You Need to Lose In Order to Win

Wouldn’t it be nice that the person that we love loved us back and not have to go through so much hurt when it comes to love? Wouldn’t it be nice not to have to invest so much time nor money in a business when starting out? Wouldn’t it be nice to not have to workout every day and eat right every day for us to see weight loss? Wouldn’t it be nice not to have to go to dozens and dozens of job interviews before finding a job? Gosh, this all sounds exhausting, right?!

One thing we MUST all remember if we want ANYTHING in life is that we need to lose in order to win. “What Aura?! No way! I know there is a better way!” If this is what you are thinking, I’m sorry to disappoint you but it was not me who made up this rule, it was Life who made this rule. In every lose there is a lesson and great things don’t come very quick. Great things like love, a successful business, weight loss, a great career comes with lots of loses because there is great sacrifice involved. Don’t take my word for it, I will give you examples. When starting your own business, there is a lot of money that you have to invest because it’s the money to start the business, the advertising, promoting, education, rent if you have an office space, etc and with all this, there will be lose of money but that lose is gain in the long run, not necessarily in the short term. When you want a career, you need to invest in your education and for those who are doctors, lawyers, psychologists, they know it means thousands and thousands of money that they have to put in before they even succeed financially in their careers. It means most likely going for jobs that won’t pay much now in order for them to be where they want to be. When it comes to love, oh love, this is a big one for many. Those who have found great love I’m pretty sure have had their share of tears, disappointments and suffering before finding their true love. For those who didn’t, good for you, but all those disappointments, for those who have been greatly disappointed in love, they are lessons, yes loses but not so much loses if you consider that those experiences are gains in the long run.

What does this “you need to lose in order to win” have to do with your well-being and life in general? Oh, I dare to say it has so much to do with your well-being and life in general. If you think that the great life you want won’t come with moments of lose, you will be greatly disappointed and most likely you will give up on your dreams of achieving anything when the going gets tough. If you give up on your weight loss journey just because you plateaued or because you are not currently seeing results, you may miss out on some crucial learning that can catapult you to being the person that you want to be! If because you have been “rejected” by people that you like/love you decide to give up on love, you may miss out on recognizing the person that truly is the love of your life! If because you feel that you have invested so much money in your business, spent thousands and thousands of dollars in a business and because you haven’t seen results you give up on your dream of having your own business, you will end up feeling bitterly disappointed, giving up hope on the person that you want to become and you may miss out on being that great person that you truly are!

I think that rather than giving up on what is in your heart, remember that to win there will be some loses, perhaps even huge loses but with every lose comes some gain. It is to your benefit to remember this and to keep this in mind no matter what your goals and dreams are. Losing is not a bad thing. As a matter of fact, if you allow it, losing actually makes you a winner because it takes great courage to be willing to lose in life.

I would like to invite you to take the FREE course I created called The Path to Your Nirvana™, which is a 28 day course with 5 steps meant to help you live your own happiness by understanding first what is getting in the way of you being on your own path of happiness, how to overcome it, learning to understand your actions and focus and getting you to the path that your true essence has in store for you. There is a free bonus course with this course so it’s something for you to take advantage of. All you have to do is click on the link https://bit.ly/2uDS9Oo, put your name and email address.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

You can also read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at https://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez. I now have a YouTube channel which I will ask that you subscribe for more tips to increase your well-being https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLZANKeRUFM4YvMXy4HzQrg.

And if you would like to bring even more nature into your home, you can do what I do when I need a pick-me-up o when I have a headache, etc. and use the following oils that help me have more balance in life and I’m sure it will help you as well. http://my.doterra.com/Auraemartinez. You can also contact me so that I can help you choose the oils that will best help you.

 

Are You Bombarded With the Should’s?

I can tell you from personal experience that being bombarded with the should’s is the fastest way to burnout. Burnout doesn’t contribute to your well-being. It takes away from your well-being. Greater well-being requires that you have things that ADD to your well-being, not that take away from your well-being. Because the should’s take away from your well-being, I feel the need to write about this.

The thoughts and feelings of “I should do this”, “I should do that”, “I should do this because my goals are…..”, none of this even sounds positive. There is no positive energy in the should’s.

