The Different Ways of Being Healthy

I think we all know it’s important to be physically healthy. This is the most visible part of us, making it obvious the kind of lifestyle we have. For as much as taking care of our physical body is important, there are other ways to be healthy that are equally important if not even more since when these parts of us are not healthy, the physical body will suffer as well. It is important to be healthy mentally and emotionally and this is what this post will be about.

First I would like to discuss how can you know when you are not healthy mentally and emotionally. One of the most simple ways is by looking around you. Does your life reflect what you deserve? What kind of relationships do you have with others? What kind of relationship do you have with yourself? Do you have any kind of destructive, unhealthy relationship in your life? How are you feeling most of the time? All these questions are indicators as to how is your mental and emotional state.

In other words, if you block out your own happiness, if you are living in fear, if you are being pessimistic, if you push away good things or people, if you live in the past and it is a hurtful past, if you allow negativity, then you are unhealthy mentally and emotionally.

What many may not realize is that for as much as one may want to put a band-aid on a huge wound or ignore the real problems in their life, one can NEVER reach full happiness. Full happiness comes from dealing with your issues when your issues are preventing good in your life. Yes, it is hard to open that luggage and go through everything and throw away what is not serving you but that’s when you have to ask yourself if it’s serving you to carry such a heavy luggage to begin with.

What does it mean to be healthy mentally and emotionally? It means to feel good about yourself and your life, to accept abundance, to accept and let in happiness, to know you are deserving, to know that you deserve to be loved right by others, to allow people who help you grow and who truly love you. It is mentally having the capacity to do away with things, situations and people who don’t serve you. It is being able to not stress what doesn’t matter. It is being able to focus more on the positive than the negative. It is doing whatever possible to develop mental and emotional agility in order to bounce right back from any disappointment. Being emotionally healthy is being able to love yourself even when others may not love you, forgiving yourself for your own mistakes and being able to accept yourself even when others may not accept you. It is you loving yourself more than anyone else. This act of love is a must since it is this kind of love that will prevent you from allowing situations, things or people who don’t make you feel good.

Being physically healthy indeed is very important but one can not forget how extremely important it is to be healthy also mentally and emotionally. When mentally and emotionally you are not right, there is no way to be right physically as well since all three parts are connected. If you feel your life isn’t the way you want it to be, I encourage you to look into these two parts of you and if you need intervention, by all means go see a psychologist or therapist. This is an investment that you are making in yourself and you are worth the investment. Your mind and emotions are assets to be taking care of, so make sure you do what you can to have these parts of you healthy.

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“It Will All Somehow Get Done”

These past few weeks have been extremely stressful. The last time I’ve been so stressed was when my dad was very ill but this stress, which was brought upon goals that I had set for myself, was certainly not a healthy one. It brought acne to my face, so much that I haven’t seen in a long time, and a body breakdown last week Friday which led to me being in bed all day. I constantly heard a low voice telling me “It will all somehow get done” and had I listened to this inner voice, I don’t think I would have reached that point of stress. It is this that I would like to encourage you in today’s post….no matter what it is that you are trying to accomplish or need to finish doing…it will all somehow get done.

It will all somehow get done, therefore, there is no point in stressing. For what? To stress your body unnecessarily? Raise your blood pressure unnecessarily? Get yourself all out of whack mentally? It doesn’t matter how many goals you have, nothing is more precious than your body so it is a must to relax in the thought that everything will resolve itself.

It will all somehow get done, therefore there is no point in worrying. Worrying is so energy consuming to the point that it paralyzes you. It is actually a low energy vibration so this certainly won’t get you to where you want to go. Worrying robs you of mental and emotional agility, which you need when you have a lot going on.

It will all somehow get done…if you always keep this phrase in your mind, this will help you decrease any negative emotion you may feel due to the overwhelming pressures you may have. As long as you focus on the end result, whatever it is that you want to do, you will see the results of your labor.

It will somehow get done….a powerful phrase, believe it or not, and a way to train your mind and body to not stress itself because of life’s pressure. You were not meant to be stressed to the point of being sick. Enjoy everything you have to do, even the things that are not so pleasant- they are all part of the journey of growing into the person that you are meant to be.

