You Are Where You Are Because That’s Where You Want to Be

Today’s post may be a hard one to digest for many. I know it has been and sometimes still is for me. Today’s post is about how you are where you are because that’s where you want to be.

Why can this be a hard one to digest for many? Because many times it is hard to admit that the reason why we are where we are in life is because that’s where we chose to be. “But Aura, this life that I’m currently living is not what I chose for myself?! All these things just happened to me!” Well, some situations may have occurred but in order for your life to change, in order for you to increase in well-being, it is a must to take responsibility for your life. Just like I’ve mentioned in my speeches, not doing so is like sitting on the passenger seat watching your whole life go by while allowing something or someone else to determine how your life will be. This is why in the book, Creating a Lifetime of Wellness, I encourage readers to take responsibility of their life.

Think about this for a moment, you are making choices every single day. Whether you like your choices or not is a different story but you indeed are making choices that all either add or delete from your well-being. The relationships that you have or the lack of relationships….your choice. The job or career you have…your choice. Your health…your choice. And even if you are predisposed to certain illnesses, and this will be another topic because I do believe that we are not our genes, it is your choice to decide how you will be health-wise. Everything is a choice!

So if you find yourself in a relationship you are not happy with, you are where you are because that’s where you want to be. If you find yourself that you are not happy with your health, remember that you have a choice as to what to do with your health and you can decide if you want to be healthy or not. Believe it or not, most of the things that you have and where you are, you are where you are because that’s exactly where you want to be.

If for whatever reason you are not happy where you are at the moment, then you seriously need to question why you are not happy. What needs to happen in order for things to be different? What can you do now to change your current situation? What actions do you need to take in order for things to flow the way you want them to flow? What do you want out of life?

Remember that you are the one in control of your life and of what you have. You have what you have because that’s what you want to have. You are where you are because that’s where you want to be. Complaining doesn’t serve unless if it is just to let out of your chest what you feel but this doesn’t change anything. What changes things is taking action. So if you want and need things to be different, then you must take action.

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The Fine Line Between Caring About What Others Think and Feel Vs. Not Caring

Since on my last post I discussed how in order to be authentic you have to be true to who you are and this will also mean that you can not care about what others think and feel, then you may wonder whether or not there is a fine line between caring about what others think and feel vs. not caring and to what degree should we care or not care and this is exactly what this post will be about.

First I want to discuss the “not caring part”. The reason why you shouldn’t care so much is because at the end of the day, no one else is living your life for you. No one else has to carry the consequences of your actions. No one else can do anything for you. Others can be a sense of support for you but no amount of support will matter if you are not the first one to support yourself. No amount of love from others will matter if you first don’t love yourself. No amount of any investment that others can do in you will matter if you first don’t invest in yourself. In other words, everything, absolutely EVERYTHING in your life starts with you. YOU are the one that matters most in YOUR life. When it comes to YOUR life, it is you who has to live with you for the rest of your life. Concerning yourself too much with what others will think and feel will hinder you, it will cripple you and prevent you from your own growth. This is because no one truly has the answers to your life. This is because other people may have their own insecurities that they may project on to you. This is because other people may be limited and this limitation includes that they may be mentally limited due to their own ignorance or limiting beliefs. They may be limited emotionally in the sense that they may not believe something is possible when you in your heart know it is. Whatever it may be, other people will always be limited because they are not you to know what you truly need and want.

Now, just because I write that you shouldn’t care about what others think and feel doesn’t mean that this is not a license to disregard other people’s feelings and thoughts and act in a careless manner. Not at all! To a certain degree you have to care because we all influence each other. You matter to someone and what you say and do has an influence on someone else. Even though other people’s happiness is not your responsibility, it is their responsibility, you can add to other people’s well-being by being a sense of joy to them. I think we come into this world to add to other people’s life in tremendous ways, it’s just a matter of us seeing that. It is in this sense that what others think and feel should matter. If your words and actions are going to hurt others, then it has to matter! If what you are going to say or do will add joy to others, then it has to matter! Everything and anything that you do has to come from a place where you are full and good. We have to be real and honest to know that we are not always going to be our best selves. We are only human. However, care about what others think or feel to the degree that you add joy and greatness to others. Not the opposite.

There is a fine line between caring about what others think and feel vs. not caring and that line is where is this caring coming from. Is it coming from a place of insecurity about yourself or is it coming from a genuineness of adding rather than depleting from others? THAT is the fine line. When this caring is coming from a place of insecurity, then you need to value more what you think and feel rather than others. When it comes from a genuine place of adding to others rather than depleting, then that’s when it should matter. Mastering this fine line is a must for your well-being.

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Are You Feeding Diseases?

These past few days have been very stressful for me because of what my family and I are going through with my dad’s health. Finding him a rehab center was more challenging than we have thought. Luckily this week, after many weeks of looking for a rehab center for him, we finally found one that accepted my dad with all his medications. After one emergency after another, after speaking so much with social workers, with doctors, doing research, going around checking out facilities, there were times that I put my health aside, really. I skipped meals these past days, it was challenging to sleep and it got to a point where I knew that my regular routine was lost. I no longer needed strong coffee to feel jittery because I was able to sense that my body, even when there was no reason to feel agitated or stress, it still thought it was in a state of emergency. All this got me thinking about how easy it is to become chronically sick over time and because of this I ask you this one question…are you feeding diseases?

One thing that we sometimes fail to realize is that all of us are prone to diseases. All of us. However, what determines whether we develop a disease or not is our lifestyle. Our genes do play a role, however, whether or not you develop a disease will also depend on your overall lifestyle. This is why I do advocate not to abuse your body on a daily basis because there will be times that because of life’s circumstances your health may be compromised a bit. This is why it is important to give your body the basics on a daily basis. The basics are proper nutrition, proper sleep, physical activity and stress management.

