How Does Lack of Self-Love Looks Like?

Self-love is so critical to your overall well-being because this is one of the basics for building the foundation of your well-being. Love leads to trust. Love leads to respect. Love leads to healthy boundaries. When it comes to having a healthy relationship with yourself, self-love has to be there.

But many times, that lack of self-love tends to wear a mask and we think we love ourselves but in reality we don’t. It is when we lack self-love that we find ourselves in situations where we not only question ourselves but we question whether or not we deserve certain things, we self-sabotage, and the list goes on.

So with this said, how does lack of self-love looks like? Lack of self-love looks like you coming up with excuses for why someone disrespects you. It masks itself in you blaming yourself all the time for everything that goes wrong. It looks like you abandoning certain aspects of you and so you seek elsewhere for what you think you need. Lack of self-love also reveals itself in the choices that you make. Lack of self-love wears many masks that it is not possible to discuss them all in one post but I will focus on the ones I just mentioned here.

I’m going to elaborate a little bit on each of these things. The first one which is you coming up with excuses for why someone disrespects you. First off, there are no excuses or reasons for someone to disrespect you, I don’t care what the other person claims their reasons are. Someone disrespecting you is a reflection of who they are and how they feel about themselves. You allowing the disrespect is a reflection of the way you feel about yourself. You allowing the disrespect means you don’t feel deserving of respect which means you don’t love yourself. Remember that love is respect.

The second mask that lack of self-love wears is you blaming yourself for everything that goes wrong. There is a big difference between taking responsibility for what happens in your life and blaming yourself for everything that goes wrong. One leads to greater well-being because it leads to growth and the other is just plain negative and only chips from your self-esteem. There is a negative energy to blaming because it is accusatory. It implies that you did something so wrong and only you did wrong. There is no learning from the experience with blame. Blame leads to shame. There is no love in shame.

The third mask is you abandoning certain aspects of yourself and searching elsewhere for what you think you need. First, the things that you actually need you won’t find it elsewhere. That is because it first resides within you. You abandoning certain aspects of yourself means you not tending to your own needs, you not paying attention to your emotions. It’s also you not filling yourself up with the love, care and attention you need. You first need you before anyone else needs you. No one else needs you more than you.

The fourth thing I mention is that lack of self-love reveals itself in the choices you make. You want to know if you truly love yourself? Just look at the choices you make on a daily basis. What are the choices you make when it comes to food? What are the choices you make when it comes to friends? What are the choices you make when it comes to companionship? What are the choices you make when it comes to your feelings? All these, if you take a close look, will reveal to you whether or not you truly love yourself.

I would like to invite you to take the FREE course I created called The Path to Your Nirvana™, which is a 28 day course with 5 steps meant to help you live your own happiness by understanding first what is getting in the way of you being on your own path of happiness, how to overcome it, learning to understand your actions and focus and getting you to the path that your true essence has in store for you. There is a free bonus course with this course so it’s something for you to take advantage of. All you have to do is click on the link https://bit.ly/2uDS9Oo, put your name and email address.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

You can also read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at https://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez. I now have a YouTube channel which I will ask that you subscribe for more tips to increase your well-being https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLZANKeRUFM4YvMXy4HzQrg.

And if you would like to bring even more nature into your home, you can do what I do when I need a pick-me-up o when I have a headache, etc. and use the following oils that help me have more balance in life and I’m sure it will help you as well. http://my.doterra.com/Auraemartinez. You can also contact me so that I can help you choose the oils that will best help you.

 

 

 

 

Are You Bombarded With the Should’s?

I can tell you from personal experience that being bombarded with the should’s is the fastest way to burnout. Burnout doesn’t contribute to your well-being. It takes away from your well-being. Greater well-being requires that you have things that ADD to your well-being, not that take away from your well-being. Because the should’s take away from your well-being, I feel the need to write about this.

The thoughts and feelings of “I should do this”, “I should do that”, “I should do this because my goals are…..”, none of this even sounds positive. There is no positive energy in the should’s.

So, what can you do with the should’s when the reality is that there are things that you must do because you have certain goals? Well, the answer is to reframe those should’s.

Reframing means to literally change the frame of something, meaning the “look” for lack of a better word of a situation. Just like the frame changes the look of a photo, the frame that you put on a situation changes your perspective and feel of things. So what you are going to do is change your perspective of the situation.

