When Is It Time To Say “Good-Bye”?

On Saturday I did something that was so hard for me to do. So hard that it made me really sad the whole day but I knew that for me it was the right thing to do. I had to say good-bye to a friendship that wasn’t serving me because I had to be honest with myself and know that I didn’t want his friendship since my feelings for him was not that of a friend but of something more.

You see, sometimes saying good-bye will be one of the hardest things to do because many times the right thing to do will not be the easiest thing to do. But I first want to discuss what this good-bye means and the positive side of this.

The two things that have to be above anything else is your self-love and your happiness. If anyone or anything doesn’t value you, doesn’t make you feel loved, appreciated, doesn’t add to your happiness, doesn’t add well-being to you, then it’s time to say good-bye. I don’t care how beautiful the person’s heart and mind may be, if that person doesn’t value your heart and mind, it’s time to pack that heart and mind of yours and say good-bye.

I want to discuss what well-being means. Well-being means love, happiness, fullness, appreciation, respect and value. The moment you are not appreciated, the moment you are ignored, the moment a relationship is not reciprocal, the moment a situation doesn’t add to your growth as a person, the moment someone doesn’t show the same enthusiasm you show when you write, call or see them….. then as hard as it is to admit it, it’s time to say good-bye. One thing I must add is that holding on to memories doesn’t serve you. It doesn’t add to your well-being. What matters is the present and the future and if something or someone isn’t adding to your present and future, then the past and memories don’t matter.

What good-bye in these situations represent is a releasing so that you can make space for things and people that want you just as much as you want them, space for things and people that are meant to be in your life, space for things and people that will add to your well-being rather than take away. Good-bye doesn’t mean losing, it’s important to remember that you can never lose something that was never yours to begin with. Good-bye means gaining: gaining back your happiness, gaining back your dignity, gaining back your power, gaining back space because it was being rented by things and people that no longer belong. Good-bye also means love. It means love because you are loving yourself so much to realize that something isn’t working for you that you are willing to release it no matter how much it may hurt.

Always remember these things: you will know when something or someone belongs in your life because you feel excitement. You feel that the people and situations want you just as much as you want them. The relationships that belong in your life are those that add happiness to you, make you feel appreciated, valued, they see your worth even when you don’t see your own worth, they add LIFE to you. Life is very short to be around things and people that don’t do these things for you. Always hold on to things and people that make you feel happy, full, accepted and valued and let go of those who don’t, no matter how wonderful they may be or seem. Remember, there is no worth in having people who are nice if they don’t value you and it’s not reciprocal.

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Unplug For Your Well-being

I want to start by asking, what would you do if an outlet in your house doesn’t work? I’m pretty sure you would unplug any electrical appliance that you have plugged to that outlet, right. And why do you unplug? Because the outlet isn’t providing anything to your electrical equipment. Well, guess what, same thing applies to everything else in life.

There are times we are plugged into something that once did provide us with that charge that we so needed. That can be a relationship, a job, an apartment, anything. However, there are times when that very thing that once charged our batteries either depletes our energy, no longer is serving what we so need and deserve, no longer is providing anything of value to us and it is then when we must unplug.

So why unplug? It is important to unplug because life never meant for you to feel constantly depleted, not energized, sad or even angry. No, life is meant for you to feel joy, energized, good, balanced and with a sense of well-being. When something depletes your energy, your sense of well-being in any shape or form, this is not good for you. It is no longer serving you and what is the point of having something that no longer serves you?! It just keeps taking up space for new and better things to come to you.

I want to clarify that by no means am I encouraging you to view people as objects that you discard or anything of that sort. What I mean is when you notice that a relationship isn’t adding to your well-being by making you genuinely happy, by loving and caring for you for who you really are, by being there for you the way you need that person to be present for you, then you must question what is the purpose of that relationship.

The whole purpose of unplugging is so that you can then plug into an outlet that DOES work. You unplug so that you can give yourself room to go to things that DO energize you, make you feel good and that adds to your overall well-being. Life is too short for you to be wasting it on things that don’t contribute to your well-being. Life is too short for you to have a job that you don’t like, for you to be in a relationship that makes you unhappy, for you not to be cultivating who you really are. Life is about happiness, energy, courage, excitement and there are times that in order to have all this you must unplug.

Unplugging….doesn’t only apply to electrical devices, it also applies to you and your life as well. The next time you notice something isn’t making you feel good, assess the “outlet”, which by “outlet” I mean whatever it is that you are attached to that doesn’t seem to serve you, and if indeed after assessing it you notice it is no longer working, then unplug. Unplugging from things that doesn’t serve you will add tremendously to your overall well-being.

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