Overwhelmed: A Plague to Your Well-being

Feeling overwhelmed can be very disabling and it is precisely for this reason that I must discuss this on this blog.

Well-being is about joy, balance, harmony, good energy and loving life. Feeling overwhelmed takes away from all this and that’s when ailments can start. If you are feeling sick, tired most of the time, mentally clouded and a lack of purpose and joy, ask yourself if you’re feeling overwhelmed.

There are many reasons one can feel overwhelmed, one of them being having so much to do. I do want to emphasize that feeling overwhelmed is not equivalent to being busy. A good friend of mine, Dawn, brought up a very important distinction during one of our conversations and it is this- being busy isn’t equivalent to being productive. Why do I feel it is important to mention this? Because perhaps your feeling of overwhelm comes from being busy of not being productive.

When feeling overwhelmed, it is important to understand the cause. Is it all the responsibilities that you have that causes this feeling? If so, why? Is it that there are changes that you want to occur? If so, what are these changes? Is it a relationship that you currently have that makes you feel overwhelmed? If so, why is that?

Many times the feeling of overwhelm comes from some dissatisfaction that we currently have and are not aware of it. This is why I have stated over and over again that it is important to pay attention to your emotions. It is important to embrace them. They are feedback from your soul. By ignoring your emotions, you are ignoring important information from your true essence.

When feeling overwhelmed it is important to embrace it, sit with it and understand it. Once you take the time to understand it, you will know what steps to take in order to feel better.

So if you are currently feel overwhelmed, I want to encourage you to embrace it, sit with it and understand it. Don’t avoid feeling this way because otherwise you will be missing on important info that can lead to greater change and well-being.

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The Positive and Negative of Everything

I’ve been pondering and asking myself why for many great things there has to be a negative to it. I’m working out this morning and although I love to workout and I’m helping my health with that, my hair has to be a nice mess afterwards. It makes me feel as if I have to choose between my body or my hair. Same thing with other decisions that I have to make, there are positives and negatives to everything. It makes me wonder why this is and this is what today’s post will be about.

I think one of the best comparisons to describe how life functions is a battery- it has a positive and a negative side. The battery, in order to function the way it is supposed to, needs both sides. If both sides are positive or negative, it just can’t work right. For as much as we would like for life to just have the positive, it can’t function if there is no negative.

So what’s the purpose of having both in our life? They both help balance each other out. This goes with everything in life. You can’t understand what true happiness is unless you know what sadness is. You can’t fully comprehend what true abundance is until you experience lack. You don’t fully appreciate your body until you get sick. You don’t fully appreciate the role someone plays in your life until you miss them. Certain places have to have their own downside because otherwise if it were to suite everyone, there would be a problem whether that problem is a place being overpopulated or very stressful, etc. This is what having the good and the bad can do, it can balance things out.

Balance is what contributes to your well-being and this is key. You need both sides in order to balance out your life. It is through balance that things can work in harmony. Nature intended it to be that way.

Having the negative along with the positive can bring out the creative side in us. This is because the negative can make you look for solutions as to how to a handle a situation. For example, I have to be creative with my hair in order to make it look nice after I workout. Certain things force the creative side of you and that is great.

So, if nature intended it this way, how can one handle the positives and the negatives when making certain decisions? When it comes to making decisions, you have to see what weighs more for you. It’s a matter of knowing who you are and knowing what matters most to you.

When it comes to cases where the negatives of something highly impacts your well-being, if it’s a decision that you made to have that positive in your life but it comes at a high price, then you have to mold yourself to the negative. What I mean with this is to find a way to work around the negative. For instance, if it’s a job that affects your health due to odd hours of work, then create your life and make a schedule that can still fit your job. The point is that you want to work with what you have and make the most of it.

Life indeed is like a battery with its positive and negative sides and both are needed in order for things to work in harmony. Both sides are needed in order to have balance in life. I encourage you to start looking at everything from this perspective.

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Take Off the Blindfold!

Blindfolds are only good for sleeping, they are not good to be wearing as you are going about your day. You need clarity in life, you need transparency, you need to know where you are going- something that a blindfold prevents you from having.

