Become an Asset

On today’s post, I would like to encourage you to do one thing that if you don’t get anything else from this blog, this is one thing that you must do that can dramatically change every area of your life and that is to become an asset.

That’s right! For so many of us it is easy to blame other things, people or situations for our shortcomings, our “failures” whether that be in relationships, money, etc. However, none of this helps. All this does is continue the cycle of misery, frustration and dissatisfaction. I find that the best way to overcome shortcomings, misery, frustration and attracting the wrong things over and over again is by becoming an asset.

Become an asset by working on every area of your life. This means that you work on becoming a better self in every way you can- mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. So how can you start becoming an asset and in what areas am I referring to?

Become an asset to your family! Everything starts at home. Ensuring that you become the best mother, father, brother, sister, cousin, etc. will help create a very healthy home. This means that you work on being the best version of yourself because you understand that you are a role model for other family members. So make sure you are a good role model to yourself first so you can be a great role model to others.

Become an asset to your husband/wife or companion! You do this by making sure you are in harmony with yourself because you can only offer what you have. This means that you work on any issue you may have, so if you have any hurt or if you are broken, you work towards becoming whole. What constitutes healthy relationships are two whole people. If you realize that you need professional help in order to heal, then go seek that help. You are worth the investment.

Become an asset at work! Always do your best to acquire new skills so that you can have more to add to the work that you do. Do your best to always be grateful for the job that you have. Always strive to be a great coworker for your fellow work colleagues.

Become an asset for your friends! Do this by always striving to make yourself happy so you have more joy to offer to your friends. Always take care of yourself so that you can be that example to your friends. Always strive to be grateful for all you have as a person.

Become an asset to yourself! Yes, you read right. You have to be an asset to yourself. You do this by taking care of your whole body. This means taking care of your mindset, of your spirit and your physical body. This means stating positive affirmations to yourself, doing things that you love, being more loving towards yourself and always striving for happiness. This also means taking yourself away from situations that don’t serve you. This last thing I wrote is a form of love because you don’t allow yourself to be in situations that are harmful to you.

Becoming an asset is about making the effort and taking responsibility for your life. This is crucial to your overall well-being. It all starts with a decision so make a decision to choose yourself first and become an asset.

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The Fine Line Between Caring About What Others Think and Feel Vs. Not Caring

Since on my last post I discussed how in order to be authentic you have to be true to who you are and this will also mean that you can not care about what others think and feel, then you may wonder whether or not there is a fine line between caring about what others think and feel vs. not caring and to what degree should we care or not care and this is exactly what this post will be about.

First I want to discuss the “not caring part”. The reason why you shouldn’t care so much is because at the end of the day, no one else is living your life for you. No one else has to carry the consequences of your actions. No one else can do anything for you. Others can be a sense of support for you but no amount of support will matter if you are not the first one to support yourself. No amount of love from others will matter if you first don’t love yourself. No amount of any investment that others can do in you will matter if you first don’t invest in yourself. In other words, everything, absolutely EVERYTHING in your life starts with you. YOU are the one that matters most in YOUR life. When it comes to YOUR life, it is you who has to live with you for the rest of your life. Concerning yourself too much with what others will think and feel will hinder you, it will cripple you and prevent you from your own growth. This is because no one truly has the answers to your life. This is because other people may have their own insecurities that they may project on to you. This is because other people may be limited and this limitation includes that they may be mentally limited due to their own ignorance or limiting beliefs. They may be limited emotionally in the sense that they may not believe something is possible when you in your heart know it is. Whatever it may be, other people will always be limited because they are not you to know what you truly need and want.

Now, just because I write that you shouldn’t care about what others think and feel doesn’t mean that this is not a license to disregard other people’s feelings and thoughts and act in a careless manner. Not at all! To a certain degree you have to care because we all influence each other. You matter to someone and what you say and do has an influence on someone else. Even though other people’s happiness is not your responsibility, it is their responsibility, you can add to other people’s well-being by being a sense of joy to them. I think we come into this world to add to other people’s life in tremendous ways, it’s just a matter of us seeing that. It is in this sense that what others think and feel should matter. If your words and actions are going to hurt others, then it has to matter! If what you are going to say or do will add joy to others, then it has to matter! Everything and anything that you do has to come from a place where you are full and good. We have to be real and honest to know that we are not always going to be our best selves. We are only human. However, care about what others think or feel to the degree that you add joy and greatness to others. Not the opposite.

There is a fine line between caring about what others think and feel vs. not caring and that line is where is this caring coming from. Is it coming from a place of insecurity about yourself or is it coming from a genuineness of adding rather than depleting from others? THAT is the fine line. When this caring is coming from a place of insecurity, then you need to value more what you think and feel rather than others. When it comes from a genuine place of adding to others rather than depleting, then that’s when it should matter. Mastering this fine line is a must for your well-being.