I remember back when I was so disciplined in toning up my body. I would spend several hours food shopping and several more hours cooking and prepping my meals. I would carry my food everywhere I went. All this, after a while, felt like a chore for me- a chore that I was getting tired of doing. It was at that moment that I knew I needed to reframe the way I was viewing everything that I was doing.

I needed to remember why I was doing everything that I was doing. I needed to picture myself with the body I wanted. I needed to remind myself to enjoy the process. I changed my should’s to wants. I want to go food shopping. I want to spend my time in the kitchen. I want to prep my meals.

So the answer is to change your should’s to wants. You want to do whatever it is that you feel it’s a drag to do. You want to because you enjoy it. It’s in the reframing your should’s that you will no longer be bombarded by them. That’s when life becomes enjoyable because you are enjoying the process rather than just going through the motions. You start enjoying the process because you are not only focused on the outcome.

Should’s, they don’t need to bombard you. It is just a matter of reframing your should’s so that you no longer feel like you are obligated to do the things that need to be done in order for you to get your desired result.

I would like to invite you to take the FREE course I created called The Path to Your Nirvana™, which is a 28 day course with 5 steps meant to help you live your own happiness by understanding first what is getting in the way of you being on your own path of happiness, how to overcome it, learning to understand your actions and focus and getting you to the path that your true essence has in store for you. There is a free bonus course with this course so it’s something for you to take advantage of. All you have to do is click on the link https://bit.ly/2uDS9Oo, put your name and email address.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

You can also read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at https://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez. I now have a YouTube channel which I will ask that you subscribe for more tips to increase your well-being https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLZANKeRUFM4YvMXy4HzQrg.

And if you would like to bring even more nature into your home, you can do what I do when I need a pick-me-up o when I have a headache, etc. and use the following oils that help me have more balance in life and I’m sure it will help you as well. http://my.doterra.com/Auraemartinez. You can also contact me so that I can help you choose the oils that will best help you.

 

 

 

 

What Kind of Well-Being Do You Want?

We all want a great life, there is no doubt about it. But the problem isn’t the wanting a great life as much as knowing how that great life looks like.

Wanting anything is never enough, that is just the start. You have to have clarity about what it is that you want. It is that clarity that can provide you with direction. That clarity can help you with the how.

So, I would like to ask you, what kind of well-being do you want? How does it look like? How does it feel like? What does it consist of? How do you wake up feeling? How do you feel before going to sleep? What kind of people are in your life? These are just some of the many questions to ask yourself when it comes to getting a visual for how that well-being is for you.

You can’t get what you want unless you have a clear image of how that looks like. Same thing when it comes to well-being. This isn’t any different. The more you understand yourself, the better your life will be. The more you know yourself, the more power you have in your life. True power comes from mastering yourself. During the process of mastering yourself, things can get ugly because the process is not always easy but it is a must.

Today’s post is not going to be a long one only because the questions that I just asked you earlier in this post are so powerful that to answer all these will take you some time. It is in sitting with yourself that you will grow in ways that you never imagined possible. So with today’s post, I would like to encourage you to think about the kind of well-being that you want to experience. From this point, you will be able to start living the life you have always wanted to live.

I would like to invite you to take the FREE course I created called The Path to Your Nirvana™, which is a 28 day course with 5 steps meant to help you live your own happiness by understanding first what is getting in the way of you being on your own path of happiness, how to overcome it, learning to understand your actions and focus and getting you to the path that your true essence has in store for you. There is a free bonus course with this course so it’s something for you to take advantage of. All you have to do is click on the link https://bit.ly/2uDS9Oo, put your name and email address.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

You can also read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at https://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez. I now have a YouTube channel which I will ask that you subscribe for more tips to increase your well-being https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLZANKeRUFM4YvMXy4HzQrg.

And if you would like to bring even more nature into your home, you can do what I do when I need a pick-me-up o when I have a headache, etc. and use the following oils that help me have more balance in life and I’m sure it will help you as well. http://my.doterra.com/Auraemartinez. You can also contact me so that I can help you choose the oils that will best help you.

 

 

 

 

Know Your Values

These past few years have been nothing but growth for me. This growth, though, came with so much disappointment and hurt but the lessons are so valuable that I can’t put a price to this. One of the things that I learned was the importance of truly knowing what your values are.