So, what can you do with the should’s when the reality is that there are things that you must do because you have certain goals? Well, the answer is to reframe those should’s.

Reframing means to literally change the frame of something, meaning the “look” for lack of a better word of a situation. Just like the frame changes the look of a photo, the frame that you put on a situation changes your perspective and feel of things. So what you are going to do is change your perspective of the situation.

I remember back when I was so disciplined in toning up my body. I would spend several hours food shopping and several more hours cooking and prepping my meals. I would carry my food everywhere I went. All this, after a while, felt like a chore for me- a chore that I was getting tired of doing. It was at that moment that I knew I needed to reframe the way I was viewing everything that I was doing.

I needed to remember why I was doing everything that I was doing. I needed to picture myself with the body I wanted. I needed to remind myself to enjoy the process. I changed my should’s to wants. I want to go food shopping. I want to spend my time in the kitchen. I want to prep my meals.

So the answer is to change your should’s to wants. You want to do whatever it is that you feel it’s a drag to do. You want to because you enjoy it. It’s in the reframing your should’s that you will no longer be bombarded by them. That’s when life becomes enjoyable because you are enjoying the process rather than just going through the motions. You start enjoying the process because you are not only focused on the outcome.

Should’s, they don’t need to bombard you. It is just a matter of reframing your should’s so that you no longer feel like you are obligated to do the things that need to be done in order for you to get your desired result.

I would like to invite you to take the FREE course I created called The Path to Your Nirvana™, which is a 28 day course with 5 steps meant to help you live your own happiness by understanding first what is getting in the way of you being on your own path of happiness, how to overcome it, learning to understand your actions and focus and getting you to the path that your true essence has in store for you. There is a free bonus course with this course so it’s something for you to take advantage of. All you have to do is click on the link https://bit.ly/2uDS9Oo, put your name and email address.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

You can also read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at https://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez. I now have a YouTube channel which I will ask that you subscribe for more tips to increase your well-being https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLZANKeRUFM4YvMXy4HzQrg.

And if you would like to bring even more nature into your home, you can do what I do when I need a pick-me-up o when I have a headache, etc. and use the following oils that help me have more balance in life and I’m sure it will help you as well. http://my.doterra.com/Auraemartinez. You can also contact me so that I can help you choose the oils that will best help you.

 

 

 

 

How to Fill the Inner Void

Today I would like to write about something that seems to be real for some and this kind of struggle is very real. The struggle that I am referring to is the one of an inner void.

Since well-being starts with you, this means that it starts with being whole. Being whole by default means that there is no void. Now, one thing that I would like to clarify is that it is perfectly normal to have certain needs that are just innate because we are human beings. These needs that I am referring to are- the need to feel needed, to be accepted, to be loved and the need for companionship. These needs are built within us because as human beings we are emotional and social beings. So having these needs does not mean that you are not whole.

However, when these needs are heightened to the point where you are willing to compromise your well-being to have these needs met, this is when there is a void that needs to be filled. I think many confuse having needs with having a void when there is a fine line between the two and that line is when those needs become so strong to the point that you are willing to compromise your well-being.

With all this said, how can one fill an inner void? Perhaps for some, they may not like what I’m about to write because maybe some are searching for immediate results to what they are currently feeling but I can guarantee you that greater satisfaction comes from going to the root of things. So the first place to start is by recognizing your inner value. It is important that you see and cherish your own inner value because when you see how valuable you are as a person, you will expect others to treat you like so. You start seeing your value by recognizing the attributes that you possess that make you an amazing person. It doesn’t matter if others have those same attributes, believe and know that there is something unique about you that no one else has.

Think about the things that bring you joy and start doing those things often. The more things you do that you enjoy, the better you will feel about yourself because you are nurturing your true essence which is your soul. This is one part of us that some tend to neglect and doing so can be detrimental overtime. Give yourself the time to feed your soul with things that makes it happy.

Surround yourself by people who appreciate you for who you are. Choose healthy relationships. Whether we realize it or not, the people that we surround ourselves by do have an influence on our self-concept and self-esteem. Choose people who have a healthy self-esteem, who love themselves, who are happy with their life and who are willing to do the inner work. I will discuss on another blog why it is important to choose people who are willing to do the inner work.

