesty is truly the best policy.

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“It Will All Somehow Get Done”

These past few weeks have been extremely stressful. The last time I’ve been so stressed was when my dad was very ill but this stress, which was brought upon goals that I had set for myself, was certainly not a healthy one. It brought acne to my face, so much that I haven’t seen in a long time, and a body breakdown last week Friday which led to me being in bed all day. I constantly heard a low voice telling me “It will all somehow get done” and had I listened to this inner voice, I don’t think I would have reached that point of stress. It is this that I would like to encourage you in today’s post….no matter what it is that you are trying to accomplish or need to finish doing…it will all somehow get done.

It will all somehow get done, therefore, there is no point in stressing. For what? To stress your body unnecessarily? Raise your blood pressure unnecessarily? Get yourself all out of whack mentally? It doesn’t matter how many goals you have, nothing is more precious than your body so it is a must to relax in the thought that everything will resolve itself.

It will all somehow get done, therefore there is no point in worrying. Worrying is so energy consuming to the point that it paralyzes you. It is actually a low energy vibration so this certainly won’t get you to where you want to go. Worrying robs you of mental and emotional agility, which you need when you have a lot going on.

It will all somehow get done…if you always keep this phrase in your mind, this will help you decrease any negative emotion you may feel due to the overwhelming pressures you may have. As long as you focus on the end result, whatever it is that you want to do, you will see the results of your labor.

It will somehow get done….a powerful phrase, believe it or not, and a way to train your mind and body to not stress itself because of life’s pressure. You were not meant to be stressed to the point of being sick. Enjoy everything you have to do, even the things that are not so pleasant- they are all part of the journey of growing into the person that you are meant to be.

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The Power of Authenticity

I think we live in a world where we are too concerned with pleasing others, with what others are going to think and with not being rude to others all at the cost of our well-being. Now, I want to clarify that I am not advocating total selfishness nor disregard towards others. Not at all and there is a fine line which we must pay attention. I can discuss that fine line on another post. What I am referring to in this post is the kind of concern where other people’s thoughts and feelings of you are more important than what you truly feel. There is no power in this kind of concern and this is why I am advocating authenticity.

There is power in authenticity. Let me start by describing what authenticity means. Being authentic means being true, it is not false nor is it imitating. So with this said, for the purpose of this post, it means being true to who you are regardless of what others may think or feel. It means you are not trying to be like others just to please others. It means you are not doing something that goes against what you truly feel and think even if others may not understand it and may be offended by it. I will explain what I mean with the latter “…even if others…may be offended by it”. What I mean with that is that there will be times where you will have to say “no” to others, set boundaries because what that person is doing you are not appreciate of, etc. You should never do something that goes against what you feel and think just because you might offend someone. Your well-being, your happiness, your peace of mind and you feeling good with the decisions that you make should ALWAYS go before you worrying about what others may think or feel when you notice that it crosses the line of your well-being.

I have to warn you that authenticity comes with a price. Sometimes a high price but I believe it’s a price worth paying because there is nothing like being authentic. The price is that you will have those who will misunderstand you, those who will criticize you, those who won’t want your friendship perhaps because of who you are, those who will talk wrongly about you behind your back because of your way of being. However, I think it is worse to go to bed feeling so disappointed with yourself for going against your true nature, for trying to fit into something that is so different from you and for trying to fit in or please others. At the end of the day, the reality is that you go to sleep to yourself, you wake up to yourself and when it’s your time to go, you will be in that coffin by yourself so who cares what others think?! You are the only one living your life, no one else is doing it for you! I know this sounds so blunt and crude but let’s be real. It is what YOU think and feel about yourself that matters most.

The power of authenticity is that you start to attract more of the people that you need in your life, people who are similar to you and who adds to your well-being. You will feel good with yourself knowing that you are doing things that makes YOU happy, not anyone else. You push away people and circumstances that in the long run don’t belong in your life. Your life will start to align itself in ways you never thought possible and this is all thanks to the power of authenticity.

