The Importance of Saying “No”

You probably wouldn’t think that this has much to do with your well-being, however, “no” should be a part of your vocabulary in order to increase your well-being and this is what I will be discussing in this week’s post.

There is a Spanish saying that goes “Quien mucho abarca, poco aprieta” which means that if you try to get your arms around too much, you won’t be able to squeeze. In other words, if you try to do so much, you will get none done. There is only so much that anyone can do and the more you want, not only do you have to take breaks and stop for a moment, you have to say “no” to some things that can come your way.

Stress should be reserve for real emergencies- when a family member is ill, when you are ill, when there is an accident, etc.- not for every day stuff of life. Stressing because you are taking up on so much will only lead to illness and to frustration. It will take you out of alignment and won’t help you think straight.

I’ve written this before and I’ll write it again, it’s great to have goals, it’s great to want so much out of life. However, you don’t ever want to take yourself to the point where you break down. That does no good to anyone.

Saying “no” is about setting priorities. In order to achieve much, you need to set priorities first and then once those tasks are completed, move on to the next task. It’s not that certain things are not important to you, it’s just that in order for you to be able to complete that other project successfully, you first must complete the one you have at hand. Also, you must know what would make the most difference now and work on that first. This is another way to get more done- knowing what would make the most difference in your life if that task was completed.

Saying “no” is about setting your own boundaries. You set boundaries for yourself and for others. Your well-being must be a priority, first and foremost, and so when you say “no” to certain things, you are avoiding getting yourself into things that at the end will just drive you mentally crazy because it’s too much to do and physically exhausted because having so much to do does wear the body down.

Make saying “no” a part of your vocabulary. This is about you taking care of yourself, not taking on too much stuff than you can possibly handle at the moment and setting boundaries. Others may have their opinions in regards to your “no” and that’s ok. At the end of the day, it’s how you feel that matters most and you never want to take yourself to the point of a breakdown.

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Know Your Limits and Respect Them

Last week and this week, so far, have been challenging weeks between flying a lot and finalizing my manuscript which I must say, I have high respect for editors because editing your own work even after your work has been edited is not easy. It can be challenging juggling many things at once. It is great to have many goals and if I were to list the ones I have at this moment, you would agree that they are a lot. The exhaustion I felt, my eyeballs hurting from all the reading as well as feeling stressed leads me to writing this post- it is important to know your limits and respect them.

No matter how many goals you may have, know that even though the sky indeed is the limit, because you are only human you have certain limits and it is important to respect them. It’s possible to achieve so much, it’s possible to get many things done but not all at once.

Remember that the more you want and do, the more you need to pause, relax, and have breaks. This is not about being lazy, not at all. This is about you not burning out. If you allow stress to get to you, in the end you will be no good. It is important to remember that no matter how many things you want to accomplish, you can only do what you can do and you still need to be proud of yourself for that.

We all have certain limits and this is because we are only humans, not machines. Even machines if they are pushed to the limit they break down. We all have certain limits because of time since we only have 24 hours in a day. We all have certain limits because of our body in the sense that you never want to push your body too far. The best way to not get burned out, not get yourself sick and not be overwhelmed is by knowing your limits and respecting them.

Your body will tell you when you are reaching your limit. If you feel terribly exhausted or even sick, you know you have reached your limit. If you are starting to feel angry and irritable, you are reaching your limit. If you are no longer enjoying what you are doing, you are reaching your limit. You will receive feedback when you are reaching your limit.

You respect your limits by mentally reminding yourself that you are doing the best you can. By still giving yourself a pat on the back for what you have accomplished during the day. You do this by taking breaks when needed and not being so hard on yourself when you didn’t accomplish a certain thing you wanted to accomplish that day. You respect your body when it is tired and give your body all it needs in order to keep itself strong. Remember that your body is your primary vehicle and if that isn’t working, nothing will work. Rome was not built in one day and so whatever it is that you are wanting to do will take time. You will always be a work in progress.