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The Importance of Feeling Safe When It Comes to Your Well-Being

Safety is something that one may think of when it comes to being physically safe as in being away from anything that can harm them. However, that is not the only kind of safety. There is a kind of safety that perhaps many may not mention and it is equally important when it comes to your well-being and that is feeling safe.

What feeling safe refers to is the knowing that you can be yourself freely, the knowing that you can express yourself freely without feeling judged, threatened or reprimanded, being able to have your own thoughts without any fear and knowing that you can have your own opinions. It is a must to feel safe at home, at work, in your relationships and with yourself believe it or not.

With yourself you must feel safe because you must feel secure within you that you ARE entitled to your own feelings, your own thoughts, your own way of being no matter how different it may be from others. When you don’t allow yourself to feel, think and be who you are, believe it or not, you are not making yourself feel safe. Have that assurance that you are entitled to be who you are and to think and feel how you want to think and feel.

You must feel safe at home. You must feel safe to express your concerns to your loved ones, be your real self around them and share your thoughts and feelings. If for whatever reason you feel you need to somewhat hide your real self, you can’t share your feelings because of fear of being criticized, etc. something is seriously wrong. This has to change for the good of everyone.

You must feel safe at work. I believe that an environment where you feel you can’t be yourself, you can’t thrive. I want to clarify, if your behavior at work is disruptive, not productive and one of hostility, then no, there is something wrong with you and not your work environment and in no way should any employer tolerate that. This is not what I mean when I say to be yourself. Yourself should be one of positive energy, of encouragement but when you notice that your own work environment doesn’t encourage that, then it won’t work. Your job is where you spend most of your day, therefore it must be an environment where you feel safe.

It is a must, of course, to feel safe in your relationships. Relationships are about growth, trust, communication and knowing you can be yourself. Now, I must write and I have noticed that it’s not with everyone that you can be your 100%. You will notice that there will be those who you can be 80% with, others perhaps 75%, some 90% and only a select few 100%. With any close interaction that you have with someone, you must feel safe no matter what percentage of yourself you are. If not, it can’t work.

Feeling safe is just as important as being safe, “being safe” as in being physically away from harm and danger. Feeling safe helps form a glue in relationships and at home with your loved ones, it makes going to work so pleasant and it helps you feel more confident about yourself. Being aware of this is a must when it comes to your well-being.

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How To Get Energy When You Feel Emotionally Exhausted

There are times in your life when you feel physically exhausted but not because you have worked too hard or because you haven’t slept well, but because perhaps you are going through some either inner conflict or you are going through a rough time in your life that is robbing your energy emotionally. I think this kind of exhaustion is one of the worst kinds because if you are not careful, you can slip down and maybe even fall into depression. When feeling this way, how can you find the energy to keep going?

First thing I believe is to acknowledge what you are feeling. I believe that denying what you are feeling is not helpful nor conducive to truly moving forward. By denying what you are feeling it’s like trying to make believe that the wound that you have isn’t even there yet it is bleeding and needs your attention.

Try to understand where this feeling is coming from. Ask yourself what can you learn from what you are feeling. I believe there is always something to learn from everything whether it is good or bad. Every experience is a chance to become a better person and understanding where your hurt is coming from can provide important insight to you that can open up the opportunity for healing. The way to heal something is by understanding what is causing the pain/hurt.

Take things day by day, minute by minute. Just try to take one step at a time, put one foot in front of the other.

As hard as it may be to find the positive in even the most negative moments of life, it is a must to find the positive in everything. What focusing on the negative does is that it magnifies the bad things which then affects your emotions which will then affect your energy levels. Think about this, anything you dread to do, anything you don’t feel excited about doing will deplete your energy. By focusing on the positive, you are shifting your mindset which will then shift your energy- energy that you need to keep going even when the going gets tough.

It would be wonderful if there was an easy answer, a magic pill that would give us all the emotional energy we need when the going gets tough. The truth is that there is no such thing but there is one person who has the capacity to give you that emotional energy you need and that is YOU. With your acceptance of your feelings, with your own compassion towards yourself, with you doing your best to heal your wounds and see the positive in everything, you have the power to get the emotional energy that you need. I’ve said and written over and over again, well-being is something to work on everyday. It is something that you cultivate, nurture and create. It is YOU who have this power.