The blindfold that I am referring is clearly not the actual blindfold that some may wear at night. The blindfold that I am referring to is the invisible one that we sometimes decide to wear. Yes, I dare to write that “we sometimes decide to wear” because at any moment, we can decide to see things for what they are.

First, I want to start of by discussing why one may decide to wear a blindfold. There may be several reasons but I believe the most basic and biggest one and I would dare say THE reason is the needs that one may have. Yes, needs can be a bitch. The need to feel loved, the need to feel accepted and the need to belong, those basic human needs can make us a slave willing to wear a blindfold. Needs when not met can make us very hungry and it is that hunger that drives us to wear that blindfold.

Blindfolds are horrible for everyday life because they don’t allow you to see where you are going. You make yourself vulnerable to tripping and falling which can lead you to hurting yourself so badly. Not knowing where you are going can make you feel vulnerable and not in a good way. Not knowing where you are going can lead you to make unwise decisions. Not knowing where you are going makes you allow anything that come your way and I can tell you from personal experience that not everything that comes your way may be for good. This is why it is important to know where you are going.

Blindfolds prevent you from seeing what is in front of you. Many times people hint us as to who they really are and what their intentions are but we decide to ignore them because we feel the need to belong or feel loved or be accepted. Because not everything that comes your way may be good, it is important to already know that you are love and are loved so that you can come from a place of clearly seeing who the person that is in front of you is and what their intentions are towards you. You don’t want to ignore red flags.

The best way to prevent wearing a blindfold is to understand what makes you wear one to begin with. It is only through understanding that you are able to know what triggers this. Remember that blindfolds are not good for you to wear when it comes to everyday life- they prevent you from seeing where you are going and what is in front of you.

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What Does It Mean to Be Truly Healthy?

I want to finish off what I wrote last week but this time write about the question that I had in mind for quite some time which is “what does it mean to be truly healthy?” and I think there are several things to this.

First, I feel the need to add that being truly healthy, at least in my opinion, doesn’t mean the absence of illness. The reason for this is because there are other forms of being unhealthy that goes beyond the physical ailments. With this in mind, it is important to not judge another person with any physical impairment or ailment. It also doesn’t mean the absence of any sadness or mental ailment. I think nowadays it is easier than ever before to be more emotionally and mentally stressed which can lead us to more mental ailments. With the right amount, anyone is susceptible to feeling depressed or having a mental ailment.

Being fully healthy is making the most of what you have. That means that even if you have a physical ailment, you learn to manage, treat or work around it. You don’t use your physical ailment or impairment as an excuse to not live your life fully. You don’t allow it to stop you from fully expressing yourself. As long as your spirit isn’t handicapped, you still have so much in you to strive for.

Being fully healthy means that no matter the size of your baggage, you take the time to open it up and leave out all that you no longer need. I am using the word “baggage” as a metaphor to mean any issues you may have. We all have issues and that’s only because we are human beings. No one is perfect. We all have had things happen to us that perhaps are unresolved but as adults, it is our responsibility to work on those issues. The reason why it is important to work on those issues is because those very issues can hinder us from living the life we truly want.

Being healthy means understanding your emotions whether they are positive or negative emotions. Understanding your emotions is one of the keys to understanding yourself. It is also important to know how to manage your emotions as well. It is crucial to know that it is only normal to have your ups and downs emotionally. You just want to watch out for those really lows that can hinder you from living your life.

Being truly healthy is more about knowing how to manage yourself. It is not about the absence of illness or being physically perfect when it comes to health. It is important to look at all aspects of your life in order to really say whether you are healthy or not because it could be that you are physically healthy but not healthy in another area of your life. With this I would like to encourage you that you take a close look at your overall life in order to see what area of your life could be healthy if not healthier.

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It’s Little By Little, Day By Day

What inspires me to write this is the fact that my family and I are grieving the passing of my father who passed away this past Friday, May 20th. We know it will take time to accept this fact, to find the conformity in how things happened and to accept that he is no longer with us physically. All that anyone can do in circumstances like this is to remind oneself that it’s little by little, day by day.