So far I respected my limits by sleeping as much as I needed since my sleep was a bit compromised. Since I enjoy cooking, I made myself some delicious meals. I remind myself that I am doing the best that I can even if I am unable to keep up with some of the things that I had in mind to do, like blog last week. I had to remind myself that I am only human and as such, I am not perfect and that’s ok. It’s ok not to be perfect and not doing things exactly as I said to myself that I would. This is the same that I encourage you to do.

Knowing your limits and respecting them is a must for your well-being. If you try to be superman or superwoman, you will find yourself all burned out real quick. It’s best to be like the tortoise and be slow but steady. That’s how you get further in life. This doesn’t mean laziness, let me clarify, this just means that you don’t burn yourself out trying to do so much all at once.

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“Uplift Yourself”

Today as I’m sipping on my favorite brand of tea “Yogi tea”, I read the message that comes with the tea and it reads “Uplift others and uplift yourself”. The part that caught my attention was the “uplift yourself”. With so much that is going on in my life, it can be quite a challenge to uplift myself as I am sure that it is the same for others as well and so I thought of this importance after I read this.

There will be times in your life where others may not necessarily be there to uplift you and this is why it is very necessary to learn to uplift yourself. In the same way that you would encourage others, you need that same encouragement from yourself. “But how can I uplift myself when I have so much going on?” you may ask and what I can share is what I do on a daily basis to uplift myself.

I am aware that everyone’s belief may be different and I respect everyone’s belief and outlook in life so you can take the following advise in a way that suits you. I believe that prayer is one of the greatest ways to uplift yourself. There is something that I can not explain but that truly helps when you need encouragement.

Have faith or the belief that things will change and be better. That belief or faith helps you feel and think differently. It helps change your outlook on the situation. Without the belief or faith that things will be better, you will feel a heavy burden in you that just feels as if it’s dragging you down. This places weight on you that reflects everywhere you go.

Don’t forget to do things that make you happy. For everyone this will be different. For some it is reading, for others it is yoga, or perhaps going for a walk. It is crucial for you to do something that cheers you up because this helps you to relax. It is in a relaxed state that we can accomplish more and endure more.

Remember that you are loved. I think it is easy when one is going through so much or feeling sad or overwhelmed to think that they are lonely. Thinking in this manner just creates negative emotions within you that just doesn’t help. Remember that there are those who love you, who are influenced by you and who also depend on you. Knowing this will help you gain some strength since love is an empowering feeling.

These are just some of the many things that you can do to uplift yourself whenever you need encouragement. We sometimes tend to be so good at being there for others that we forget that we also need to be there for ourselves. This is part of taking care of yourself in order to ensure your well-being.

The Importance of Taking Breaks

Some may have probably realized that last week I didn’t post on my blog. That is because I was giving myself a break since I am also working on other projects. This little break that I took made me think about the importance of taking breaks and this is what I will be discussing in today’s post.

It’s great to have momentum. Momentum keeps things going, however, it seems like in today’s world we have become like the energizer bunny that just keeps going and going without stopping for a moment to reflect upon things and enjoy what we have at the present time. Being this way can make you numb in regards to your emotions and to yourself.

Taking breaks every now and then can help you reflect upon what you have accomplished and it can make you look within so that you can be in touch with yourself. It’s so important to be in touch with your emotions and with yourself because the more connected you are with yourself, the more authentically you can be and live. The problem with not being in touch with your emotions and yourself is that you become numb as to how you feel and you become less and less who you really are.

Taking breaks can allow you to re-energize yourself so that you can go back to what you were doing with more energy. When you just keep going and going, this can be very exhausting not just physically but also mentally and emotionally. Taking some time away from what you were doing can help you gain a much deeper appreciation for what you have and do. That distance away from something allows you to miss it and sometimes it’s good to miss certain things because it is in the missing it that you can appreciate it. When you are surrounded with the same thing over and over, you won’t be able to help but to take it for granted, this is why missing something can be healthy.