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Laziness…The Killer of a Great Life…

We have a criminal in town and it doesn’t discriminate and it can attack anyone at any moment in life. Yes, it is a criminal because it kills your chances to a great life, it kills your dreams and steals your motivation in life. This criminal doesn’t care if you are a male or female, what your ethnicity is nor how old you are. Yes, I dare to say it, that criminal is called laziness!

“Stop being so dramatic Aura!” you’re probably saying to yourself. No, this is not being dramatic because laziness is a big criminal if you allow it to creep into your life. There are many who would love a great life but yet allow themselves to be lazy to do what it takes to have that life they want.

Laziness can attack at any moment in time. Many times we are not so aware of it, other times we are. One sure way you can know whether or not laziness is attacking you is that you start to make excuses as to why you can’t do this nor have that. When I write “excuses”, I’m not referring to excuses that are legitimate like when one has real problems going on in their life. I think you know very well the kind of excuses I mean because deep down inside you know that those excuses are just a way of you convincing yourself that you can’t do this or have that.

Another way to know when laziness is attacking you is by you knowing that you have to get something done yet you don’t feel like doing it. When you don’t feel like doing something, you will be tempted to come up with excuses to justify why you can’t do something. One thing to keep in mind is that anything that you want to accomplish in life you won’t always feel like doing but you do it anyway because you know you have the bigger picture in mind.

If you say you want something but yet you are not doing anything to get what you want, yup, that’s laziness attacking you, trying to kill your dreams. Wanting something is not enough for you to have what you want. You have to take action. You have to be doing something every single day in order to get closer to whatever it is that you want. That is the hardest part. Wanting is easy, the secret is in the doing and when you start viewing the doing part as something hard or impossible, you are allowing laziness to take over by once again, justifying why you can’t do something.

My hope with this post is to make you aware of ways in which you may be allowing laziness to kill your chance of having the life that you want. If you start paying attention to these signs that I just wrote, you will know that laziness is trying to take over and then be able to stop this from creeping into your life.

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Is There Anything That Is Draining You?

I find that sometimes one of the reasons why one may feel unmotivated or exhausted or not have the discipline to do the things that they want to do is because there is something that is draining them. When this is the case, it seems and feels as if there is nothing that can cheer you up, nothing that can motivate you and it may feel like no amount of sleep gives you the energy you need for the day. If this is the case, it is necessary to figure out what is it that is draining you.

There are several things that can drain a person and it is important to pinpoint which one it is. There are some things that it is inevitable not to feel drained like when a loved one is sick but even so, in times like this it is still very important to take care of yourself. When this happens, it takes very little to lose your balance and you will feel at times as if you have to play catch up. Even in times of distress, it is important to do your best to eat right. Not just eat but eat right. What you eat is what will sustain you. You also have to do your best to do things that relax you. I know for personal experience that this is a challenge but finding a way to distract yourself, even if it is for 30 minutes, will help minimize the amount of stress your body is going through. You also need to make sure you are getting your sleep. Sleep is so essential and you will most definitely need it when having to make tough decisions. Sleep is one of those things that I would have to discuss on another post but it is so necessary for your overall health.

There are people who can actually drain your energy. You will know when this is the case based on how you feel after either talking to them or being around them. They either constantly talk about things that are so plain depressing or their ways just suck the life out of you or they put you down. You don’t need that! When this is the case, the first step is recognizing this, then understand what it is that makes it draining for you so you know what you don’t need from others and either minimize your contact with them or just stay away from them completely. Life is too beautiful for you to be around those that don’t make you feel good.

Sometimes it is work that can drain you. In this case you have several options. If you really can’t stand the job, start looking for another one. Work is where you spend most of your time during the day and so you can not afford to feel so miserable most of the time. This is so damaging to your overall well-being. If for whatever reason you are unable to change jobs, do your best to change your perspective of it. Sometimes a change of mindset is what we need in order to feel differently about this.

The list can go on and on of the things that can drain you. It is important that you learn to identify what it is that makes you feel this way and do something about it. Your well-being depends on it.

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