Authenticity….so critical to your overall well-being because it is awful to do things that go against what we feel and think, your self-esteem gets chipped away every time you try to fit into something that you’re not and there is no way that your life can be the way you want and need it to be when you’re not authentic. Make it your goal to always be authentic to you no matter what.

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What Does It Mean That You Have Control Over Your Life?

On January 2nd, I tweeted “You have control over your life”. Some may probably ask themselves “how do I have control over my life when this has happened and that has happened?!”. When you say and ask yourself this, you are putting yourself in a victim position where things just happen to you and you have no control over it. If there’s one thing that I learned in 2014 is that indeed, things just happen in life that will be out of your control and it’s not this that I am referring to when I say that you have control over your life. Even though you may not have control over every single thing in your life because you don’t have control over what others do, there will be certain situations that will be out of your control, what you DO have control over is your perception and the way you will deal with the situation.

Your perception of things affect the way you decide to handle situations, the way you interact with others, the way you process things and the way you feel. This is why it is important that you take control of your mind and thoughts. The way you handle a person or situation affects, I’ve noticed, the memory and feelings you have over what happened. Wouldn’t it be nice to have more pleasant memories and even times in our life?! Well, for this to happen, it is under your control. No one else can control this for you. Decide now to see the lessons in the things that occur in your life. Decide now that a negative experience will affect you in a positive way. Decide now to empower yourself with positive thoughts.

I would like to clarify that I am not saying to see the world as all rainbow and sunshine when I say “decide now that a negative experience will affect you in a positive way”. Not at all! It is important to see your reality for what it really is but to remember that the way you view your reality is the way it will continue being and a negative experience doesn’t have to leave you a huge, ugly scar. Instead, allow that negative experience to be a catalyst for something beautiful.

Another thing I must add here is that you have to have the belief that indeed you are in control of your life. Without this belief, you will think you have no control, therefore, you will act like a person who has no control over their life. That’s how important your beliefs are in your life. So I challenge you to start believing that you do have control over your life.

You may not have much control over external circumstances, but you do have control over your internal circumstances, meaning your mind, your perceptions, your thoughts and your emotions as well as your actions so believe it or not, with all this, you DO have a lot of control over your life. Taking control over your life is one of the first steps to achieving balance and well-being. As I wrote in an article for The Manhattan Times newspaper and for The Bronx Free Press last year, your health start with you so start taking control over your life now.

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“How Can I Get Rid of The Feeling of Being Stuck?”

I think most people feel stuck in life every once in a while because sometimes the circumstances in life may get in the way. However, if you constantly feel stuck, then something is going on. Feeling stuck on a constant basis can make you feel hopeless, depressed and a sense of not having any control over your life. These feelings are the very feelings that will keep attracting to you more situations and people who will either make you stuck or keep you in a stuck place.

One of the ways to get rid of being in a stuck place is by having clarity of what you want and need. It is the knowing what you want and need that will help you understand what are the steps that you need to take in order to move forward. Without any clarity of what you want and need, there is no way you will take the steps necessary to get to where you want to be. Without any clarity, you won’t make the right decisions. Without any clarity, it’s easy to make any decision out of either desperation or emotion instead of because you have a goal in mind. This clarity is also part of you living with intention because when you live with intention, you live fully knowing what it is that you want out of life.

You need to BELIEVE that you have the power to make the necessary changes in your life. Without this belief, you allow outside circumstances to dictate the direction of your life. Without this belief, you will be controlled by your thoughts and emotions. Without this belief, you will continuously make decisions that push you away from the person that you want to be.  Many times we tend to forget how what we believe affects what we attract, the decisions that we make and the situations that we allow ourselves to get into.