Taking breaks every now and then helps you to slow down and this helps your body to relax. When you are constantly on the go go go, this can stress the body and this activates the sympathetic system which is responsible for the fight-or-flight response. If this continues for long, this can cause serious damages to the body like for example, the liver produces more blood sugar, your heart beats faster and the blood pressure elevates, among other things that lead to chronic diseases. I’m pretty sure you don’t want any of this and so taking breaks every now and then can help your body to slow down.

It is my belief that taking breaks is not so much a luxury but a necessity. It helps with your mental and emotional sanity, it can help your body to slow down and it can help you reflect upon your life and where you are at the moment. Take some time every now and then to give yourself a break and remember the benefits of taking a break. This too can help you maintain balance in your well-being.

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Are You Making Daily Deposits to Your Health?

This past weekend was a very stressful weekend to the point that I thought I was going to have a breakdown. I have had a lot going on caring for a loved one and it can be very overwhelming if one is not careful. And why did it get to this point? Because this weekend made me realize one thing that I am asking you today, are you making daily deposits to your health?

This weekend I realized that for some time I had stopped making my usual deposits to my health and when we do this, well, it is only a matter of time till we become bankrupt in terms of health.

Everyday we expect so much from our bodies that we forget that we have to do things on a daily basis to nurture it. We need to make daily deposits to our health because we are constantly making small withdrawals but there are moments in life in which we may have to make a big withdrawal and we will want to have the strength and the leeway to do so. What do I mean with “the leeway to do so”? For instance, if you constantly deprive your body of sleep, constantly eat junk food, are constantly stressed, there is no way that you will be able to afford to make the “big withdrawal” of perhaps missing sleep or messing up with your eating when things are really getting tough in life. Because part of life is the tough times, there will be moments where if you don’t have a plan in hand, your well-being may be compromised perhaps because a loved one is sick, because of a breakup or anything that may be taking up a lot of your energy.

One of the biggest ways you can make great deposits is by making sure you get plenty of sleep. Sleep has its purpose and one of them is that it restores your body. Notice when you get sick, your body craves bed. That is because there are cells that are being replenished, growth hormones are being secreted while you are in deep sleep, memory is also being restored and the list goes on and on as to why it is critical to get a good night sleep.

Eating right for the most part is so essential to your overall well-being and the purpose of eating goes beyond satisfying hunger. Eating for the body is equivalent to you putting gasoline in your car, it serves to fuel the body. So when you give your body the right nutrients, you are feeding it to provide you with energy and strength. Food is basically equivalent to a drug since it does interact with every part of your body since food does affect your mood and thinking as well. Every time that you put in the right foods, you are making small deposits to your health. And if you want to know what I mean with the right goods, you can listen to my talks on my online radio show.

In today’s society it seems like relaxing is a luxury but it is not a luxury, it is a necessity. The more you do, the more you need to relax. Whatever it is that relaxes you, do it on a daily basis. I know for us women sometimes caring for a loved one can make us feel good but it is important to remember that we need to care for ourselves as well. If yoga relaxes you, do it! If reading relaxes you, do it! If exercising relaxes you (I know I feel good after a workout), then do it! But it is essential everyday to do something just for yourself that relaxes you. Relaxing serves as a way to prevent you from becoming too stressed out. Since stress was not meant to be eliminated, we can only manage it and doing things that relaxes you is a way to manage stress.

I can go on and on about ways to make deposits to your health but I think these are the main three that so many of us may struggle with, especially during very difficult times. We live in a society where so many people are sleep deprived, many may not even eat a healthy diet and definitely for many it seems like relaxing isn’t even possible but it is a necessity if you are to have balance in life. I can just tell you from personal experience that making these small deposits daily does add up and can prevent you from going bankrupt (bankrupted meaning low in energy, not in a good mood, etc), especially during difficult times.