It’s little by little, day by day that you will start to accept the fact that whatever that is going on in your life is actually going on in your life. This is because it takes time to process things. It takes time to heal wounds. It takes time to understand things. It takes time to process one’s emotions.

It’s little by little, day by day that you will put the pieces together. When one grieves, of course physically you reflect what you feel and it takes a little at a time and day by day to get back to your old self again. It takes time to be able to find things with the same beauty as you once did. It takes time to understand that it is ok to feel what you feel at the moment that you feel it.

It’s little by little, day by day that you start to realize that the ending of something is just the beginning of something new. The end is never the end and even when a chapter ends, life must go on and so you must go on.

It’s little by little, day by day because nothing is done all at once. You don’t just grow from night to day, you don’t just heal one moment to the next, you don’t get over a grief so quick. It’s ok to grieve because in the grieving you are processing what is going on, you are letting out all that you feel, you are little by little putting your own pieces together in a way that only you can do for yourself.

There are different kinds of grieving and although I’m grieving my dad’s passing, one can grieve their marriage or anything that was so meaningful to them. Grief is grief and no matter what the grief is, it takes little by little, day by day.

 

Why Is It a Must to Shake Off Certain Emotions?

I am one who says and writes over and over again that emotions are to be respected, tend to and understood because emotions are nothing else other than feedback from our soul/true essence. However, there are certain emotions that you can only have in small dosages because these emotions create havoc on your overall well-being and in today’s post, I would like to explain why it is a must to shake off certain emotions.

I totally understand, and trust me when I write that I totally understand, that there are certain circumstances in life where it seems unavoidable to not feel depressed, worried, angry and so on. There are certain circumstances in life that just don’t seem fair, are very sad and can just drag us down to a point that feels that there is no way out. HOWEVER, and let me repeat, however (and yes, I did capitalize the conjunctive adverb “however” because it is that important that it needs emphasis) it is a MUST to shake off these emotions because they, when it prolongs for too long, are detrimental to your overall life and well-being. Any emotions that when prolonged are detrimental to your well-being are depression/sadness, anger, worry, grief and sorrow.

Not shaking off these emotions are detrimental to your mind. They take over your thoughts and your thoughts affect your emotions and actions. Your thoughts program your mind which is the central part of how you perceive and feel things that occur. This also affects the decisions that you make thus affecting your actions.

Not shaking off these emotions affect you physically to the point that if you’re not careful, you can become physically sick. The mind, body and soul are all connected. They are not separate. Think about this, when you are sad or grieving, do you feel like choosing healthy foods? I bet not. Most likely you will go for comfort foods which most likely means unhealthy meals. The way you feel when you put food in your body matters. I have noticed that when you eat just to “survive”, your body doesn’t receive the food it’s getting the same way. You may notice that you feel nauseas, food doesn’t sit well in the stomach, etc. Instead, when you enjoy your food and enjoy what you are putting in your body, your body feels joy, you feel good. Stress and depression creates physical havoc in the body to the point that you can actually get an illness over time.

Not shaking off these emotions affects your physical environment. What I mean with your physical environment is your home, your relationships with others, etc. There is no way you will feel like having your home looking nice when you feel down. There is no way you will be able to transmit good energy and have much to give to others when you are down. There is just no way! Our physical environment reflects how we feel inside ourselves so if your physical world is a mess, guess what, it’s time to look at your inner world. If your physical environment is not a good environment, that just creates a cycle that seems like never ending. A depressing environment only creates a more depressing state of mind. You can’t afford to be in this state! It’s too expensive in so many ways!

I by no means am contradicting the fact that I encourage to embrace and understand your emotions. Not at all. What I am implying with today’s post is that if you stay too long with certain emotions that in large dosages are too harmful for you, you need to shake those emotions off. You must if you want great well-being. For those who are reading this and find themselves in a situation that feels awful and sad, please know that nothing is forever and that for your well-being as well as the well-being of others, it is a MUST to shake off those emotions! Please do, you are worth so much and no matter where you are in life, you matter not just for yourself but for others as well.

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