The last thing I will recommend that you do is to take the time to get to know who you are. There is tremendous power in knowing who you really are. When you have a deep understanding of who you are, you know what your needs are in every area of your life. When you have a deep understanding of who you are, you are more accepting of who you are and the choices that you make regardless of whether others are accepting of you or not. This understanding allows you to be in alignment which leads to greater well-being.

I am not going to lie to you that filling a void takes effort but that is effort that is worth it. If you want to fill that void completely and feel great on a consistent basis, you have to have that deep understanding and appreciate of yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the foundation in which everything is built upon. When you feel void, you are not going to have much to offer to others. You will be coming from a place of neediness and anxiety and others will sense that because that is what you will be emanating.

I would like to encourage you to start looking at the traits that make you an amazing person. Start doing the things that make you very happy. Surround yourself by people who have a healthy self-esteem and who love their life. Have a great relationship with yourself. The moment you start filling yourself up, you won’t be heightening the natural needs that is only normal to have.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

You can also read the blog on your Kindle by clicking on the Amazon Kindle store at https://www.amazon.com/Live-MaxTM-Viva-al-m%C3%A1ximoTM/dp/B00NK1JOJ4 and you can listen to my online radio show at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AuraEMartinez.

You Need To Lose In Order To Win

Wouldn’t it be nice that the person that we love loved us back and not have to go through so much hurt when it comes to love? Wouldn’t it be nice not to have to invest so much time nor money in a business when starting out? Wouldn’t it be nice to not have to workout every day and eat right every day for us to see weight loss? Wouldn’t it be nice not to have to go to dozens and dozens of job interviews before finding a job? Gosh, this all sounds exhausting, right?!

One thing we MUST all remember if we want ANYTHING in life is that we need to lose in order to win. “What Aura?! No way! I know there is a better way!” If this is what you are thinking, I’m sorry to disappoint you but it was not me who made up this rule, it was Life who made this rule. In every lose there is a lesson and great things don’t come very quick. Great things like love, a successful business, weight loss, a great career comes with lots of loses because there is great sacrifice involved. Don’t take my word for it, I will give you examples. When starting your own business, there is a lot of money that you have to invest because it’s the money to start the business, the advertising, promoting, education, rent if you have an office space, etc and with all this, there will be lose of money but that lose is gain in the long run, not necessarily in the short term. When you want a career, you need to invest in your education and for those who are doctors, lawyers, psychologists, they know it means thousands and thousands of money that they have to put in before they even succeed financially in their careers. It means most likely going for jobs that won’t pay much now in order for them to be where they want to be. When it comes to love, oh love, this is a big one for many. Those who have found great love I’m pretty sure have had their share of tears, disappointments and suffering before finding their true love. For those who didn’t, good for you, but all those disappointments, for those who have been greatly disappointed in love, they are lessons, yes loses but not so much loses if you consider that those experiences are gains in the long run.

What does this “you need to lose in order to win” have to do with your well-being and life in general? Oh, I dare to say it has so much to do with your well-being and life in general. If you think that the great life you want won’t come with moments of lose, you will be greatly disappointed and most likely you will give up on your dreams of achieving anything when the going gets tough. If you give up on your weight loss journey just because you plateaued or because you are not currently seeing results, you may miss out on some crucial learning that can catapult you to being the person that you want to be! If because you have been “rejected” by people that you like/love you decide to give up on love, you may miss out on recognizing the person that truly is the love of your life! If because you feel that you have invested so much money in your business, spent thousands and thousands of dollars in a business and because you haven’t seen results you give up on your dream of having your own business, you will end up feeling bitterly disappointed, giving up hope on the person that you want to become and you may miss out on being that great person that you truly are!

I think that rather than giving up on what is in your heart, remember that to win there will be some loses, perhaps even huge loses but with every lose comes some gain. It is to your benefit to remember this and to keep this in mind no matter what your goals and dreams are. Losing is not a bad thing. As a matter of fact, if you allow it, losing actually makes you a winner because it takes great courage to be willing to lose in life.