The reason why you want to know what your values are is because if you want to attract the kind of people that you need, the friendships that will truly nurture your soul, the loving man or woman that you want, etc. it’s important to know what you value. For instance, I realized these past two years that I truly value people who don’t consistently speak awful about others whether that be their family, friends, etc. Why? Because to me this shows me what the person is capable of saying even about me and it tells me what is in their heart.

When you know what you truly value, you will attract and let in those things and people that align with what you value. But unless you get a good understanding of who you are and what matters most to you, you can’t position yourself to allow only the things, people and situations that you truly want.

So, how do you know what your values are? Well, this comes with self-analysis. It comes with the willingness to go deep within you to understand what truly matters most to you. It takes a willingness to want to take the time for you to know who you are. And it takes a willingness to grow. Know that as you get older, your values may slightly change due to the experiences you have. Every encounter you have, every relationship, every circumstance will shape you in some way.

If you allow the growth, you allow the lessons that you are meant to learn. You will allow yourself to be a little better than yesterday. You will allow yourself more wisdom. It is through this growth that you will learn more about your own values.

When you know your values, you won’t waste your time on relationships that will just have you spiraling down. You don’t allow circumstances that don’t add to you. You are more willing to let go of the things that are not working for you no matter how good those things may look on the surface.

The values that I am referring to in today’s post are the ones that are truly aligned with your true essence. Know that there are times when we may have values that conflict with one another, which is something that I mention because of personal experience. I will get into conflicting values on another post. For now, it’s important that you become aware of the values that you know that will add to your life greatly. This is why in my coaching program, I coach people on knowing their deep down important values because this is part of mastering yourself to greater well-being.

So, if you find yourself in constant opposition to what you want in life, missing the mark or just not getting what you want, then you have to look into your values. This will help indicate to you the direction you need to be heading in life. I would like to invite you in today’s post to take a look at your values if you see anything that isn’t the way you want it to be.

I would like to invite you to take the FREE course I created called The Path to Your Nirvana™, which is a 28 day course with 5 steps meant to help you live your own happiness by understanding first what is getting in the way of you being on your own path of happiness, how to overcome it, learning to understand your actions and focus and getting you to the path that your true essence has in store for you. There is a free bonus course with this course so it’s something for you to take advantage of. All you have to do is click on the link https://bit.ly/2uDS9Oo, put your name and email address.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

You can also read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at https://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez. I now have a YouTube channel which I will ask that you subscribe for more tips to increase your well-being https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLZANKeRUFM4YvMXy4HzQrg.

And if you would like to bring even more nature into your home, you can do what I do when I need a pick-me-up o when I have a headache, etc. and use the following oils that help me have more balance in life and I’m sure it will help you as well. http://my.doterra.com/Auraemartinez. You can also contact me so that I can help you choose the oils that will best help you.

 

 

 

 

 

Where Are You Hanging Out?

You may read this topic and think that I am referring to where exactly are you hanging out physically as in your environment and although this may be important for purposes of influence, this is not what I am referring to.

There is a world that we tend to take for granted. A world that many of us may not be as aware as we should be. A world and an environment that truly creates the most impact in our life. A world that can literally allow us to have everything we want or it can literally sabotage us from having everything that we want. That world that I am referring to is the one that you hang out in and that is your inner world.

That’s right! I dare to go there because where we decide to hang out in regards to our inner world will be reflected in our outer world. Where we decide to hang out will determine how we will view things. Where we decide to hang out will determine whether we will respond to things or we will react to things. There is a difference between responding and reacting and I can discuss that on another blog post. Where we decide to hang out plays a big role in our overall well-being.

So let’s discuss this for a minute. Where are you hanging out? Know that where you decide to be mentally is totally up to you. What I mean with this is you decide what beliefs you will have. You decide what your thoughts will be. You decide the self talk you will have in your mind. You decide!

Know that where you decide to be emotionally is totally up to you. What I mean with this is you decide how you will feel. You decide how you will feel when others do things. You decide how you will feel when things don’t work out the way you want them to work out. You decide how you will feel during the day. You decide!

Know that where you decide to be physically is totally up to you. What I mean with this is you decide how energetic your body will be based on the way you treat it. You decide how you will respond to what your body signals to you. You decide what relationship you will have with your body. You decide!