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Don’t Become Damaged Goods

I had a conversation with my friend Ozzy about something personal to me and I just loved how he used the term “damaged goods”. “Well, what in the world does this have to do with my well-being?” you may wonder and you will know how as you continue reading.

Part of life is hurt. With every good, there is bad. For every negative there is a positive. Indeed, life is like a battery in this way. There comes a point in our life where we may be hurt by someone or some experience and sometimes that hurt is an unexpected hurt. In these cases, it is easy to become bitter, it is easy to be sad, that hurt rules us and if we’re not careful, we can end up hurting others because of that hurt. No matter what that hurt may be or who caused that hurt, don’t allow yourself to become damaged goods.

Damaged good are just that- they are goods that appear to be good but if you take a closer look, you will realize there is some damage to it. There are certain hurts such as betrayal, lying, etc. that if we don’t heal those wounds, they can damage us, stopping us from any good that can come our way, making us hurt others even if we don’t mean to hurt others. As my soulmate friend Dawn said to me once, “hurt people hurt people”. When you are hurt, all you have to give is hurt. The only way out of this is to admit that you have an issue to resolve, give yourself the appropriate time and space to heal and do your best to be the best you that you can be. Forgive that other person for hurting you and forgive yourself for allowing yourself to be in that situation or for whatever role you played.

The hurt that you went through or are going through is an opportunity for growth. Don’t allow that hurt to shrink you into something less that you are meant to be and have. You are the one who rules over your hurt, not the other way around. It is up to you to decide to rule over your hurt and grow from it. In reality, hurt was never intended to shrink you or to close yourself up, it was meant to be lessons to grow from and become better. The more you start to look at your hurt from this perspective, the better you will be as a person in every sense.

I want to encourage you NOW to start looking at your hurt as lessons. The people you meet and life itself are your teachers. Don’t allow yourself to become damaged goods.

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Why Is It a Must to Shake Off Certain Emotions?

I am one who says and writes over and over again that emotions are to be respected, tend to and understood because emotions are nothing else other than feedback from our soul/true essence. However, there are certain emotions that you can only have in small dosages because these emotions create havoc on your overall well-being and in today’s post, I would like to explain why it is a must to shake off certain emotions.

I totally understand, and trust me when I write that I totally understand, that there are certain circumstances in life where it seems unavoidable to not feel depressed, worried, angry and so on. There are certain circumstances in life that just don’t seem fair, are very sad and can just drag us down to a point that feels that there is no way out. HOWEVER, and let me repeat, however (and yes, I did capitalize the conjunctive adverb “however” because it is that important that it needs emphasis) it is a MUST to shake off these emotions because they, when it prolongs for too long, are detrimental to your overall life and well-being. Any emotions that when prolonged are detrimental to your well-being are depression/sadness, anger, worry, grief and sorrow.

Not shaking off these emotions are detrimental to your mind. They take over your thoughts and your thoughts affect your emotions and actions. Your thoughts program your mind which is the central part of how you perceive and feel things that occur. This also affects the decisions that you make thus affecting your actions.

Not shaking off these emotions affect you physically to the point that if you’re not careful, you can become physically sick. The mind, body and soul are all connected. They are not separate. Think about this, when you are sad or grieving, do you feel like choosing healthy foods? I bet not. Most likely you will go for comfort foods which most likely means unhealthy meals. The way you feel when you put food in your body matters. I have noticed that when you eat just to “survive”, your body doesn’t receive the food it’s getting the same way. You may notice that you feel nauseas, food doesn’t sit well in the stomach, etc. Instead, when you enjoy your food and enjoy what you are putting in your body, your body feels joy, you feel good. Stress and depression creates physical havoc in the body to the point that you can actually get an illness over time.

Not shaking off these emotions affects your physical environment. What I mean with your physical environment is your home, your relationships with others, etc. There is no way you will feel like having your home looking nice when you feel down. There is no way you will be able to transmit good energy and have much to give to others when you are down. There is just no way! Our physical environment reflects how we feel inside ourselves so if your physical world is a mess, guess what, it’s time to look at your inner world. If your physical environment is not a good environment, that just creates a cycle that seems like never ending. A depressing environment only creates a more depressing state of mind. You can’t afford to be in this state! It’s too expensive in so many ways!

I by no means am contradicting the fact that I encourage to embrace and understand your emotions. Not at all. What I am implying with today’s post is that if you stay too long with certain emotions that in large dosages are too harmful for you, you need to shake those emotions off. You must if you want great well-being. For those who are reading this and find themselves in a situation that feels awful and sad, please know that nothing is forever and that for your well-being as well as the well-being of others, it is a MUST to shake off those emotions! Please do, you are worth so much and no matter where you are in life, you matter not just for yourself but for others as well.

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Peace…An Important Element to Your Well-being

There are many things that contribute to our well-being and one of them that I would like to discuss in this post is peace.

