Well-being Requires Honesty

One may not think that honesty has anything to do with one’s well-being but it does. The honesty that I am writing about is not the honesty that comes from others…..it is the honesty that comes from your own self.

Honesty is not always an easy thing. Honesty requires a certain level of courage and strength that sometimes it’s hard to have, especially during times of vulnerability. Sometimes for our mental and emotional sanity it may seem better to lie to ourselves but I can guarantee you that this will only bite you in your behind sooner than later. No matter how hard the truth may be, how hard it is to admit certain things, it is to your own benefit to be honest with yourself.

What does it take to be honest with yourself? It takes first and foremost self-love. There will be times where you may strongly want or desire something that either isn’t for you or that plain “rejected” you and this may crush your self-esteem and question your self-worth. It is during these times when your self-love will be tested. No matter what it is that you want or love, your self-love must come BEFORE anything or anyone else. I will repeat, your self-love must come BEFORE anything or anyone else!

“Well, what does it take to have that self-love?” you may wonder. It takes being able to see your own value even when others don’t see it. It is YOU who determine your value. No material object, no person, no circumstance, no man or woman, absolutely nothing else determine your value but you. If you can’t see your own value, it is hard to be able to love yourself.

You seeing your worth and your self-love will give you the strength to be honest with yourself at all times. When you can learn to be honest with yourself, you will not accept situations or people who compromise in any way your well-being. For instance, and I can’t think of a better example than this, when you really love someone or like them but you know they don’t feel the same, it doesn’t matter what you feel for them, if they don’t feel the same for you, you MUST accept that and take your self-love, your heart, your valuables (valuables meaning what you have to offer mentally, emotionally and spiritually and your body) and go find someone who is crazy about you just as you are crazy about them. You can’t afford to accept breadcrumbs from no one. You can’t afford to be an option for someone. Honesty requires you face the truth even if the truth sucks. Honesty requires you to let go even when it hurts to let go.

When you fail to be honest with yourself, the truth somehow will hit you on the face. You can’t sustain for long something that was never yours or something that was a lie from the beginning. In the long run, that lie will hurt more than you facing the truth right from the beginning.

A life of joy and sustained happiness require that there be honesty in every area of your life first and foremost from yourself and then from others. When you fail to be honest with yourself, you tend to accept things that are not up to par with what you need and deserve.

You deserve to be truly happy. You deserve to know what you have in your life. You deserve to know that what you have is real in your life. You deserve genuine love from yourself and from others. You deserve to have a life where you love your reality in every way. This is what you deserve but in order to have that, you must be honesty with yourself.

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“It Will All Somehow Get Done”

These past few weeks have been extremely stressful. The last time I’ve been so stressed was when my dad was very ill but this stress, which was brought upon goals that I had set for myself, was certainly not a healthy one. It brought acne to my face, so much that I haven’t seen in a long time, and a body breakdown last week Friday which led to me being in bed all day. I constantly heard a low voice telling me “It will all somehow get done” and had I listened to this inner voice, I don’t think I would have reached that point of stress. It is this that I would like to encourage you in today’s post….no matter what it is that you are trying to accomplish or need to finish doing…it will all somehow get done.

It will all somehow get done, therefore, there is no point in stressing. For what? To stress your body unnecessarily? Raise your blood pressure unnecessarily? Get yourself all out of whack mentally? It doesn’t matter how many goals you have, nothing is more precious than your body so it is a must to relax in the thought that everything will resolve itself.

It will all somehow get done, therefore there is no point in worrying. Worrying is so energy consuming to the point that it paralyzes you. It is actually a low energy vibration so this certainly won’t get you to where you want to go. Worrying robs you of mental and emotional agility, which you need when you have a lot going on.

It will all somehow get done…if you always keep this phrase in your mind, this will help you decrease any negative emotion you may feel due to the overwhelming pressures you may have. As long as you focus on the end result, whatever it is that you want to do, you will see the results of your labor.

It will somehow get done….a powerful phrase, believe it or not, and a way to train your mind and body to not stress itself because of life’s pressure. You were not meant to be stressed to the point of being sick. Enjoy everything you have to do, even the things that are not so pleasant- they are all part of the journey of growing into the person that you are meant to be.

If you love the blog, you will most certainly love my latest book Creating a Lifetime of Wellness: Start Having the Life You Deserve where I discuss topics that highly impact your well-being that perhaps you may not be aware of. You can purchase your copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Lifetime-Wellness-Aura-Martinez/dp/1458220885/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490999433&sr=8-1&keywords=creating+a+lifetime+of+wellness or on Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/creating-a-lifetime-of-wellness-aura-e-martinez/1126001153?ean=9781458220882.

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The swing….

