Who You Are and How You Live Matters!

If at any moment in your life you felt that who you are and how your live your life doesn’t matter or if you know anyone who may feel this way, then this is the post to read. I am here today to encourage you to stop thinking that who you are doesn’t matter. I am here today to encourage you to stop thinking that how you live your life doesn’t matter because it does!

Whether you realize it or not, you impact others. I am pretty sure you have friends and family. Even if you don’t have much friends, you still impact those you do have. Everything we do and say set an example to others. There are people who look up to you and love you. There are people who are concern for you. And certainly the world needs you!

It doesn’t matter how you look nor how you are. It doesn’t matter what your tastes are. It doesn’t matter what you are good at and what you are not good at, all the things that make up who you are make you unique and you were created this way because someone else needs you exactly the way you are. How do they need you? It depends, people can need you in different ways. Perhaps you are meant to set an example for others. Perhaps you are meant to greatly influence others. Perhaps you are meant to inspire others. Whatever those reasons are, you are created with a purpose.

One thing I want to add is that you will be rejected by others. Why do I need to write this? Because rejection is one of the reasons why some may feel inadequate because none of us like rejection. However, if we can reframe that rejection into something else, we will see the beauty in that rejection. As a matter of fact, I want to encourage you to embrace rejection. That’s right! Gosh rejection is beautiful! You don’t want everything and anything that comes your way! It’s important to make room for more wonderful things and people in your life. This is why rejection is so beautiful- it makes room for better people and better opportunities!

When you are true to who you are and when you live your life fully according to the real you, you are actually giving others permission to do the same. That’s right! This is because it is so refreshing to be around people who are true to themselves and there is something about us living fully that resonates with others. That’s because all of us by nature crave to live fully and crave to be our true selves without caring about what others think nor feel. Living your life fully gives others freedom- the freedom to do the same and the freedom to not have to worry about you.

Since I wrote “the freedom to not have to worry about you”, I need to emphasize that not living your life fully and not being who you truly are, you are actually being a burden to others. That burden that you place on them without realizing will make others want to be away from you because indeed it is not freeing to be around someone who is negative towards themselves and not helping themselves.

I want to encourage you to know that who you are and how you live your life matters. Remember that it doesn’t matter who you are, what you do for a living, how many friends you have (it’s not the quantity that matters, it’s the quality), if you are currently single or married, etc., you do influence others. Your life has an impact on others that creates ripple effects. To not think this, I believe, is very selfish from your part because you are not considering how your actions nor who you are affect others and you are denying others of the gift of you.

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Keep That Sparkle In Your Eyes

Life is meant for you to live it feeling good everyday. You are meant to be loved and feel loved. You are meant to give love. You are meant to share who you are with no shame or regret. You are meant to dream big with no shame nor limitation. However, there are moments in life where we may feel discouraged, full of regret because something didn’t come out the way we wanted, or we may feel rejected by something or someone. Life sometimes throws things in the way that may distract us, etc. When we allow these things to get in the way, this may limit us and rob us from having that sparkle in our eyes.

Keep that sparkle in your eyes even when something doesn’t come out the way you wanted it to be. Things happen the way they do because they are blessings in disguise. You must remember to thank God, the universe, life or whatever it is that you believe in that things happen the way they do. You may not understand why at the moment but you will in the future.

Keep that sparkle in your eyes even when someone “rejected” you. I had a conversation the other day about rejections and how when someone doesn’t feel something for you, even if you care about them so much, even if you are a good person, God or whatever it is that you believe in didn’t place that seed in them for your own good. They don’t feel for you the same way that you feel towards them because it wasn’t planted in them and only the higher being knows why and trust that in the end, it is YOU who is the winner. You are NOT the loser. You can’t imagine how many times I have been so grateful years later that something didn’t work out with the guy because in the end, they were so wrong for me in many ways and I thanked God that the guy saw it was wrong.

Keep that sparkle in your eyes even when you lose a loved one. This is a tough one and I truly understand this. Death, unfortunately, is a part of life but that doesn’t mean that the tie that you have with that person is totally lost. That person is still with you spiritually and can guide you in ways that they were not able to when they were alive. It is a must to remember that the best way to honor a lost loved one is by being the best version of yourself.

Keep that sparkle in your eyes even when there may be negativity around you. There are things you are learning that you may not even realize. There was a wonderful story I heard about three pots of boiling water. One had a carrot, the second had an egg and the third had tea. The carrot is hard and when placed in the boiling water, it gets soft and weak. The egg which is soft inside, when placed in the boiling water it gets hard inside. The tea which is just leaves inside, when placed in water it turns into an aromatic, flavorful drink. Which of the three do you want to be? When placed in situations of adversity, become like the tea, aromatic and flavorful as a result of it.

For your well-being, it is a must to keep that sparkle in your eyes. It is easy to become cynical or doubtful and hard on the inside but it doesn’t help you grow as a person. Don’t allow other people’s issues to become your issues. Don’t allow situations to turn you into someone you are not. Don’t allow “rejections” to become a reflection of who you are. None of these things have anything to do with you.

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You Will Always Be Tested…

I think about how my life has been like for over a year now and there is nothing else I can say or describe how life has been other than full of tests. Tests of courage, tests of faith, tests of patience, tests of strength, tests of endurance, Life will even provide you with tests of others which will help you see who is who in your life. All these tests are part of building you into the person that you are meant to be- a person with great well-being.

Although it would be so great to say that life is always great, that life is nothing but wonderful and don’t get me wrong, life is great when you look at the big picture. However, when challenges come your way, the best way to deal with these challenges is by looking at them as tests. So with this said, how can you pass these tests? You pass these tests by asking yourself several questions which are the following: “What am I meant to learn from all this?”, “How can I be a better person because of this?”, “In what ways am I meant to mature because of this?”, “How is this preparing me for the person that I am meant to become?”.

When I look back at certain “tests” I had that I felt I had failed, what I had failed to realize then is that those “tests” that I thought I failed I didn’t fail at all. Those were lessons that I was meant to learn for the bigger gift that was in store for me. There are different levels of tests that we all face. Some are bigger and more difficult than others but nonetheless, even the small tests are very important because there is so much value you can get from them.

With this post, I would like to encourage you that if you are going through any difficulty in life, anything that you are struggling with, start looking for those lessons that you are meant to learn and become better because of it. It doesn’t matter how big or small that difficulty may be, there are jewels hidden in those painful experiences. All we can do as humans is just grow from each situation because difficulties are a part of life but it doesn’t have to ruin our life. Pass these tests and you will see that great things can be in store for you because of the lessons you learned. Part of well-being is also passing these tests, believe it or not, because unless you learn, you will never grow as a person.

Know that with everything and anything, you will always be tested…

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