Why is peace such an important element to one’s well-being? Because without peace you don’t have clarity. Without clarity, you can’t make wise choices. Without wise choices, you pay a very high price that spills over every other area of your life. Peace is what keeps you centered. Peace is what creates harmony within you and that harmony that you feel is what helps keep you centered.

Think about this for a moment, when you don’t feel peace whether that be outer peace or inner peace, you feel as if you lose your inner balance. Things irritate you easily. You can’t seem to make the right choices. You feel scattered, perhaps even spacey depending on how you are emotionally and mentally. It is these feelings of being scattered or spacey that clouds you from taking appropriate and positive actions. On the other hand, when you feel peace, you get centered. There is an inner balance within you that even when there seems to be chaos around you, you seem to still get it together. Peace is one of the elements that helps with this.

If peace is that important then how can one reach this level of peace? You reach this level of peace by coming into terms with things and people. What I mean with what I just wrote is that you reach a level of acceptance of things not because you necessarily agree with what is going on but because things are the way they are at the moment and because resistance can only make things worse. When we don’t come to terms with how things are, we become angry, bitter or even sad. These emotions cloud us from enjoying the present moment. There are times that you even have to accept certain relationships that you have with others. I don’t believe we are all meant to mesh with everyone and that’s ok. There are certain relationships that just are what they are and so for your well-being, it is best to accept and let go.

My intention is not to get in any shape or form religious with what I’m about to write but I believe that believing in something higher than you, whatever that may be, helps a lot. Faith indeed moves mountains and I think that without faith and the belief in something higher, we lose hope and losing hope puts you in a negative state which can attract more negative things.

Different things work for different people because we are all unique. For this reason what can help you feel peace may be different from what I have discussed on this post, depending on the situation you may be in and the kind of person you are, so find what works for you when it comes to you having peace. This is another building block to your well-being.

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It’s a Must…

Every year we all make new year resolutions. It’s very important to make new year resolutions because they motivate us to get going and to do what we must do to achieve our goals. However, there are certain goals that many of us have in mind to do and yet many seem to either “fail” or give up. I write “fail” in quotation marks because you don’t actually fail, you just learn. Many have the goal of losing weight, of achieving this or that but I would like to write this in today’s post…anything that has to do with your health and well-being then it’s a must.

That’s a phrase I encourage you to use this year. It’s a must to lose weight if your weight is affecting your health. The reason why I write “if it’s affecting your health” is because being “skinny” or fit isn’t the only form of beauty. There are those who have more meat on them and they too are so beautiful in their own way. I believe in weight loss when losing weight will mean better health, not for superficial reasons.

It’s a must to nurture your spirit so if you feel the desire to do this or that then do it. It is a must because having a healthy spirit means a healthy person overall. Everything that we feel, think and do affects EVERY area of our life.

It’s a must to cultivate love. Love for yourself, love for others and if you’re married or have a companion, it is a must both for that person and yourself to cultivate that love in every way.

I can go on and on with this topic on today’s post but the purpose is not to write a long post but to encourage you that instead of making things a goal you make it a must. Musts tend to get accomplished as opposed to wants or wishing.

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The Necessity of Having Passion in Life

Passion is a word that is most used in regards to love or lust. However, did you know that in order to have a life full of meaning and purpose then passion is a must? This is what today’s post is about.

Passion is so necessary when it comes to life because passion is what can provide you with the fuel that you need in order to get things done. We are emotional beings and as emotional beings we are driven by our emotions. Having passion for something is what lights you up and gets you moving. Passion is what can provide you with the motivation that you need in order to accomplish a goal. Passion is the feeling behind the purpose.

Without passion, it almost feels as if you have to drag yourself to do things. Things start to feel either bland or heavy and this is not how life is meant to be lived. Without passion, life can feel without much purpose. This is because there isn’t something that is lighting up your soul which is your true essence. Whatever it is that can light up your soul may be different from others around you and that is ok. You were not designed to be like others. You were designed to be you. When you have no passion in life, I believe this is an indicator that you are out of alignment with who you truly are and this is certainly one of the consequences of not being in alignment. Without passion, I believe you can’t be your best you for others because you can only offer your best to others when you are passionate about your life and who you are.

If you don’t have any passion already I recommend you start having passion for life. Life is full of so many things and you are full of so many things as well. There are many qualities to you that make you unique and special. There are times when there are things about us that we may be unaware, jewels that we possess that are hidden within us and it is up to us to start digging for them. I believe everyone has it in them to be passionate about their life, it’s just a matter of figuring out what that is that will take them to that level in their life.

Passion is a must if you want to have a life full of happiness, growth and health. It helps balance your life and this is so necessary for your well-being. I recommend that you start figuring out now what are you passionate about and start living your living according to your passions. This will add tremendous health and happiness into your life.

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