After I voted last week, as I was waiting for my friend to pick me up so we can have brunch together, I decided to get on the swing for a bit. As I got on the swing, I started to feel like a child again. I always loved swings and the feeling of being in one reminded me of how free of worries we are, free of fears, how daring and persistent we can be as kids. Somehow along the way as we get older, we learn to be the opposite of what we were designed to be all our life. We learn to be fearful, cautious, we give up when we fail, we listen to messages and advice that goes against our true nature and because of this, I want to encourage you to go back and be like a child.

Be like a child and never give up trying no matter how many times you have to try. There may be those along the way who will try to ridicule you for your efforts, who will ridicule you and ask “who are you to be or have the thing you want?”. There will be those who will make fun of you for trying. As a matter of fact, the laughable ones are those who do not try because in the end, they will have regrets for those things that they didn’t do. Those who ridicule you will always wonder what could have been. Zig zagging is part of the process. Sometimes even pausing for a moment is still part of the process. It doesn’t matter the speed as long as you never give up until you reach your goal.

Be like a child and don’t allow fear to stop you. EVERYTHING can be frightening. That’s because everything that is new and unknown can make one feel uncomfortable. Fear of being hurt, oh this is another one. I was falling for this one but the mistake with allowing this to rule you is that you close yourself up to wonderful possibilities. Any hurt is something to learn from and grow and not take personal. If an issue is created as a result of a hurt, then work on it. The only way to truly enjoy life is to remain open to the wonderful possibilities, something kids are so good at doing.

Be like a child and be stubborn enough to want what you want if that’s what your heart so desires and stop listening to other people’s voices. What do others know? They are not the one living your life for you. You are the one living your own life so you owe it to yourself to listen to your heart’s desires.

Ah the swing…so glad I got on it to be reminded of the feeling of being a child, the feeling of being free of the things that holds us back as adults and the reminder of being open to the wonders of life. Now I want to encourage you to do the same.

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It’s a Must…

Every year we all make new year resolutions. It’s very important to make new year resolutions because they motivate us to get going and to do what we must do to achieve our goals. However, there are certain goals that many of us have in mind to do and yet many seem to either “fail” or give up. I write “fail” in quotation marks because you don’t actually fail, you just learn. Many have the goal of losing weight, of achieving this or that but I would like to write this in today’s post…anything that has to do with your health and well-being then it’s a must.

That’s a phrase I encourage you to use this year. It’s a must to lose weight if your weight is affecting your health. The reason why I write “if it’s affecting your health” is because being “skinny” or fit isn’t the only form of beauty. There are those who have more meat on them and they too are so beautiful in their own way. I believe in weight loss when losing weight will mean better health, not for superficial reasons.

It’s a must to nurture your spirit so if you feel the desire to do this or that then do it. It is a must because having a healthy spirit means a healthy person overall. Everything that we feel, think and do affects EVERY area of our life.

It’s a must to cultivate love. Love for yourself, love for others and if you’re married or have a companion, it is a must both for that person and yourself to cultivate that love in every way.

I can go on and on with this topic on today’s post but the purpose is not to write a long post but to encourage you that instead of making things a goal you make it a must. Musts tend to get accomplished as opposed to wants or wishing.

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Are You Wasting Your Time?

There are many times when we may not even realize it until it is too late that all we have been doing in life is wasting our time. Sometimes what makes us come to this realization is either a sickness, a disability, a loss of some sort and none of this is necessary for us to come to this realization.

Now, this question that I just asked on the title will have different answers for everyone. That’s because everyone’s definition of living life and enjoying life will be different. What I may find as enjoyment may be different for someone else. So for this reason, you can’t go to anyone else for an answer, you have to look within you.

Even though the answer to this question will be different for everyone, there are some basic things that I think are time wasters for everyone no matter how different we may all be for certain things. Time wasters would be being angry at others, being worried all the time, not working on the relationships that truly matter most, taking those you love for granted, focusing on things that are no longer in your present life or focusing on what could have been but isn’t, being angry with Life for the things that you don’t have in life or for what was taken away from you. All these things are what I call paralyzers because they do just that, they paralyze you. They paralyze you mentally, physically and emotionally. They don’t help you move forward and see all the goodness that you still have. They make you blind. They hinder you from enjoying life.

Being angry at someone else is not hurting the other person, it is hurting you. The other person may not even be aware of what you are feeling but you are and that can make you even more angry because it does hurt to know that you care while the other person doesn’t. Depending on what it is that made you angry, that anger may be easy to let go or not. Whatever it is that made you angry, know that by continuing to feel this way, the only person who are hurting is yourself. There are times when other people may not even mean to harm us and so this is another reason why it is not worth getting so angry. As my very good friend Dawn reminded me over and over, no one can make you feel a certain way unless you allow them.

Being worried all the time is just paralyzing in every aspect. It paralyzes you mentally because the worry that you feel can stop you from thinking of making the right decision. It paralyzes you physically because the worry can make you not want to take any action. We usually worry about something that hasn’t happened yet and this stops us from living the present moment. If you want to be able to look at your past and think of it with good thoughts and feelings, then you must enjoy this moment because this moment will be past. Besides, worry just attracts more of the things that you are worried about.