If you find yourself constantly feeling sad, depressed, anxious, frustrated, etc., you have to question where have you been hanging out mentally and emotionally. You are what you are thinking and feeling. You are what you decide to be and feel. You need to remember this always. If you constantly find yourself feeling tired, lack of energy, and with no desire to do anything, you have to question where are you hanging out physically. Are you taking care of your body the way you are supposed to? What is your relationship with your body?

Where you hang out plays a big role in your overall well-being. You can’t take for granted where your thoughts are, your emotions are, how your relationship with your body is. You can’t afford to take any of this for granted. If you constantly find yourself struggling to find your peace and happiness, then I highly recommend you take the FREE course called, The Path to Your Nirvana™, where I guide you through five steps all geared toward having the courage to live your own happiness. All you have to do is click on the link https://bit.ly/2QbBZW4, put your name, email and choose which language you prefer since I also offer this course in Spanish.

If you find yourself feeling emotions that have turned toxic for you, allow this blog post to encourage you to look into where you are hanging out. You having this level of awareness will do wonders for your overall well-being.

I would like to invite you to take the FREE course I created called The Path to Your Nirvana™, which is a 28 day course with 5 steps meant to help you live your own happiness by understanding first what is getting in the way of you being on your own path of happiness, how to overcome it, learning to understand your actions and focus and getting you to the path that your true essence has in store for you. There is a free bonus course with this course so it’s something for you to take advantage of. All you have to do is click on the link https://bit.ly/2QbBZW4, put your name, email address and select which language you would like the course.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

You can also read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at https://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez. I now have a YouTube channel which I will ask that you subscribe for more tips to increase your well-being https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLZANKeRUFM4YvMXy4HzQrg.

And if you would like to bring even more nature into your home, you can do what I do when I need a pick-me-up o when I have a headache, etc. and use the following oils that help me have more balance in life and I’m sure it will help you as well. http://my.doterra.com/Auraemartinez. You can also contact me so that I can help you choose the oils that will best help you.

 

Fight Your Demons

What I will be writing this week I can definitely tell you from personal experience that this is a difficult one. I can also guarantee you that anything that promises a fast solution, a quicker way of getting there or anything that guarantees you anything fast, are just phonies. Why? Because ANYTHING that you want, that person you know deep down inside that you are and those things that you have yet to acquire requires that you fight your demons and these demons can be quite downright nasty.

You may be wondering what demons am I referring to. Well, those demons can be anything from your limiting beliefs, your self-talk, your physical environment, your thoughts, your emotions, and as you can see, the list goes on. The reason why I call these demons is because they are exactly that- they rob you of your happiness, they stop you from living your joy, they hinder you from believing that you are meant for greatness and they stop you from living your truth.

The reason why, and I can tell you from personal experience, you may be still stuck in the same situation over and over again in life no matter how hard you try to change the situation is because you have demons that you probably are not aware of their existence and you probably don’t know what to do to overcome this.

If you want certain things in life and you notice that you are not having those things, then you have demons to fight. The first step in fighting those demons is to first be aware of their existence. You can’t overcome something that you are not aware what it is. It’s like you feel you are not yourself but you are not acknowledging that you are experiencing certain symptoms. You can’t stop what is going on if you first don’t acknowledge that something is going on.

The second step is in questioning what that demon is. Where is it coming from? What is causing it? Questioning this demon of yours will help you understand it’s existence.

And the third step would be to find something that would kill this demon. Now this may not be easy and it may come with resistance. This is when it becomes necessary to remember how this is ruining your life and how this is stopping you from living the life that you want.

Life is not meant to be a constant struggle. Life is not meant for you to live with limits. Life is not meant for you to live feeling not deserving. Life is not meant for you to live constantly attracting what you don’t want. When this is what you are currently experiencing, that means there is inner work to be done. This means there are things that needs to be resolved and taken care of within you. This is not a bad thing. On the contrary, all this leads to better self-care, which is very much needed if you want to be your best version.

It is because I truly believe that life is not supposed to be a struggle, on the contrary, you are meant to be living a life where you are living authentically and very happy, that I created the FREE course, The Path to Your Nirvana™, so that you can start gaining a deeper understanding of why you are not living the life that you want and what you can do to change that. If you’re interested, all you have to do is click on the link https://bit.ly/2QbBZW4, put your name, email and choose which language you prefer.

Remember that fighting your demons will help liberate you so that you can live the life that you have been wanting to live. It is crucial that you take this step if you find yourself going in circles in life and know that this is very much possible for you to do.