Proper nutrition is the FUEL for the body. You are on the outside what you put in the inside. If you want everything to work properly in your body, feed it not just to control your hunger but to have OPTIMUM health. One thing that I must include with your nutrition is supplementation. It is CRUCIAL to take supplements. Why? Because as the word itself implies, it supplements what you eat. Supplements are not meant to make up what you don’t eat, they are meant to ADD to what you are already eating. However, when choosing supplements, make sure you choose high quality ones which would be pharmaceutical grade. I can discuss more on another post.

Make sure you get enough sleep. Sleep for everyone will be different since some may need more than eight hours of sleep while others may need less. Sleep is so crucial because it is when you sleep that cells are replenished, the immune system gets a boost, anything that you are learning are reinforced in the brain and the list goes on and on as to the benefits of sleep. This is a topic all on its own. If you want to feel balanced, alert, and not feel so hungry, make sure you get sleep.

Awww physical activity, a must to maintain health. It helps the blood circulate better throughout the body, it helps release the feel good chemicals in the body, and there is something about working out that just makes you want to keep up with the healthy eating. Being physically active creates a domino effect in your life so even if you have to start small, do so but stay active. Your body was designed to be in motion.

The last thing but equally important is stress management. Stress was not meant to be eliminated from your life. Stress has its purpose since it helps prepare the body to either “fight or flight” a situation that may be threatening for us. Even though stress has its evolutionary purposes because stress does help the body prepare to deal with a threatening situation or with an emergency, constant stress creates damage to your body over time. This is why it is important that you know how to manage stress. Find things that are soothing and relaxing for you and try to do those things on a daily basis. This is not a luxury, it is a necessity for your overall well-being.

Your overall well-being depends on all of the things that I have discussed in this post. You are worth the investment and time in yourself. Should you want to learn more about supplementation since I am passionate about that topic as well as overall well-being, you can contact me by filling out the “Contact Me” form. I encourage you now to start taking a look at these different areas of your life and to start taking care of your body now.

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You Are Getting a Bargain But You Don’t Realize This Yet

It’s interesting that the post that is read the most is “Why Do Good People Get the Short End of the Stick” which I posted, I believe, a few months ago. It seems like people search using words like “sadness” and “life”. It is this that pushes me to write today’s post.

Life is not always fair, however, life is whatever you want to make out of it. However way you look at yourself and your relation to the world and others, that’s how your life will be. This is where your self-concept and your self-esteem plays a big role. Self-concept is how you perceive yourself, what you think about yourself where as self-esteem is the way you feel about yourself. These two, although they mean different things, they go hand in hand. One affects the other. I mention this because low self-esteem and a poor self-concept clouds you from seeing the good.

I personally don’t believe that good people get the short end of the stick. If you’re very sensitive and you only focus on what isn’t working and what went wrong, of course you’re going to feel like you are getting the short end of the stick. Believing that you are getting the short end of the stick places you in a victim state and this is equivalent to you being on the passenger seat of the car and allowing circumstances, people, emotions to be on the driver seat, determining what route you’re going to take and which way to turn. Being on the passenger seat of your life puts you in such disadvantage because just like the passenger in a car watches the scenery as they pass by, you are watching your life go by passively while wallowing in whatever didn’t work out.

I think it is important to be aware what role you are playing in your life. Even when something doesn’t work out, think about what your role was in everything. Take responsibility for your life. Rather than allowing yourself to just fall “victim” to things or rather than allowing yourself to get wrapped up in things that don’t serve you, you decide that you will have control of yourself. You may not be able to control everything outside of you but you do have control of yourself. You are the one in control of your decisions, you are the one in control of your thoughts, you are the one in control of your emotions. You have more control than you think you have. It’s time to stop thinking you are getting the short end of the stick and begin to believe you are getting a bargain when something isn’t working out. Believe that you are worthy enough of what you want and that things are working out even when they don’t seem to be working out. If you need to work on your self-concept and self-esteem then do so. In every situation that isn’t working out, even if it makes you sad, you are not getting the short end of the stick, you are getting a bargain but you don’t realize it yet.

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What Is Your Definition of Living Life?

Asking yourself this question is very important because from this answer you will determine if you are living life the way you are truly meant to be living and whether the choices you make are in alignment with the essence of who you truly are.

So what is your definition of living life? One thing to keep in mind is that everybody’s definition of living life is different. For some, living life may mean going out every weekend dancing and drinking, for others not so. What may be fun for you may not be fun for someone else and that’s ok. For instance, I feel like I’m living life when I’m writing because this is my way of connecting with all of you. I feel like I’m living life when I’m giving a speech in front of a crowd (this truly gives me a high) and when I’m seeing new places or even enjoying a nice, delicious bowl of chicken noodle soup. (Yes, I just said that last sentence, I love and enjoy good food). So there is no right or wrong answer to this question because we are all so unique and different. There is only a right or wrong answer according to your true essence, meaning if you are not living in a way that is true to who you really are.

In order for you to answer this question, ask yourself what do you truly like. What excites you? What makes you feel alive? What are the happiest times you can recall of your life? What does your soul want? Answering these questions will reveal a lot to you about who you are and what your definition of living life is. Knowing what your definition of living life is will help you determine what choices to make in life, what to invest your money, time and energy on and you will be on the fast track to happiness.

Knowing what your definition of living life is will contribute to actions that you will take that will lead to happiness which will eventually lead to your overall well-being. If you don’t know what truly makes you happy (hence, your definition of living life, not someone else’s meaning), there is no way to achieve that well-being that you so strive for, so consider asking yourself this question when wanting to learn more about yourself.