One of the things that matters so much in life is the relationships we have in our life. Not cultivating them is, to me, equivalent to not saving money and the reason for this is because whether you realize it or not, the relationships that you have with others are an investment. What you give to others is what you get back. Family is one thing we tend to take for granted and think about this, when you are in your down moments, it isn’t a job or strangers who will be there for you, it is your family and close friends so make time for those you love and love you.

I can tell you that focusing on what no longer was in my present paralyzed me for a bit and made me waste my time by not looking forward. That is what focusing on what could have been but isn’t, focusing on what you no longer have and what you feel Life has taken away from you do to you, it keeps you from looking forward. I know it can be challenging at times but it is a must to look forward to more goodness in life. Part of life is transitioning from one stage of life to the next and we must embrace this if we are to be happy.

So now I challenge you to think whether or not you are wasting your time. This simple question can transform the way your life is right now if there is any part of it that you are not happy with and can add more well-being to you.

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You Will Always Be a Work-In-Progress….

I think this post can be applied to anyone but this especially goes to all those who tend to be a perfectionist like me since perfectionists tend to be a little more harsh on themselves.

There are times where you will be so far from perfect. This in itself can ignite feelings of anger, guilt, worry and even disappointment. I think the best way to combat this is by reminding yourself that for as long as you live, you will always be a work-in-progress.

None of us are perfect and there will be issues that we need to resolve within ourselves because we’re human. It’s only normal to have our issues and the most important part of this is taking steps every day in order to solve those issues. Because one may have unresolved issues or one may do things that makes them far from perfect, part of well-being is to do our best to be bigger than that issue or whatever it is that we feel bad that we did wrong and come to peace with whatever happened and to grow from it.

When you remind yourself that you are a work-in-progress, you relieve that pressure to be perfect. That relief of pressure makes you free to be your true self, whatever that self may be. When you are your true self, you are your most happiest version because there is nothing like you being who you truly are.

When you remind yourself that you are a work-in-progress, you allow yourself room for growth. How so? When you know you are a work-in-progress, you know that there is more growth to come. This knowing makes you expect great changes while at the same time embracing who you are at the moment. When you know this, you know that who you are now is yet to evolve into something better. It’s the knowing that you are under construction in a very good way.

Just like when something is under construction the area may not look so nice because of course, there are repairs and tears on the place, so will you have repairs that needs to get done and tears because certain things will need to be broken down in order to be rebuild. Growth requires changes and some of those changes may mean that there will be some tearing down of certain things within you and there is nothing wrong with that. This doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you, it just means that a better version of you will emerge as a result.

Knowing that you are a work-in-progress is so important to your well-being because it prevents you from being too hard on yourself when you are not your best you for whatever reason. It helps you to be more compassionate and empathetic with yourself. This helps you take better care of yourself by being the kind of friend that you would be for someone else who is hard on themselves, only that you are being this friend to yourself. So with this post, I encourage you to remind yourself…you will always be a work-in-progress.

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“Uplift Yourself”

Today as I’m sipping on my favorite brand of tea “Yogi tea”, I read the message that comes with the tea and it reads “Uplift others and uplift yourself”. The part that caught my attention was the “uplift yourself”. With so much that is going on in my life, it can be quite a challenge to uplift myself as I am sure that it is the same for others as well and so I thought of this importance after I read this.

There will be times in your life where others may not necessarily be there to uplift you and this is why it is very necessary to learn to uplift yourself. In the same way that you would encourage others, you need that same encouragement from yourself. “But how can I uplift myself when I have so much going on?” you may ask and what I can share is what I do on a daily basis to uplift myself.

I am aware that everyone’s belief may be different and I respect everyone’s belief and outlook in life so you can take the following advise in a way that suits you. I believe that prayer is one of the greatest ways to uplift yourself. There is something that I can not explain but that truly helps when you need encouragement.

Have faith or the belief that things will change and be better. That belief or faith helps you feel and think differently. It helps change your outlook on the situation. Without the belief or faith that things will be better, you will feel a heavy burden in you that just feels as if it’s dragging you down. This places weight on you that reflects everywhere you go.

Don’t forget to do things that make you happy. For everyone this will be different. For some it is reading, for others it is yoga, or perhaps going for a walk. It is crucial for you to do something that cheers you up because this helps you to relax. It is in a relaxed state that we can accomplish more and endure more.

Remember that you are loved. I think it is easy when one is going through so much or feeling sad or overwhelmed to think that they are lonely. Thinking in this manner just creates negative emotions within you that just doesn’t help. Remember that there are those who love you, who are influenced by you and who also depend on you. Knowing this will help you gain some strength since love is an empowering feeling.

These are just some of the many things that you can do to uplift yourself whenever you need encouragement. We sometimes tend to be so good at being there for others that we forget that we also need to be there for ourselves. This is part of taking care of yourself in order to ensure your well-being.