I would like to invite you to take the FREE course I created called The Path to Your Nirvana™, which is a 28 day course with 5 steps meant to help you live your own happiness by understanding first what is getting in the way of you being on your own path of happiness, how to overcome it, learning to understand your actions and focus and getting you to the path that your true essence has in store for you. There is a free bonus course with this course so it’s something for you to take advantage of. All you have to do is click on the link https://bit.ly/2QbBZW4, put your name, email address and select which language you would like the course.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

You can also read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at https://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez. I now have a YouTube channel which I will ask that you subscribe for more tips to increase your well-being https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLZANKeRUFM4YvMXy4HzQrg.

And if you would like to bring even more nature into your home, you can do what I do when I need a pick-me-up o when I have a headache, etc. and use the following oils that help me have more balance in life and I’m sure it will help you as well. http://my.doterra.com/Auraemartinez. You can also contact me so that I can help you choose the oils that will best help you.

 

It’s Important to Laugh at Yourself

I shared this message on the Facebook page, @AuraEMartinezCoach, but I will share it here as well since I think it is a very important message to share.

I would first like to share that Monday, March 4th I went to Cancun, Mexico for a personal development and training event because I truly believe that in order for me to be able to offer the best to you, I have to treat myself with the best and be coached and mentored. The day that I arrived, I was so sleepy since I was already jet lagged. On top of that, I woke up very early for that flight so I hardly slept that night.

Going straight to the chase, I was so out of it that day that when I arrived, I thought I left my room key on the bench that’s in front of the restaurant where I ate that day. It wasn’t until the waiter asked me my room number that I realized, looking in my purse, that I didn’t have the key. So the waiter checked the bench, it wasn’t there. She checked inside the menu the key wasn’t there. At that point I was a bit freaked out at the thought that someone else took the key because I was convinced I had left it on the bench. So I asked the waiter to put the food on hold, which I already ordered, and went to the reception desk to change rooms. That’s when I was given another key to activate the new one and deactivate the old one. When I got to the room because I wanted to activate the new key, the old key that I thought I left on the bench was in the bathroom.

Then for dinner, I went out with my business bestie and when it came time to pay, yes I had pesos but my mind just couldn’t do any conversion anything or anything foreign, again, I was so out of it. So for some reason I didn’t see the 500 pesos bills, I thought they were 100 pesos, didn’t see the 5. The waiter thanked me so much and she was so kind to let me know that she couldn’t accept the tip because it was too high of a tip. That’s when I realized that I had given a $100 dollars tip basically. Yeah, I know!

Theeeennnn, when I arrived to my room, I had all my mini liquids in a Ziploc bag and in it was a clear nail polish. So the bag just slipped out of my hand, fell on the floor and the nail polish broke. So there was clear nail polish all over the little bottles inside the Ziploc bag and the french manicure that I had done got all smeared because of the clear nail polish. There goes my french manicure! And to top it off, I went downstairs in the hotel to the spa place to see if they sell clear nail polish. Well, they had every other color EXCEPT the clear nail polish, of course. At this point at the spa I’m trying on colors that may be close to a clear nail polish and I found one and tried to put some on and as I was doing that, the lady at the spa was like “You can’t do that ma’am because that is for the spa”.

Looking back it was such a comical day. I just laughed the whole day at the whole situation because even though I was in that situation, it was still funny. So the message I want to share with you is that it’s important to learn how to laugh at yourself.

It’s important because life is also about you making a fool out of yourself. It’s about hiccups. It’s about things not going perfect. It’s about disappointments. When you expect things to go exactly how you want them to go, things will go south pretty fast because you will feel that life is not meeting your expectations. Instead, choose to believe and remember that life is ALWAYS meeting your expectations no matter what. Choose to forgive yourself for your mistakes or things not going right. Choose to laugh whenever you make a fool out of yourself. Choose to know that it is ok if you don’t know this or that. And if someone says something stupid, laugh. What other people say is NONE of your business. What other people think is NONE of your business.

The faster you can laugh at all the things that go wrong in your life, the better you will feel about things and things rather than go down, they will start going up. Know that you have a choice in your thoughts and beliefs. Just like I mentioned on my social media, what are you choosing to think and feel today? That matters.

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So, I would like to encourage you to learn to laugh at yourself when things don’t go right, when you mess up, when you act funny, etc. This will add tremendously to your well-being in ways that you just can’t imagine.

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