Need Drama In Your Life? If You Do, Ask Yourself Why

There are some people, that it seems like, can not be without drama. Now, there are different levels of drama, different ways we create and invite drama into our life. Life in itself will give you enough reasons to have concerns such as having your health compromised or a family member who is ill, among other things. It is not good for your well-being to create nor invite drama into your life.

First, I would like to start off by defining the word drama. Drama is any unnecessary situation or person who adds unnecessary stress to you. There are many ways we create and invite drama into our life and many times we are not aware that we are doing this. I believe that the reason why we are not aware of this is because we are not aware of any needs that need to be met, of any issues that need to be resolved, or, we’re probably bored with our life and not realize it. Whatever it is, it is very important to understand why you feel the need to create this drama. The best way to have that life that you want is by knowing and understanding yourself.

How do we create or allow drama into our life and not realize it? I will share a perfect example that hits home for me because this is what I did for several years. For quite some time I longed companionship. Nothing wrong with wanting companionship except that I allowed this need to be so strong that I allowed guys into my life that were no good for me, thus creating drama into my life. This is just one of the many examples of how we can create or allow drama into our life because of “needs” that we have not met.

What this unnecessary drama does to you is that it impedes your overall well-being. It distracts you from all the good that you have going for you. It robs your energy- energy that you can utilize to focus on more positive and productive things. Like I said earlier, life will give you enough reasons to have concerns and worries. You don’t need to add to them. Focus on the things that work for you. Focus on the things that matter most- YOU and your loved ones and the things that make your heart jump for joy.

How can we eliminate some of this drama out of our life? I’m going to sound like a broken record but the best way to deal with any of the issues, conflicts, needs, voids, etc, in our life is by working from within. The best work you will ever do is working with yourself, to understand yourself. I believe this is the root cause to lots of things that happen in our life. Therefore, if you notice so much drama in your life, ask yourself why.

Unaware Needs Can Lead to Disasterous Consequences

I am one to believe that it is normal to have needs. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. As human beings it’s only normal to have a need to love and be loved, a need to be needed, a need for companionship, etc. However, when these needs take over to the point of it overwhelming you and you are unaware of this blinding you into situations that are not healthy for you, these unaware needs can lead to disastrous consequences.

So how can one become aware of these needs before it leads to a point of disastrous consequences? I think a big key is being mindful. This is the first main thing. Being mindful means being present, living the moment you are living. Not thinking about what you need to do next, not worrying about tomorrow. It is living this very moment as is. When you are mindful, you are centered and when you are centered, you are more aware of what you are living at the moment.

Spend some time thinking about what really matters to you. What do you value most? What do you desire out of life? What would your perfect life feel like? Asking yourself these questions will help you understand what your needs are and what you can do about them.

Monitor your thoughts and emotions. Your thoughts and emotions can tell you so much about where you are mentally, emotionally and spiritually in life. If something evokes anger in you, ask yourself why. Emotions are not to be ignored nor are they your enemy. They are your allies to your well-being, believe it or not.

All these things may seem like a lot of work but it is work worth doing. Anything great in life is work and reaching for well-being will be one of the best work you can ever do and part of reaching that well-being that you want is being aware of what your needs are so you have a better understanding of yourself.