Once you have clarity of what you want and need and believe that you have the power to make the necessary changes in your life, you can then find ways to change your life for the better. There is something beautiful that happens inside you when you start believing that you can make the changes that you need in your life and that’s opportunities, the right opportunities start to pop into your life in a way that you never expected. But in order for this to happen you have to be open to it.

These steps are key to you getting out of a place of feeling that you are stuck. I think this is one of the many causes that hinders one to the life they want and to having that balance in their life that we all need. Feeling stuck doesn’t have to be your life nor were you meant to feel this way. It is in your power to break the cycle of feeling that you are stuck.

Let Your Pain Be Your Teacher

Oh pain, pain, just go away! None of us like to feel pain. In fact, we are actually wired to avoid pain at all costs. I would like to offer you another perspective on how to look at your pain that can help you improve your life in every way.

There are moments in our lives where we may have an emotional pain either because we have a need that isn’t met, we had a big loss or we were very disappointed and if we are not careful, that emotional pain can become a mental one. What do I mean with mental pain? When I say this, I’m referring to depression, anxiety, loss of sense of reality, etc. Now, I am excluding those who are clinically depressed because that is a different ball game and there are certain illnesses that may require medication. Although I have to say that had I pursued a Ph.D in psychology and even though I don’t have a Ph.D. I don’t really believe in medication for depression just because I’m a believer that when you can deal with the real issue (many of them being the way someone views their life or any abuse or trauma they went through, etc), you can alleviate the depression, but that’s just my opinion. By all means, should what you are feeling is getting out of hand, see a professional.

It is my belief that emotions are to be felt and be understood because they can tell you a lot about where you are in life and what your thinking is. With this said, when you are feeling emotional or mental pain, don’t resist the feeling. Rather embrace it and try to understand where it is coming from. This can be an opportunity for you to work on an area in your life that you need to pay attention to. Be empathetic and kind to yourself. Work on yourself and any issue you feel you need to resolve. You are truly the best investment you can make.

No emotional pain should go unnoticed nor should you make believe that it doesn’t exist. This is the equivalent of you having a wound that is bleeding and you just act like that wound doesn’t’ exist. Any time you have an emotional or mental pain, this is an indicator that something is not going right in your life or as I like to say, your life is not in alignment with what your soul wants. When you live in alignment with what your soul wants, your soul being your true essence, by default you will be truly happy. You will feel a sense of peace that others can’t shake. You will feel like you’re living with purpose.

Any negative emotion, including pain, doesn’t have to be a bad thing. This can be a great opportunity to grow in well-being or be a better version of yourself. In life you decide how it’s going to be so allow your pain to be your teacher and guide. Pain doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it’s all in how you look at it.

The Power and Greatness of “No”

Saying “no” to the things that you don’t like, don’t want to do, things that don’t resonate with you, things you don’t agree with is very important. So many times we get wrapped up on what others may say or think that we neglect ourselves and what we feel. It is crucial to your well-being and self-esteem that you are true to yourself and being true to yourself will sometimes mean that you will say “no” to things and people.

When you, out of fear of what others may say or think of you, you don’t say “no” to things you don’t want to do, you will feel as if you are compromising yourself. That’s because you ARE compromising yourself. I don’t know about you but when I compromise what I feel and think, I don’t feel good about myself at night. The person that you wake up to and go to sleep with is with yourself. Therefore, you owe it to yourself to do things that makes YOU feel good about who you are, regardless what other people may say or think, just as long as you are not hurting yourself nor others.

The way to exercise the power of “no” is by knowing your limits, your boundaries, your likes and dislikes, knowing what you are not willing to tolerate. Basically, it takes knowing yourself in order for you to use this power to your advantage.

There will be times when exercising this power will mean that others may not understand you, may not like you, may treat you differently and that’s ok. The first and main person who needs to feel good with who you are, how you feel and think is you.

For your well-being, it is important that you say “no” to the things that compromise with who you are. The only way to truly living a fulfilling life is by you being true to who you are and this does mean that there will be times where you will need to exercise this power.